OK Parents

06/18/2025

06/12/2025

Affirmations for Parents:

By God’s grace I have the ability to guide my children with Godly wisdom. I have access to that ability by seeking God’s wisdom concerning a matter. God hears me when I pray and ask Him for help regarding my family and the raising of my children.

God is not the author of confusion. I will not walk in confusion of a moment but in the awareness that I have access to God’s divine wisdom and assistance as needed, when needed in the all areas of need in my life especially areas of parenting. There is no weapon formed against me or my children that shall prosper and I will stand up confidently against the conflicting situation until then battle is won and the matter has been resolved by God’s standard in the matter. There is no wisdom, there is no counsel against the Lord that shall be victorious. God’s grace is more than enough and I can boldly come before His thrown of grace to help in my time of need. Victory is more than clarity of a presenting problem and more than mastery of a skill. God gives exceedingly abundantly above all that I can ask or think. My children grown in grace daily even as I grow in grace daily. My effectual and fervent prayers over my children avail much. There is nothing too hard for God. By God’s grace, Mercy and sacrifice through Jesus Christ me and my house have privilege of divine salvation, assistance that will not and cannot by denied by the tongue of the wicked. God puts the enemy and the avenger under our feet and we walk in the light of Christ bringing love, peace, joy, reconciliation and restoration to others because of God’s inward work in us. The counsel of the wicked and pessimistic person will not stand as the final judgment in the lives of me and my household. Our times are in God’s hands and His counsel aligns with His plans for us that is good and not evil to give us an expected end. We flow in abundance and prosperity of heart, mind and soul. Creativity and witty inventions flow through us and healing and resolution commonly occur as a testament to God’s grace of our lives…His invitation for others to walk in the revelation of God in their lives… For God gives us hope and a future with an expected end. The power of God’s involvement is not merely imagination. It is the confirmation of events actively working through and by the power of the Holy Spirit to intervene against the abused that have tried to stand against God because of the pain they have interpreted as God’s actions towards them. I as a Christian parent call them out of the darkness and the deceptions of the enemy to Christ’s marvelous light. I speak healing to their soul and peace to their mind in Jesus name.

God works with me concerning the care and growth of my child’s learning.

I listen to hear God’s voice in the matter, not just the impression of the situation. The impression makes me aware of how or what I express as a need to God. It is not the final say in a matter.

-To be continued

01/17/2025

Things to help bring out the emotional intelligence in your child…

1. Use silence strategically
2. Name emotions early
3. Apologize. If you misunderstand… It shows respect and builds confidence. And it models that you don’t always have to be right to be loved and accepted. You can admit a fault and grow from a place that teaches mercy and acceptance instead of punishment and harsh self criticism.
4. Don’t force please or thank you… model it.
5. Pay attention to the little concerns. Be supportive and address them.
6. Let your child make decisions in age appropriate context. Helps them build confidence in their ability to navigate situations.
7. Let your child get bored… fosters creativity to not always be entertained and self regulation.

Spend time modeling healthy interactions in conversation and play.

03/23/2024

Connections. Finding the Creative You and Relationships at the Same Time.

What do healthy connections look like?

How can you tell the difference between what is healthy and safe versus what is manipulative with ill intentions?

Answer: boundaries. The ability to set them, the ability to honor them, the ability to adjust them to the situation, and being comfortable with understanding your limits as well as respecting the limits of others.

Trust and comfort with someone comes through a series of interactions that confirm aligned values that demonstrate consistent validations of values that you mutually align with.

Don’t be afraid to dream, to step out faith, to make the effort to make new connections… you may find that people are not as “psycho” movie based as you think. Don’t be scared into doing nothing because you will not allow your mind to think on Godly principles that bring out your gifts instead of reinforcing their dormancy.

This is something we encourage in our children but also remember that the lessons we teach must also be the lessons that we practice. Be blessed. C

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Calvin Smith, MA, LPC
Ordained Christian Counselor

01/15/2024

Elijah Helps a Widow:

From 1 Kings 17:8-16