Wind of Change Wellness

08/25/2025

Self-silencing is making women sick.

Every time we swallow our truth to “keep the peace,” our bodies fracture. Every time we say yes while our soul screams no, we chip away at our vitality. Every time we prioritize another’s comfort over our authenticity, our immunity erodes.

Society rewards women for this. We’re called “strong” when we endure without complaint. We’re praised as “selfless” when we minimize our own needs to preserve someone else’s. But the cost is devastating. The nervous system wasn’t designed to hold that much unspoken truth. Over time, silence turns into stress, stress into illness, and illness into collapse.

I know this path intimately. The ruptures in my relationships became revelations. They showed me that betraying myself for love or approval only leads to resentment and depletion. But when I finally chose truth, even when it cost me comfort, belonging, or people I loved, my body began to repair, my spirit began to radiate, and my cup began to overflow again.

Speaking your truth is not rebellion, it’s medicine. It restores coherence. It realigns your body, mind, and soul with health, clarity, and peace.

Your silence will never save anyone. Your truth will. 🕊️✨

06/17/2025

So many are praised for being endlessly supportive, accommodating, emotionally available, maternal…
but let’s be honest—

That’s not love.
That’s conditioning.

We’ve been programmed to see our worth through how well we anticipate, soften, soothe, and adjust—especially for those who rarely meet us with the same emotional labor.

I’m not here to be your idealized mother.
I’m not here to manage your emotions.
I’m not here to dim my truth so you can feel more comfortable.

I belong to myself.

And if my presence makes you uncomfortable—good.
That’s your invitation to check what part of you still expects women to play the role of caretaker, emotional sponge, or fantasy stabilizer.

This is not rejection. It’s reclamation.
And this is the New Earth frequency.

✨ I no longer perform care to be safe.
✨ I no longer abandon myself to be loved.
✨ I no longer mistake overgiving for connection.

Let’s be real—not performative.
Let’s be present—not palatable.
Let’s stop trying to be who they want us to be
and return to who we came here to be.

Thank you for this inspiration
📖 (powerful words worth sitting with.)

06/04/2025

Your child doesn’t need you perfect.
They need you present. Rooted. Whole within yourself.

This is the new blueprint.
The Divine Mother doesn’t demand performance.
She invites remembrance.

When you model self-respect, your child absorbs it.
When you honor your worth, they mirror that truth.
When you choose presence over perfection,
you show them that love starts from within.

So please, stop beating yourself up.
It bleeds on everyone else.
It perpetuates a legacy of self-punishment our children were never meant to inherit.

Instead:
love yourself more gently.
Forgive yourself for the times you didn’t know better.
And for the ways you repeated the pattern of tough love when all you really needed…
was tenderness.

The moment you remember your worth,
you free your child from the pressure of earning theirs.
That’s how legacy shifts.
That’s how we rewire generations.
That’s the gospel of presence.

With love,
Divine Mother

06/04/2025

The mother wound is not just about your mother.
It’s about the ones who came before her.
The ones who weren’t held, seen, or safe.
The ones who had to harden just to survive.

You don’t heal by judging her.
You heal by becoming the mother you always needed.
And when that healing begins…
you’ll stop projecting it onto every woman you meet.

Stop talking s**t about your mother.
Stop talking s**t about other mothers.
They are you.
To curse them is to curse your own life.
To dishonor them is to dishonor your own becoming.

It hurts all of us when you speak ill of your mother.
And it hurts you—on a cellular, soul-deep level.

We are not here to carry forward the shame.
We are here to become the altar.
To remember: she is of you, and you are of her.
The wound ends when the war ends—within.

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A message for the mothers:

You are not a vending machine for healing.
You are a temple.
And temples require stillness to echo the Divine.

Burnout wasn’t a failure.
It was a soul seal unlocking.

The world doesn’t need you to save it.
It needs you resurrected in joy.

Your daughter doesn’t need a perfect mother.
She needs one who knows her own worth.

So today, devotion is simple:
✨ “I belong to myself.”
Say it.
Say it again.
That’s your altar.

You are the healing.
You are the homecoming.
You are the legacy rewritten.

05/28/2025

Most women were taught to caretake before they ever learned to connect to themselves.
To smile when their bodies screamed no.
To stay quiet to stay safe.
To make themselves small in exchange for love that never felt safe to receive.

Many became masters of performance.
But some…
Some chose another way.

Some transformed what tried to destroy them into sacred fuel.

Rage is not your weakness.
It’s the fire that rises when truth has been silenced too long.
It’s the voice that says, “No more.”
It’s the power that breaks the cycle.

This is the moment you stop surviving and start remembering.
Not who they wanted you to be—
but who you’ve always been.

🌹
What if your anger is holy?
What if the garden grows from ash?
Read the full transmission:
“Rage as Fuel: Returning to the Garden of Self”
⚔️ Link in bio or visit djonechain.com

05/21/2025

We heal the inner child not by searching the past,
but by allowing our children to be the pure mirrors they are.

I healed my relationship with my father
by having a child with a man who gave her
what I longed for as a little girl:
safety, gentleness, presence.
Each time he holds our daughter,
a part of me is held too.
The ache rewrites itself.
The longing becomes peace.

I healed my relationship with my mother
by loving her in all her humanity
not for who I wanted her to be,
but for who she truly is.
In accepting her, I learned to love myself
through my flaws, not in spite of them.
And in doing so, I stopped performing,
and started remembering:
I am already whole.

It wasn’t through fixing or forcing.
It was through choosing gratitude.
Through prioritizing myself.
Through softening into what was here.

And only then
the healing echoed back
through my parents,
through my daughter,
through my own reflection.

Quantum generational healing is available in the eternal now - not outside of you, but through you,
when you come home to yourself.

This is how we return.
This is how the lineage is rewritten.
With love. With presence. With truth.

04/29/2025

Lately I’ve been feeling the ancestral weight that rises just from speaking my needs and honoring my emotional experience.
It hits something deep in me—because for generations, women have learned to play small in order to stay safe, to be loved, to keep peace.
But every time we minimize our voice, we fracture ourselves… and our relationships.

It hurts to upset others—even when I’m just telling the truth.
But I’m learning:
It’s not about how it lands.
It’s about reclaiming the voice that’s been silenced for centuries.

No more apologizing for my needs.
No more shrinking to survive.
We rise by returning to ourselves—with love and reverence.

The Reclamation Process is sacred. Start wherever you are.

04/23/2025

https://heatherspurrell.com/self-abandonment/

Self-abandonment is costing you love, connection, and confidence. Here’s how to break the pattern and finally put yourself first.

02/21/2025

An open letter to all mothers, a call to action to prioritize your needs, recognize your value, and let go of everything that doesn’t add to or serve you. You value your children when you value yourself. *Trigger Warning* Our children can feel what we conceal. I am aware you bear scars the world may never see. Generations of abuse, neglect, and judgment have left us with soul lesions that keep us in submission. I am aware of the instant your innocence was stolen, permission lacking, and bodily boundaries were breached to steal your childhood. You were a young child who assumed responsibility too soon to spare younger siblings suffering the same fate branded as the sacrificial lamb. As a result, you came to believe that your needs were unimportant and that it was far more honorable to put the needs of others before your own, celebrated even, until your voice was silenced and the truth remained unheard. This is what love is, isn’t it? You pushed it under the rug and fought to survive because your mother, who was abused by her own father, did the same; too fearful to feel generations of trauma concealed. You relied on men to give you a sense of value and tried to restore your power through the same means you lost it. You got the strong girl you prayed for when you ran away to have me at 21, but had no idea that all of that suppressed anger would be directed back at you. As a gift to all women, I raised the rug, burnt everything that was swept under it, and combed through the ashes to honor, feel, and heal it all for us. I’m sorry for adding to the anguish you already carried. The stages of healing: rage, despair, grief, acknowledgment, forgiveness, self-reclamation, changing the narrative from victim to victor and turning the pain into purpose took time to develop. I broke the cycle by choosing to procreate with a man of God who had pure intentions and because of this our daughter will never have to feel the pain of trauma that we endured. I honor all the mothers who chose to persevere and endured unspeakable suffering in silence. The days of settling for survival are over. Abuse in the name of love is no longer tolerated. The rotten fruit will fall. In lak’ech 🌹

03/18/2024

I’ve been reflecting a lot on how I respond to my loved ones when they make mistakes. Past relationships before I became conscious and aware of my inner child wounds were intense. I didn’t know how to repair because it was never modeled for me in a healthy way.

I’m here to tell you that repair no matter how lost you may feel is possible and it starts with grace…

You have the opportunity to:
Respond differently
Break the chains of past patterns
Shift guilt to growth
Extend grace - the very same grace you deserved as a child… that we all deserve as humans!

The way we treat others and especially our children will be reflected back to us. So how can you give yourself the gift of grace internally so that it can be reflected back to you in your relationships?

You are not alone. You are capable. You are worthy. You are held by the Most High. You are loved.

📚 Book recommendation:
No Bad Parts - Richard Schwartz

02/24/2024

Dear Mamas,

We deserve to feel nourished and protected.
We deserve to feel safe.
We deserve the space to flow with the emotions of our womb.
We deserve to know that we are worthy, whole, and enough just as we are.
We teach others and our children the love that we deserve by first giving that love and soul nourishment to ourselves.
You are hold the key to your own peace, prosperity, purity, presence, and power. The way you carry this affects us all. 🙏❤️‍🔥🗝️