12/18/2025
This dance was originally shot in summer of 2023 to Ciara’s song 1,2 Step. Unfortunately, the song rights were removed from Instagram, so I recently discovered my original reel with me dancing in silence. 😮
This time, I chose Control by Janet Jackson, since many of the moves were inspired by the choreographer Paula Abdul in her music video. In wild time traveller style, dancing my old school roots with mid 80’s moves from High School, the new choice works. 💃🏻
Janet co-wrote this at 19 marking her breakout as an independent artist and moving out from her famous family’s shadow. 💥
What is healthy control? Healthy boundaries. Healthy differentiation or individuation to step us towards agency, sovereignty, and healthy autonomy. 🚧
From the moment we’re born we slowly individuate. The first big pulse of autonomy is at age 2, but there are key moments of differentiation all along our life. In a healthy family and cultural dynamic, we’re encouraged to individuate. 🔥
Yet, in a culture where codependency is ubiquitous, many of us are not supported in our natural climb to self-agency. ✨
To be authentic, we’re forced to take a stand, even when it’s uncomfortable. To choose bravely what feels best, even when others disagree. We’re faced with taking control of our lives through self-aligned choices, even when others are displeased.⚡️
Oddly enough, our best choices are discovered only when we surrender to our truth and gut knowing. And even if others are displeased with them, it’s a win-win in the long run. ✨
When you care for you, you ultimately care for everyone. 🫂
So, when my dance interrupts the hypnosis of your scroll, drop the game for a while and surrender to YOU. 🌊
Instead of waiting for the universe to strong-arm you to surrender, why not do it on purpose? 🤷🏻♀️
Then make that brave choice! 🫶🏼
The dance of surrender and control is necessary for the blossoming of love, abundance, and success you desire as you become more you. 💃🏾
Isn’t it funny that “control” and “surrender” are actually besties? 💃🏻💃🏼💃🏾💃🏽
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