03/13/2026
Many times we believe, from innocence in some cases, and from arrogance in others, that we know what the other person needs, and we rush to offer them HELP by providing something that wasn't asked for and that, from this perspective, most of the time doesn't actually serve them, even if they accept it.
Help has its rules (Orders of Help) as Bert Hellinger, explained which cover the balance between giving and taking.
And when we anticipate the other's needs, the subtitle of that kind of help is: I don't believe you are capable.