Love Seat Life Counseling, Jim Kochenburger LMFT

07/27/2025

07/17/2025

06/22/2025

❤️(Shared from Kelly Wakely on FB, via "Margaret")

If I get dementia, I’d like my family to hang this wish list up on the wall where I live. I want them to remember these things.
1a. Every time you enter the room announce yourself. “Hi Mom- it’s Margaret.”
NEVER ask- Do you know who I am??? That causes anxiety.
1. If I get dementia, I want my friends and family to embrace my reality.
2. If I think my spouse is still alive, or if I think we’re visiting my parents for dinner, let me believe those things. I’ll be much happier for it.
3. If I get dementia, don’t argue with me about what is true for me versus what is true for you.
4. If I get dementia, and I am not sure who you are, do not take it personally. My timeline is confusing to me.
5. If I get dementia, and can no longer use utensils, do not start feeding me. Instead, switch me to a finger-food diet, and see if I can still feed myself.
6. If I get dementia, and I am sad or anxious, hold my hand and listen. Do not tell me that my feelings are unfounded.
7. If I get dementia, I don’t want to be treated like a child. Talk to me like the adult that I am.
8. If I get dementia, I still want to enjoy the things that I’ve always enjoyed. Help me find a way to exercise, read, and visit with friends.
9. If I get dementia, ask me to tell you a story from my past.
10. If I get dementia, and I become agitated, take the time to figure out what is bothering me.
11. If I get dementia, treat me the way that you would want to be treated.
12. If I get dementia, make sure that there are plenty of snacks for me in the house. Even now if I don’t eat I get angry, and if I have dementia, I may have trouble explaining what I need.
13. If I get dementia, don’t talk about me as if I’m not in the room.
14. If I get dementia, don’t feel guilty if you cannot care for me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It’s not your fault, and you’ve done your best. Find someone who can help you, or choose a great new place for me to live.
15. If I get dementia, and I live in a dementia care community, please visit me often.
16. If I get dementia, don’t act frustrated if I mix up names, events, or places. Take a deep breath. It’s not my fault.
17. If I get dementia, make sure I always have my favorite music playing within earshot.
18. If I get dementia, and I like to pick up items and carry them around, help me return those items to their original place.
19. If I get dementia, don’t exclude me from parties and family gatherings.
20. If I get dementia, know that I still like receiving hugs or handshakes.
21. If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love.”
ᴄᴏᴘʏ ᴀɴᴅ ᴘᴀsᴛᴇ in Honor of someone you know or knew who has dementia. In Honor of all those I know and love and lost who are fighting Dementia/Alzheimer’s.

06/22/2025

I was reading a book called Your Brain on P**n by Gary Wilson a few weeks ago... and let me just say, I haven't looked at my phone the same since, am still reading 🤦‍♀️

The man explained things I wish I knew at 13. He said your brain reacts to p**n the same way it reacts to co***ne.

Like, your neurons are not even being humble about it. The brain literally goes, “Ooooh dopamine!” and rewires itself to chase that high like rent is due.

It hit me deep when he said this generation isn’t just struggling with lust, we’re struggling with hijacked reward systems.

That’s why you can’t focus, can’t connect, can’t sleep, can’t love, your brain is fried, not broken.

And it’s not just science talking. I went into a rabbit hole after that.

Do you know centuries ago, philosophers were already warning about this stuff?

There’s a quote often attributed to ancient empires that said:
“If you want to destroy a nation, flood it with n*dity and broken families.

The rest will fall by itself.”

Even the Indian spiritualists and monks, people who’ve meditated more hours than I’ve been alive, said this centuries ago.

They warned that s*xual energy, if not respected, can ruin the strongest men and even empires.

These guys would fast, meditate, avoid eye contact, and sit under trees for 30 years just to avoid what some of us casually open on lunch break 😭😭

They weren’t being dramatic. They were protecting their minds.

Because the mind is the battlefield, and p**n is an invisible weapon.

Silent. Shameful. Easy to access. Hard to unsee.

I was addicted for years. Not because I wanted to be, but because I was lonely. Empty. Bored. Angry.

And it felt like the easiest escape. I didn’t need to talk to anyone. Just click, scroll, watch, hide. Until hiding became a lifestyle.

But healing started when I realized:

I wasn’t just watching p**n.
I was avoiding pain.
I was feeding my lust and starving my soul.
I was substituting quick pleasure for real purpose.
And slowly, I was losing me.

So I made some changes.

I blocked sites.
Deleted apps.
Got accountability.
Started journaling.
Working out.
Learning.
Creating.
Reading.
And building a life that doesn’t need escapism.

Listen p**n is not just “bad for you.”

It’s a system built to keep you distracted, addicted, emotionally numb, and spiritually weak.

If you think it’s “just entertainment,” congrats. That’s exactly what the billion-dollar industry wants you to believe.

You don’t have to be perfect. But you owe it to yourself to be free.

This is your wake-up call.

You are more than a slave to pixels.

You are powerful.

Gifted.

Creative.

Loved.

And your mind was built to dream, not just scroll.

- Orator Kimani

06/03/2025

Our culture cheers on discontent and focus on the negative. Counter the culture.

05/23/2025

This is very true.