
09/12/2025
If you think someone might be considering su***de, ask them. While it may feel counterintuitive or even uncomfortable, research shows that asking others about su***de reduces su***de risk. Try questions like:
• “Seems like something is up, wanna talk about it?”
• “I noticed you have been more withdrawn, are you doing okay?”
• “Have you had thoughts of su***de?”
• “Are you considering ending your life?”
“Asking the question does not increase the chances of someone harming themselves, it does the opposite,” said Matt Steinkamp, director of the Intermountain Employee Assistance Program (IEAP). “Someone asking the question provides the opportunity for the person to answer it. People feeling this way often feel shame or guilt for doing so or assume that no one cares or would care if they followed through with su***de. Asking the question opens up the opportunity to talk about how they are feeling. Asking the question shows you care and want to help. It can take the focus off the hopelessness the person is feeling and begin to focus on getting the support they need.”
Here’s a course with tools and resources you can use to help someone experiencing thoughts of su***de: https://liveonutah.org/