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“But I would never treat them that way…” It doesn’t reflect you. The wound did not occur because you weren’t worthy of b...
04/15/2026

“But I would never treat them that way…”

It doesn’t reflect you.

The wound did not occur because you weren’t worthy of better treatment. ❤️‍🩹

You can't expect someone to give you what they don't have.

A restless mind cannot offer peace.
A wounded heart cannot offer consistency.

Most behavior is not cruelty... it’s unhealed pain expressing itself.

Maturity is seeing beyond the action… and recognizing the wound behind it.

Stop expecting others to pour from empty cups... and start protecting your own energy.

Because once you understand this… you stop taking things personally, and start choosing peace.
🧘‍♀️🪷🕊

04/15/2026

It’s easy to focus on the behaviour you can see.
But by the time it shows up, your child is already reacting to overwhelm.

That’s why logic, consequences, and quick fixes often don’t work in the moment.

Shift the question from

“How do I stop this?”

to
“What’s driving this?”

That’s where change starts.

If you want to understand this more deeply, it’s all unpacked in Guidance from The Therapist Parent
👉 Link in bio / www.thetherapistparent.com⁠�

04/15/2026

A tough pill to swallow: no longer wanting to pay to care for a horse when you cannot ride them is a statement that you love riding more than the horse.

And before anyone gets defensive, I get it.

I used to have this mindset, too.

I used to defend it.

But, if our love for an animal was greater than our love for riding, we would not be able to bear with parting with a beloved friend even if it meant that how we go about being able to ride looks different.

The Horse industry views horses as disposable.

It is far to normalize to give them away when they are no longer useable for riding.

What this then results in is a world that is flooded with horses who are no longer wanted when they cannot be ridden.

And there simply are not enough homes to accommodate them.

For everyone happy ending where a horse is lucky enough to find someone who will take them on and care for them into end of life, there are many more who do not have the same story.

Horses who go through home after home, sometimes being sold as rideable and worked through pain…

Horses who fall into the auction pipeline…

You name it.

The point being, something in our industry needs to change.

We need to be building a horse people who love horses as much or more than riding.

It is not sustainable to hold riding with such a great importance that horses are no longer wanted when they cannot be ridden.

The entire mindset is reliant on viewing horses as disposable and lying to ourselves about what realities horses are facing when their owners don’t want them when they become injured or need retirement.

It’s a tough pill to swallow, but it’s a necessary one.

In a world where horses are loved more than riding, people keep their horses when they are at their most vulnerable.

They don’t pawn them off to be someone else’s problem.

Yes, horses can be expensive, but that doesn’t make it any more justifiable.

It is just as harmful and selfish as it would be to give away your elderly arthritic dog because they can’t go on as long of walks anymore.

People get into Horse ownership knowing the costs associated with it.

And that cost doesn’t change when we could no longer ride, the only thing that changes is the willingness to pay for it.

If you are getting into horses with a transactional mindset, consider leasing instead of purchasing.

That way, if the Horse can no longer be ridden, they aren’t your problem. You can move onto the next rideable horse.

Otherwise, start getting comfortable with being honest with yourself and what your behaviour actually exposes about your motivations. No

04/14/2026

I am a big believer that any training we want to accomplish with our horses can also be done fear free or via positive reinforcement. Most recently, I decided to take up long-lining my developing young horse to prep her for the day I inevitably start riding her.

One large misconception about training via positive reinforcement is that we simply don't use pressure. This is untrue! While we do avoid aversives, it's important to remember that not all pressure is aversive (and what is / isn't aversive is up to the horse!). For example, head or wither scratches are forms of non-aversive pressure.

When I introduce long lining, I set up the environment for success and retroactively add light tactile cues. This means rather than pulling or escalating pressure to achieve the goal of steering, I simply pair the cue to an already-conditioned behavior! While I created a quick crash course that I'll link down in the comments, I'll also share my top 3 steps to prepare your horse prior to long-lining!

1) Vocal cue understanding.

While we may ASSUME our horses have a clear understanding of vocal cues, oftentimes we only use these when we are leading by their head and shoulder. Long-lining is confusing enough on its own, so taking the time to make sure they truly understand and listen to these cues while you are in different spots by them or outside the arena can be very helpful to give the horse one less ask to puzzle through.

2) Understanding of stationary and send-to targets.

Most of the setups I use for long lining include utilizing targets to create clarity and positive experiences. They're also quite helpful if you train alone like I do! A send‑to target can initiate forward movement, set up clean turns, and give you predictable “stations” where you can layer in new cues.

3) Comfort with tack used.

At minimum, long‑lining involves a surcingle and lines on both sides of the horse. If our horses aren't used to the potential feelings, sounds, and sights that come along with that, we can be adding in unnecessary tension or distraction. Spend time allowing the horse the ability to simply habituate to those feelings before any real training begins. If in doubt, add in more time - there's no award for the fastest start time, but there's plenty of reward for waiting and preparing properly.

This post also poses as a reminder: just because you train force free, fear free, or via positive reinforcement doesn't mean you can't do all the same tasks you used to do with traditional training! The main thing that changes here is HOW we train it!

Remember: strong foundations can make any task simple, safe, and successful! Is there anything you use for long lining that you find helpful?

04/14/2026

💡 Ever wonder why your 4-year-old isn’t writing yet… and why the teacher is handing them playdough instead of a pencil?

✋ It’s because those tiny hands are still growing and developing! Before kids can write, they need strong, coordinated hand muscles—and that takes time and lots of play.

Think:
🧼 Wiping
✂️ Cutting
🎨 Coloring
🌱 Digging
🧩 Beading
🧽 Squeezing
🧺 Grabbing
🍝 Sensory play

These everyday activities build the foundation for writing. ✍️ We’re not delaying learning—we’re preparing for it the right way.

✅ Trust the process.
✅ Don’t rush it.
✅ Their little hands will be ready when they're ready.

© Gavin McCormack— at National Child Development Center - Antipas.

04/13/2026

How do you really know?
They’ve run up to you, flopped over, and that soft little belly is right there, all ready for a pat.

When a dog rolls onto their back, they’re exposing some of the most vulnerable parts of their body. The stomach, the throat, even the groin. Areas with very little protection. It’s one of the most vulnerable positions they can put themselves in.

So are they consenting and wanting connection, or “defaulting” to this position?

They can show this position when they’re uncomfortable, overwhelmed, or even “surrendering”. They may do this with other dogs as well as humans as a way to avoid conflict.

Are they stiff, rigid, holding tension throughout their body? Paws tucked in tight, face turned away, or maybe even a hard stare?
That’s not a moment to go in for a belly rub.

So when is the best time?
When they’re already fully relaxed.

Are they soft, loose, relaxed through the body, maybe even encouraging you with a few wriggles closer or nudges? That’s when touch can feel safe, and welcome.

Same position. Very different meaning.

04/12/2026

Sheena Rae - Mess and Mercy

A huge thank you to Leslie's Force Free Horsemanship for finding this infographic. Love it!
04/12/2026

A huge thank you to Leslie's Force Free Horsemanship for finding this infographic. Love it!

Just like a pyramid, behaviour is built from the ground up:

✨ Health & welfare form the base.
✨ Safety and environment provide security.
✨ Emotional needs keep learning open.
✨ Operant learning shapes skills.
✨ And at the very top sits trust—the heart of every relationship.

Strong training honours the whole animal and builds a bond that lasts.

04/12/2026

Hey everyone! If you could do me a huge favour and read this 😁

I am having 25% off storewide sale in my shop right now to help clear out stock as I catch up on bills following a month with many expensive vet bills.

The discounts include merch, apparel, webinars, bridles and more!

I have my Aggression In Horses webinar coming up tomorrow, “pay what you can ticket pricing” but there are also pre-recorded past webinars available for purchases.

BOGO on baselayers and beanies as well!

Sales would really help me right now as I continue to catch up following some rough times.

Or, if you can purchase, commenting on and/or liking and sharing my posts really helps boost them and can help improve my revenue in the monetization program.

Any little bit helps and is immensely appreciated ❤️

It’s hard asking for help but this year has been a hard one and I figure now is a better time than any to plug my shop, webinar and subscription services



Shop website down in comments ⬇️

Incredibly important to acknowledge:
04/10/2026

Incredibly important to acknowledge:

04/08/2026

The forces working against justice don’t just attack our movements—they attack our capacity to keep moving. They exhaust us, isolate us, flood us with reasons to give up. This is strategic. A demoralized population doesn’t organize.

I’ve been engaged in activism for over twenty years, and in that time I’ve felt the weight of burnout, despair, and depression many times. Sometimes it lasted days or weeks. Sometimes months.

There was even a period spanning years where I kept working, but my heart was tired—I lost my writer’s voice, that spark that inspired me to write or feel like there was a point in writing it.

In my heart, it sometimes felt like the machinery of empire had won. But each time, eventually, the flame of defiance was renewed, and today I feel more dedicated to the work than ever. Resilience is a muscle, strengthened through practice, community, experience, and defeat.

The following principles don’t promise to prevent despair—they offer ways to face it and keep moving. They call us to challenge the status quo with daily commitments that resist cynicism and foster defiance.

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Hold onto Radical Empathy
Seek to understand others deeply, especially those you disagree with. Acknowledge the humanity in everyone, and resist the urge to demonize. Real empathy breaks down walls and creates spaces where true connection and change can grow.

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Resist the Allure of Cynicism
In a world riddled with injustice, cynicism can be a refuge. Resist it. Stay open to small acts of beauty, courage, and integrity—they are the seeds of a better future. Protect your hope, even when the evidence feels thin.

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Take Responsibility for Your Actions
Acknowledge the role you play in maintaining or challenging the status quo. Recognize that every decision—how you spend money, what conversations you engage in, what you support or oppose—reflects your values and shapes the world around you.

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Engage in Nonviolent Resistance
Find ways to resist oppression and injustice without perpetuating cycles of harm. Nonviolence is not passive; it requires courage, discipline, and an unshakable commitment to the dignity of all, including those complicit in oppression.

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Embrace Vulnerability and Compassion
Allow yourself to feel and show vulnerability, even when it hurts. Genuine compassion requires you to be present with pain—your own and others’. Lean into the discomfort and let it guide you toward actions that restore and heal.

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Build Resilient Communities
Foster connections in your local community that resist isolation and strengthen mutual support. Communities rooted in trust and solidarity can withstand more and offer real resistance to a world designed to divide and control.

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Pursue Truth Relentlessly
In a culture flooded with propaganda and misinformation, seek truth with a fierce commitment. Challenge narratives that obscure power dynamics or excuse exploitation, and use your voice to amplify perspectives that are too often silenced.

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Practice Radical Generosity
Give of yourself—your time, resources, and energy—not because others “deserve” it, but because you recognize our shared humanity. Generosity nourishes our collective resilience, and it keeps you grounded in what matters.

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Embody the World You Wish to Create
Let your daily actions reflect the justice, kindness, and solidarity you wish to see. In a broken world, simply living with integrity and kindness is a profound act of resistance.

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Accept that Small Actions Matter
Grand gestures are rare; it’s the small, persistent acts of care and resistance that shape the world. Plant seeds, even if you may never see them grow. In the face of overwhelming challenges, remember that even small acts contribute to a larger tapestry of struggle that goes back generations.

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Connect with the Beauty and Wonder of the Earth
Ground yourself in the natural world—not as an escape, but as a reminder of what we’re fighting for. Let forests, rivers, and sky restore your sense of proportion and purpose. The earth’s resilience teaches us that life persists even after devastation, and that we are part of something vast and interconnected.

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Cultivate Discernment Over Certainty
In a world of competing narratives, resist the comfort of absolute certainty. Develop the capacity to hold complexity, acknowledge what you don’t know, and revise your understanding as you learn. Discernment allows you to navigate ambiguity without collapsing into relativism or rigid dogma.

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Honor Rest as Resistance
Reject the myth that relentless productivity equals commitment. Rest is not weakness—it’s necessary for sustained action. In a system designed to exhaust and exploit, choosing to restore yourself is an act of defiance. Pace yourself for the long struggle ahead.

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Create and Preserve Stories of Resistance
Document, share, and celebrate the acts of courage happening around you. Stories shape our sense of what’s possible and connect us to a lineage of those who refused to surrender. By preserving these narratives, you arm future generations with proof that resistance has always mattered.

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Return to Joy Without Guilt
Allow yourself moments of genuine joy, even amid crisis. Laughter, play, dance, singing, music, and celebration are not betrayals of those who suffer—they are affirmations of life itself. Joy replenishes the spirit you need for the work, and it reminds you that our movement is about protecting all that we cherish and love.

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These commitments are both new and ancient. They have sustained movements and cultures for generations, and I believe they’re what will keep us in the fight for the rest of our lives.

But they are more than just that. This is how we reshape the world.

“Be kind to people, be ruthless to systems.” ― Michael Brooks

When we act with empathy and resist systems of oppression with the spirit of nonviolence, we start to build something different. Inhabiting a story that pierces old binaries and old antagonisms creates space for a third way.

“Peacemaking doesn’t mean passivity. It is the act of interrupting injustice without mirroring injustice, the act of disarming evil without destroying the evildoer, the act of finding a third way that is neither fight nor flight but the careful, arduous pursuit of reconciliation and justice. It is about a revolution of love that is big enough to set both the oppressed and the oppressors free.”
― Shane Claiborne, Common Prayer: A Liturgy for Ordinary Radicals

That’s the vision that I keep coming back to. It’s also brutally hard to live up to in practice. The systems we’re up against don’t just cause suffering — they teach us to replicate it. They train us to see enemies instead of people, to meet contempt with contempt, to reach for the same tools that were used against us.

None of us are immune to that. Which is why this path demands we let go of perfection and accept how often we will mess up. It means breaking our commitments in moments of anger, hurt, or despair, but recommitting ourselves again and again as soon as we come back to ourselves and our truest longings.

That's the work. It sounds grand and idealistic, but in reality, it's messy, flawed, and full of contradiction. As anyone who has tried to repair a struggling relationship knows, good intentions are not enough. Love is not enough. To seriously change old patterns, we need new skills, a supportive community, and the humility to keep showing up when our culture draws us back into old ways of relating. As Thich Nhat Hanh taught me, to keep returning *is* the practice. And it’s proof that the old story hasn’t won.

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Tim Hjersted is the founder and director of Films For Action, an online library dedicated to the people building a more free, regenerative and democratic society.

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