01/26/2026
When we feel disconnected, our primal question is activated asking: Am I safe, secure, loved, wanted, successful, or good enough. When activated we may notice patterns of fixing, overdrive, shutting down, numbing out, snapping blaming, getting defensive, people pleasing, or over apologizing.
But this aren’t character flaws, they are forms of protection. These are learned responses from childhood, from moments when we didn’t feel safe, seen, or secure.
This small practice of pause, naming, and asking isn’t about forcing calm. It’s about creating a little space between the trigger and the spiral. Because healing often looks like this: learning to meet the moment with more gentleness and more choice.”