12/28/2025
This is one for all of my former ‘good kids;’ those who hate rocking the boat and often prefer to suffer in silence over sharing our discomfort with someone else.
But the thing is, if you don’t actually share your discomfort or your limit or your need, then the other person doesn’t actually know that you’re uncomfortable or that you’ve hit your limit or that there’s something that could make this experience more enjoyable for you.
And I know that many of us (myself included at times) are afraid to share what’s actually going on because we’re afraid to be met with misunderstanding, conflict, or possible rejection.
We’re afraid that if we’re not easy-going, then we won’t be accepted.
But the truth is, no can actually truly get to know you for the unique and beautiful person that you are if you don’t share your limits, desires, and needs with them.
To be loved for who you are, you have to be willing to be your own autonomous person - one who doesn’t always agree with everybody; who owns your own experiences and responses to the world.
I love the people who let me know how they feel, even when it’s different to how I feel about something, even something important. It lets me know who they are, and often it helps me better understand my own feeling about said thing, (I’ll notice the response I feel to their stance and that gives me information about myself).
It also means I don’t have to try to search for and look for hints as to how they’re REALLY feeling, which is exhausting. I’d much rather you just told me.
This isn't easy work, but it's how you begin to connect more deeply with other people - by letting them see you and noticing how they respond.
The Cycle Breakers Program begins January 21st.
This is a 12 month program for those committed to changing their relational patterns - those who have been doing the work and are working to practice walking the talk.
Meeting themselves with greater compassion, practicing emotional self-management, and connecting with others as they break cycles for future generations.
I'm hosting a live Q&A on Zoom on Friday if you want to meet me, ask questions, and learn more!
Register at the link below:
https://theeqschool.myflodesk.com/cyclebreakerqa12026
