Ayamama Alida, 15 Pine Street, Oxford, MA (2025)

08/30/2025

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗱𝗶𝗱 𝗜 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗔𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗹 𝗛𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴?

When I got pregnant in December 2013, I was still working for the Peruvian Mining Department, and I went to a regular ob-gyn for my first trimester.

When I was 16 weeks pregnant, we decided to have a home birth. When I talked to my doctor, he said: I'm the pilot of this airplane. Don't ask about speed or altitude and just buckled up.

𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗲𝗹𝘀𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗱.........

My due date was September 25th. That was my father's birthday, I didn't want my daughter to have his life as a pattern.
My husband and I pulled some oracle cards, and the baby decided to be born on September 20th, phew!! I felt relief.

When I gave birth on September 20th, my sister came over to visit, and she said today was the birthday of our grandfather, Eustaquio, the father of my dad.
My abuelito died in a car accident on March 23th, 1987. My birthday is on March 30th.

I decided to begin studying hidden loyalties and systemic connections, and here I'm doing what I'm doing.

In 2022, I realized that my husband's great-grandfather was born on September 20th.

These are NO coincidences. This is our system talking to us so we can repair it.

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08/27/2025

DEBTS ARE NOT JUST FINANCIAL

They are emotional, sexual, energetic, transgenerational.
They are the way the unconscious screams - 𝗜’𝗺 𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗼𝘄𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗲!

Money is not the problem but unresolved emotional ties, especially with parents.
Deep down, we stay in debt to hold onto those connections, fearing that letting go means losing love.

𝗜 𝗼𝘄𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘆, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗲, 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗼𝘄𝗲 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲.
𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝘀𝗰𝗿𝗶𝗽𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗹𝗼𝗰𝗸𝗮𝗴𝗲.

From Family Constellations, it’s understood that unresolved debts reflect a wound:
A claim against mom or dad.
An unclosed story with our ancestors.
An invisible loyalty to family pain.

What to do if you’re trapped in a cycle of debt and scarcity?

1. Forgive.
Your parents. Yourself. Those you believe “owe” you something.

2. Heal your family tree.
Understand what stories you’re repeating from your lineage.

3. Break the claim.
Resentment, victimhood, self-demand. All of these create scarcity.

There is no greater debt than unexpressed love.
Close the cycles that hurt.

08/24/2025

My ex Family Constellations's coach asked me today: Are you mourning?

My first thought was NO. Then I started crying and I realized I'm still grieving my father's transition.

Its gonna be exactly 15 months but my heart is still in pain.

My mind is happy for him, I know
he's ok with his soul family.

Two nights ago I had blue lotus tea before bedtime and I saw my dad at his old house, and my dog Vivi.
This is the third dream/vision I have of them together this month. Maybe they are hanging out together!!!. My dad always said you will cry more for your dogs than for me.

Then I saw a book with Ganesha's cover inside Krishna and Shiva, and a note written in pencil "the biggest horses are found in Peru" then all of a sudden a feng shui lucky frog fell off the book.

**First picture is when I turned 1 year old.

**Second picture is my wedding day in Peru. Vivi is on my right side. She tore a piece of my dress right before the ceremony 🙃.

08/21/2025

Fight between brujos

I was 18 weeks pregnant 🤰 and sleeping at my mom's house with my two dogs on the same bed. Around 11 pm, I had a vision. I could see my husband's ceremony, and I was in the center.

A white brujo saw me and started choking me. My dogs began barking. I remembered what my GF said: No one can beat you if you are in the light. Then my buddy Michael and my GF pulled me out.

I called my husband, and he confirmed the curandero was attacked during the ceremony by a brujo.

There are different ways to protect yourself against psychic, verbal, or physical attacks.

Over the past 10 years, I have learned not to cast spells out of revenge but only to remove that energy from me, to freeze it.
A gentle freeze until they stop bothering me.

08/19/2025

If you have ever cheated or been cheated on, you might want to explore patterns of loyalty.

Infidelity might reflect deeper ancestral patterns, such as betrayal, abandonment, or lack of trust, passed down through generations. These could stem from historical events like broken family bonds, cultural disruptions, or suppressed emotions like shame or guilt

A Family Constellations facilitator might help someone identify if their tendency toward infidelity mirrors an ancestor’s unresolved actions or emotions, allowing them to release this pattern.

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08/18/2025

In this class we will create different dynamics to connect with the informational field that holds the collective memory of the family system.

You will access emotions, sensations, or insights about family members, even without prior knowledge.
The field will reveal hidden dynamics through spontaneous feelings or reactions.

What are the benefits?

1. Resolves Intergenerational Trauma: Identify and heal inherited emotional patterns or traumas passed down through generations.

2. Improves Relationships: Fosster understanding and reconciliation by addressing hidden dynamics within family systems, enhancing connection and communication.

3. Promotes Emotional Healing: Participants gain clarity on unresolved issues, leading to emotional release and personal growth.

4. Enhances Self-Awareness: The process reveals subconscious beliefs and behaviors, helping individuals understand their place and role in the family system.

5. Restores Systemic Balance: Bring harmony and resolution to conflicts.

08/17/2025

STOLEN CHILDHOOD

The disorder of parentification between a child and their parents is as painful as abandonment.

Essentially, the child feels no support or nurturing from their parents.
This condition may arise because the child chose it or because it was imposed by the parents themselves.

When a child tries to become a parent to their own parents, it becomes very difficult for them to live, enjoy, or feel free; everything becomes heavy and dense, and this extends to many aspects, especially in romantic relationships, as they can never be fully available to have a partner.

CASE
Maria, a 32-year-old woman, struggles with forming lasting romantic relationships and feels an overwhelming sense of responsibility in her interactions. She describes a persistent heaviness, difficulty enjoying life, and a pattern of prioritizing others' needs over her own.

Maria grew up in a household where her mother struggled with depression and her father was frequently absent due to work.
As the eldest child, Maria, at age 10, took on the role of caring for her younger siblings and emotionally supporting her mother. This parentification was imposed by her mother's reliance on her for emotional stability, leaving Maria without nurturing or space to be a child.

The facilitator set up representatives for Maria, her mother, her father, her younger siblings, and the burden of responsibility.

In the constellation, Maria’s representative stood close to her mother’s, facing her as if shielding her, while the father’s representative was distant.

The siblings’ representatives looked to Maria for guidance, and the "burden" loomed heavily over her.

The mother’s representative appeared weak, unable to connect with her children without Maria’s intervention.

The facilitator invited Maria’s representative to express her feelings of being overburdened. She said: I feel like I’m carrying everyone, and I’m so tired.

08/17/2025

STOLEN CHILDHOOD

The disorder of parentification between a child and their parents is as painful as abandonment.

Essentially, the child feels no support or nurturing from their parents.
This condition may arise because the child chose it or because it was imposed by the parents themselves.
When a child tries to become a parent to their own parents, it becomes very difficult for them to live, enjoy, or feel free; everything becomes heavy and dense, and this extends to many aspects, especially in romantic relationships, as they can never be fully available to have a partner.

CASE
Maria, a 32-year-old woman, struggles with forming lasting romantic relationships and feels an overwhelming sense of responsibility in her interactions. She describes a persistent heaviness, difficulty enjoying life, and a pattern of prioritizing others' needs over her own.

Maria grew up in a household where her mother struggled with depression and her father was frequently absent due to work.

As the eldest child, Maria, at age 10, took on the role of caring for her younger siblings and emotionally supporting her mother. This parentification was imposed by her mother's reliance on her for emotional stability, leaving Maria without nurturing or space to be a child.

Constellation Setup:
The facilitator set up representatives for Maria, her mother, her father, her younger siblings, and the burden of responsibility.

In the constellation, Maria’s representative stood close to her mother’s, facing her as if shielding her, while the father’s representative was distant.

The siblings’ representatives looked to Maria for guidance, and the "burden" loomed heavily over her.

The mother’s representative appeared weak, unable to connect with her children without Maria’s intervention.

The facilitator invited Maria’s representative to express her feelings of being overburdened. She said: I feel like I’m carrying everyone, and I’m so tired. The mother’s representative was encouraged to acknowledge her role in placing this burden on Maria.

The facilitator guided the mother’s representative to take her proper place as a parent, saying to Maria : You are my daughter, not my caretaker. I am the adult. The father’s representative was moved closer, encouraged to engage with the family, saying, I am here now.

Maria’s representative was invited to hand the "burden of responsibility" back to the parents, saying: This is not mine to carry.

The burden was symbolically released, and Maria’s representative stepped back to stand as a child among her siblings.

Outcome: Maria’s representative reported feeling lighter, with a sense of freedom to face her siblings as an equal rather than a caretaker. The constellation revealed the need for Maria to reconnect with her inner child and allow her parents’ representatives to take their proper roles.

Family Constellations Circle

08/15/2025

Family Constellations Healing Statements create an energy shift that will bring peace and clarity.

👇Most healing statements in Family Constellations come from Bert Hellinger's work.

I am responsible for my part, and I leave your part with you.

I am the little one and you are the big one. You give and I take.

I give you place in my heart.

I leave it with you, with love.

I honor you and your fate.

I take this life with everything it entails.

I take you as my parents and you may have me as your child.

It is your burden to carry, not mine and I let go of it now.

Mother, please be friendly with me if I stand with my father.

What happens between us as your parents, it’s our business and we will take care of it.

You are the parent. I'm the child.

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