Colette J. Fehr, LMHC, LMFT, NCC

09/04/2025

Being criticized in front of a team feels like public humiliation. When this happens, it's important to address it directly, calmly, and diplomatically. Privately communicate the desire for feedback in private. If the behavior continues, document it and bring it to HR.

Workplace relationships dominate much of our time and headspace and desevre our attention too!

08/19/2025

Letting go can be tough, especially when hovering feels like the only option. It's about finding that balance. Maybe we've all been there? Time for an adjustment.

08/15/2025

Gray divorce is on the rise, and it looks different than divorces at 30. Is it better because of more resources? Or worse, because retirement savings are on the line? Some feel relieved, others face resentment.

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10/21/2024

Don't miss our new episode this Wednesday with acclaimed author and journalist, Melissa Petro, as we talk about overcoming shame. Check out her recent feature article in Time Magazine https://time.com/7028027/women-shame-healing-essay/ She is a total badass!

10/07/2024

Thrilled to be featured in the Toronto Sun discussing The Golden Bachelorette and the perks of dating later in life! 🌟🗞️☀️

I'm honored to share my insights on navigating the world of dating as a mature individual and breaking societal expectations. Finding love has no age limit, and it's never too late to create meaningful connections. 💞

In the article, I emphasize the importance of self-awareness, communication, and embracing new experiences when seeking a romantic partner. We can all learn valuable lessons from “The Golden Bachelorette” (which is totally my guilty pleasure), and have lots of fun watching too! 😄

Check out the full article https://torontosun.com/life/relationships/dating-later-in-life-has-its-advantages (https://torontosun.com/life/relationships/dating-later-in-life-has-its-advantages) and let me know your thoughts on d
ating later in life 💕

Dating can be difficult at any age but getting back into the game after decades of being off the market can be even tougher.

10/04/2024

Building a healthy, long-lasting relationship requires intention and awareness.💕

Here are some common habits that can strain connection:

🧍️ People pleasing: Prioritizing your partner's needs over your own can lead to resentment and a lack of authenticity.

🤐 Suppressing needs: Failing to express your needs and desires can result in miscommunication and unmet expectations.

🍷 Alcohol consumption: Excessive drinking can strain relationships by fueling arguments, creating emotional distance, and impacting intimacy.

💻 Working too much: Prioritizing work over your relationship can lead to feelings of neglect and disconnection.

📱 Cell phone scrolling: Constant screen time can interfere with quality time and meaningful connection between partners.

😶 Ignoring emotions: Neglecting your feelings can hinder emotional intimacy and create a barrier to understanding each other's needs.

🙅 Avoiding conflict: Sweeping issues under the rug may prevent resolution, leading to growing tension and dissatisfaction.

💯 Perfectionism: Holding your partner, relationship or self to unrealistic standards can create pressure and disappointment.

What other habits do you think can negatively impact relationships? Share your thoughts in the comments below! 👇

09/24/2024

Our latest "Insights from the Couch" podcast episode will be released tomorrow, featuring the amazing Dr. Vonda Wright! 🎙️ In this episode, Dr. Wright shares her expert advice on navigating midlife by discussing essential topics like HRT, diet, and fitness. You won't want to miss this informative conversation!

Tune in to the episode on your favorite podcast platform, and join us at Dr. Wright's Women's Health Conversations Summit in Lake Nona, Orlando, on November 8th and 9th for even more insights. Reserve your spot at the summit at https://www.drvondawright.net/summit2024

Don't forget to share this post with your friends and family who might be interested in this valuable discussion on women's health and well-being! See you there! 😊

09/08/2024

Emotional maturity is key to healthy connection and long-lasting love. The good news is that it’s something you can work any time—both in therapy and on your own. Building your capacity to show up as an adult is good for you and your relationship. ✨

Here are ten signs to strive for:

✨ Effective emotional regulation and expression�
✨ Constant pursuit of growth and improvement�
✨ Genuine empathy for others' feelings�
✨ Openness to different perspectives�
✨ Confidently taking accountability for actions�
✨ Clear and respectful communication of needs�
✨Courageously setting boundaries and saying no�
✨ Accepting what cannot be changed�
✨Respecting others' autonomy and avoiding control�
✨Knowing your worth and protecting it�

Which of these resonate with you, and which ones are you working on? Remember, we’re all a work in progress and personal growth is a life long endeavor. 🌟

09/03/2024

It takes immense courage to truly listen to your inner voice and honor your needs, especially when your feelings for someone are strong. It's crucial to confront the reality of your relationship and work together to create a fulfilling partnership or accept that it's not the right fit.

Don't be afraid to grow and evolve, even if it means letting go of what no longer serves you. Tune in to your body, feelings, and the impact your partner has on you. If something feels off, have the courage to face the truth and love yourself enough to make choices that align with your well-being.

Embrace the power of self-honesty and cultivate a relationship that allows both you and your partner to thrive, whether together or apart.

09/01/2024

Excited to speak at the 14th Annual Women's Conference presented by Orange Appeal Magazine and Advent Heath for Women! Come join us at The Dr. Phillips Center on Thursday, September 12th! You won't want to miss it!!! Register here: https://orlandowomensconference.com/register-online/

08/28/2024

Do you know the difference between Love and Limerence? I had the opportunity to contribute to Oprah Daily on this fascinating but widely misunderstood topic that's near and dear to my heart. Here's an excerpt, but to learn more read the full article at colettejanefehr.com/social ❤️‍🔥

02/21/2024

If you're divorced and thinking about dating again. Here are 3 signs that you're ready to get back out there.