
08/17/2025
"Spoiling the Nest". Senior year can feel like both a celebration and a collision course at the same time. Teens are on the edge of freedom. They are focused on college, careers, or other adventures, and they can’t wait to turn 18! Parents are holding on tight. There are many important decisions to make and work to do towards those decisions, that parents can become more overbearing and more controlling and critical than normal. That push-and-pull between the teens need for individuation and the parent’s need for control often sparks what therapists call “soiling” or “spoiling the nest.” It’s when home life gets tense just before a big launch. This post unpacks what’s happening, what signs to expect, and, most importantly, how to prevent disconnection so both parents and teens can enter the next chapter feeling close, not combative.
https://www.oldbridgemarriageandfamilytherapy.com/2025/08/17/when-seniors-spoil-the-nest-how-to-navigate-the-last-year-at-home-without-losing-connection/