Valerie Allen Counseling

03/28/2025

Finally, a new blog post! Twelve concepts to help a betrayed partner understand the behavior of an unfaithful partner.

After the discovery of infidelity, the most common question from the betrayed partner is "How Could You?" Here, I discuss 12 concepts to help explain the behavior of an unfaithful partner.

01/20/2024

Hang in there, it's more than half way over!

12/10/2023

"I learned that I don't need to find a spiritual path. My life is my spiritual path. The next moment is my teacher. Everything that unfolds in my life is a pathway of perpetual becoming. I've discovered that the secret is to sit at the feet of my own life and be taught by it. Every experience, event, circumstance, happening, and situation in life can be a pathway of liberation, including moments of hardship, adversity and suffering.

The next moment is an experience of ultimate reality. The next moment is an invitation to be liberated. The next moment is an opportunity to live life more deeply. The next moment is an occasion for compassion. Whatever arises next, is my spiritual path.
Every experience, event, circumstance, happening, and situation in your life can be a pathway of liberation, including moments of hardship, adversity and suffering."

- Jim Palmer

03/17/2023

THIS!!! Every freaking day!

Creating an atmosphere of appreciation in your relationship is essential.

Two words, eight letters.

03/04/2023

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02/10/2022

It was so fun to join my friend Annie Kendig on her podcast All My Friends Are Therapists where she let me talk about my passion for working with couples who are dealing with the fallout from infidelity.

Have a listen...

We have a new episode being released today! Today I sit down with Valerie Allen who specializes in Couples Counseling especially infidelity. Enjoy! Resources mentioned in the podcast are listed bel…

11/26/2021

When a relationship is in conflict, we often focus on OUR needs that aren't being met. The author of this article calls this "toddler brain" and lays out a plan for both partners to work together to make each other feel loved and valued.

https://www.facebook.com/15687708844/posts/10158758822283845/

It’s not “meet my needs.”

09/22/2021

Change the way you talk to yourself.

08/11/2021

There are some great points made in this video. First, I love what Esther Perel has to say about the "legacy" of the affair in your marriage. I also like what she has to say about the anger from the betrayed spouse.

05/10/2021

I was honored to speak at the PMDD Healing Summit in April! The positive energy that this event brought to the healing paths of women all over the world just blew me away!

Here is the great news: The Facebook group created for the summit is going to stay active and will include all of the expert interviews with knowledge about so many issues related to PMDD:

How to advocate for yourself with your doctor
How trauma is related to PMDD
How to honor your inner child during bouts of PMDD
How to communicate in your relationship about PMDD
How to improve gut health
Nutrition and supplements to reduce symptoms
Various therapies to heal PMDD

That list only scratches the surface! These women are amazing!

Here is the page where this healing revolution is in full bloom:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/pmddhealingsummit/

05/06/2021

In additon to speaking at the PMDD Healing Summit, I offered a Meditation Training Workshop.

If you've been curious about meditation, or have tried but couldn't get it, watch this for some basic tips for beginners! ❤️

One more thing: A shout out to Charisma Whitefeather from SacredCycleMysterySchool.com! I'm blown away by this woman's energy, creativity, and the love with which she put together this *FIRST EVER* PMDD Healing Summit!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/pmddhealingsummit/

05/03/2021

Too many couples don't TALK about s*x! This leads to assumptions, misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and resentment. This article offers a plan for how to TALK to your partner about your s*xual relationship.

S*xual well-being is achieved together.