12/10/2025
In Family Constellation work, we learn something profound:
A child’s soul needs permission to love both parents — even when one parent is aggressive, wounded, addicted, or emotionally unstable.
This is not the same as allowing unsafe behavior.
It’s not about ignoring boundaries or excusing harm.
It’s about healing the child’s inner world, because:
•A child is both parents.
•When they reject one parent, they unconsciously reject a part of themselves.
• That rejected part becomes a shadow that shows up later as anxiety, rage, addiction, or relationship chaos.
Family Constellation teaches that the parent who drinks, yells, or collapses emotionally is not “the enemy.”
They are carrying their own unresolved fate — their own trauma, their own generational entanglements.
When we help the child make space for both parents in their heart, something shifts in the family soul:
• The aggression hologram softens.
• The addiction hologram loses power.
• The child’s system stops fighting itself.
• Peace begins to return to the lineage.
You can enforce boundaries while still honoring the deeper truth:
Your child needs to love where they come from.
And when that love is allowed — cleanly, safely, with clarity — the entire family constellation realigns.