Love Seat Life Counseling, Jim Kochenburger LMFT

10/11/2025

10/04/2025

Very true...the NLP question there would be: "When did you decide that about yourself?" That's fixed mindset thinking...not growth mindset thinking. Fixed mindset decides, limits, disempowers, and excuses us from growth. It can even position us in a victim mentality. Growth mindset is empowering because it keeps our dynamic potential, growth opportunities, and the responsibility to make transformative choices ever before us.

Change your choices, change the story you tell yourself about you and your life and you take big steps into growth mindset.

10/03/2025

This captures it...😆

09/28/2025

Good word...

Silence leaves others guessing. Gossip solves nothing. Say it directly, kindly, and clearly. That’s where resolution begins.

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09/21/2025

"...Love is about opening to possibilities....it widens our heart and mind. Fear incarcerates, but love liberates."
(John Mark Green)

09/21/2025

There is not a day in my life in which I do not long for Dr. King's "table of brotherhood..." and it causes me to stay mindful of living my part in that every day...mindful of the reality there is no "them," only "us"...

09/18/2025

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09/10/2025

Let me acquaint you with a concept that is having quite the field day in our culture today: "offending from the victim position." It's that thing where, if someone demonizes or villainizes a person or group (thus dehumanizing them), then, psychologically, it "gives them permission" to do whatever they want to that person or group. Hi**er and the N***s specialized in this--they propagandized the German people to believe they were the victims of the Jews, and therefore...the rest is history--the Holocaust (which did happen, btw).

"Offending from the victim position" and the demonization and villainization it engenders "allow" a man to kill an insurance company CEO--a human being with a family--and then be treated like a hero (by others who have similarly villainized and demonized individuals or groups). It "allows" adults to scream profanities at a human being (a leader they disagree with) in a restaurant where they are dining with their family--and then feel proud of doing it. It "allows" them to break into homes to hurt or kill human beings they disagree with politically. "It "allows" them to scream at and heckle elected leaders and others incessantly as they try to fulfill their public service and communicate with the people.

I wish I could say very smart, mature, spiritual people with no underlying mental health disorders are exempt from falling into and being consumed by this, but that is not the case.

If we allow hatred, prejudice, and emotional violence to remain unchallenged and unprocessed in our hearts...if we allow it to remain unaddressed by love...ANY of us is capable of evil...possibly even great evil.

Guard your heart!

09/10/2025

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