12/30/2025
10 Lessons 2025 Taught Me
I knew many of these but this year had a way of taking me deeper into them. I’ll be honest I was on a pink cloud for a solid decade and this year reality shook me to my bones. Let’s dig in,
1. Intimacy isn’t comfort, it’s honesty.
Real closeness is staying eyeball to eyeball when it’s messy, tense, or ugly, not just when it’s warm and cozy.
2. My suffering is self-created.
My own attachment to expectations, stories, urgency, and resistance are often the pain.
3. Not everything is mine to carry.
People project their realities onto others. My work is discerning what belongs to me and what doesn’t.
4. Suffering doesn’t mean something is wrong. It doesn’t require action or correction. It’s evidence that I’m alive and participating FULLY in life.
5. Chaos is part of the human condition. I really fought this one. The work isn’t avoiding it, making it pretty, or narrating it, it’s waking up and living with it.
6. There is nothing to fix. There is no end goal. We gain awareness, notice and have a shot at changing our behavior.
7. I don’t need to rush to get what’s meant for me. This was my favorite awakening. I can move slow and make money. Nothing aligned requires me to move like my ass is on fire.
8. When I’m gripping tightly, I’m afraid.
Letting go, *especially* in uncertainty gives me the opportunity to find others and even celebrate with them.
9. Connection is the point.
Call your people. Tell the truth. Be vulnerable even when it sucks. No matter what your brain or some silly 🪿on the internet says deep, meaningful relationships are everything.
10. Self-compassion expands my capacity for others. The more tenderness I have for the unwanted parts of me, the more compassion I offer the world.
Talk to me. What hits the hardest and what did you learn this year?
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