01/13/2025
👉 Attention parents 👈 Tech everywhere 24/7 is hurting our children’s brains.
There is a complex and highly integrated network in the brain that only activates when we are “doing nothing.” This is known as the default mode network.
When you are sitting in the waiting room or unwinding after dinner, if you are not reading, watching television, or on your phone, your default mode network is projecting the future and sorting out the past. It’s processing your life. It activates when we daydream, during meditation and when we lie in bed before going to sleep.
A healthy default mode network is necessary for the human brain to rejuvenate, store information in more permanent locations, gain perspective, process complicated ideas, and be truly creative. It also has been linked in young people to the development of a strong sense of identity and a capacity for identity.
Scientists are concerned that because of technology’s ubiquity, young people have too few opportunities to activate their default mode network, and, as a result too few opportunities for self-reflection. People who do have more "daydreaming" moments do better on tests of memory, flexibility of thought, and reading comprehension. They also have better mental health.
Parents, what can you do?
👉 Talk to your kids about the importance of “doing nothing.”
👉 Model more down moments to your crew. Don’t let your default mode be a quick scroll on the phone.
👉 If your child has a personal device such as a phone or a tablet, put good boundaries in place on when and where they can use the device to allow more down time.
👉 Delay smartphones until at least the end of 8th grade with the Wait Until 8th pledge, and delay social media until 16+. Consider a basic phone if you need to get in touch before then (options on our website and on Instagram Story highlights ).
You’ve got this! Stay informed and be intentional!
This information about the brain is from the national bestseller, “The Self-Driven Child. The science and sense of giving your kids more control over their lives.” Check it out! It is a great book.