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01/07/2026

STOP BLOCKING YOUR OWN BETRAYAL RECOVERY PROCESS...

In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae unpack a surprisingly common barrier to healing after betrayal trauma — “Cat Poster Thinking" the mindset of believing “I already know how this works” or relying on clichés, platitudes, and intellectual over-control to cope. And while it may feel protective, it can quietly block real growth, connection, and emotional transformation.

This episode also helps the Unfaithful see how they self-limit their own growth in recovery.

Together they explore:

✨ Why betrayed partners crave control after trauma
✨ How trauma filters your perception and limits what you can “see”
✨ Why intellectual insight alone can’t heal a shattered heart
✨ What happens when you try to think your way out of pain
✨ How over-talking, over-explaining, and “knowing everything” disconnects you from help
✨ How to shift from head-level knowing → to heart-level healing
✨ Why receiving guidance from a trained professional is essential
✨ What real, embodied healing looks and feels like
✨ How betrayed partners can carry too much of the emotional load without being aware of it
✨ How to let go of the urge to lead, fix, or parent your unfaithful partner
✨ Simple questions & practices to move from superficial coping to deep, meaningful change

This is an episode filled with stories, real-life clinical examples, neurobiological insight, and grounded wisdom. If you’re stuck in trauma responses, struggling to trust your therapist, or feeling disconnected from your own healing, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, Sharon and Rae unpack a surprisingly common barrier to healing after betrayal trauma — “Cat Poster Thinking" the mindset of believing “I alr...

12/30/2025

The Hidden Turning Point For the Unfaithful In Betrayal Recovery

In this episode of Ask The Unfaithful - Shorts, James speaks directly to those who have betrayed their partner and are ready to become someone different. He unpacks what real new beginnings require. You’ll learn what a new beginning is not, what it is, and how to build a life your partner could eventually trust again.

This message is for:

• Those standing at day one after discovery
• Those who have relapsed and want to commit anew to their recovery
• Those in steady recovery wanting to take the next step: to recommit and level up their growth

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The difference between starting anew/starting over and starting to transform
• Why recovery stalls when the unfaithful coasts or “gets comfortable”
• The hidden turning point that separates performative effort from genuine change
• How to grow past maintenance mode into character transformation
• The Five Essentials for Rebuilding
• What rebuilding trust actually looks like to the betrayed partner
• Why recommitment is a normal — and necessary — as recovery evolves
• How to become the partner, and person, you are capable of being

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In this episode of Ask The Unfaithful, James speaks directly to those who have betrayed their partner and are ready to become someone different. He unpacks w...

12/23/2025

HOPE: CHOOSING TO BELIEVE THAT HEALING IS POSSIBLE AFTER BETRAYAL

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In this episode of Ask The Betrayed - Shorts, Sharon speaks directly to anyone feeling shattered, lost, or hopeless after infidelity. She explains why betrayed partners often cling to the hope that the old relationship can be restored—and why real hope comes from something deeper: rebuilding your sense of self, your worth, and your inner clarity.

Sharon shares personal insight, including the moment she realized she had to live for herself, align her life with her values, and rebuild a foundation strong enough to stand on—with or without the relationship. She teaches how to shift from living in reaction to living intentionally, how to reclaim the parts of yourself you abandoned, and how to find tiny sparks of hope even in devastation.

This is a message for every betrayed partner who wonders: Will I ever be okay again? The answer is yes. And it begins with turning inward, grounding in your truth, and taking one small courageous step at a time.

💛 In This Episode You’ll Learn:
• Why hope feels impossible after betrayal—and why it matters
• The difference between hoping for the old relationship vs. hoping for your healing
• How changed reality, secret lives, and grief shape the hopelessness you feel
• The moment Sharon realized healing required living for herself
• How to rebuild self-worth after betrayal
• Why focusing inward—not on the unfaithful partner—is essential
• How to shift from defense to offense in your own life
• Small daily choices that awaken hope again

Hope isn’t naïve — it’s choosing to believe healing is possible even when the path is unclear.

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12/17/2025

7 WAYS THE UNFAITHFUL MISHANDLE THE BETRAYED'S DISENFRANCHISED GRIEF

In this dynamic episode of Ask The Unfaithful, James and Sam unpack disenfranchised grief—the deep, invisible grief the betrayed partner experiences after infidelity. This is grief with no rituals, no casseroles, no support, and no social permission to hurt. Instead, betrayed partners often suffer in silence while navigating shame, fear, shattered identity, and the loss of safety, trust, and future dreams.

James and Sam break down why this grief is misunderstood, how it shows up in emotional waves, cognitive looping, hypervigilance, withdrawal, and overwhelming internal conflict, and detail seven ways unfaithful partners often make the grief worse.

Most importantly, they teach what the unfaithful can do to help heal this grief.

In this dynamic episode of Ask The Unfaithful, Sam and James unpack disenfranchised grief—the deep, invisible grief the betrayed partner experiences after in...

12/10/2025

CAN GRATITUDE AND THE PAIN OF BETRAYAL COEXIST?

In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore what gratitude really looks like in the wake of infidelity — without toxic positivity, forced silver linings, or emotional self-betrayal:

• Not having to pretend you’re okay
• Not minimizing the trauma

Learn why gratitude gets complicated during the holidays where it seems to be expected, how survivors toggle between grief and glimpses of joy, and why holding two truths at the same time is such a powerful recovery skill.

You’ll hear stories of those first post-betrayal holidays… the bathroom escape plan… the moment when clarity becomes a gift, even if painful… and how betrayed partners can reclaim meaningful moments instead of pretending they’re “fine.”

💛 In this episode, we talk about…

• Why forced gratitude is retraumatizing, not healing
• How the brain uses small moments of goodness like traction
• The power of presence, honesty, and strategic choices during holidays (and, really, any other time)
• How to reset at any moment
• Why clarity — even painful clarity — is something to honor
• How to find “meaningful moments of comfort and joy”
• Ways the unfaithful can show appreciation that truly matters

Healing isn’t about plastering a smile over heartbreak — it’s about making room for hope while telling the truth about the hurt.

In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore what gratitude really looks like in the wake of infidelity — without toxic positivity, forced sil...

12/03/2025

LIMERENCE: CAN THE DAMAGE EVER BE REPAIRED?

Limerence is one of the most misunderstood - and devastating - experiences in infidelity recovery. In this episode of Ask The Unfaithful, James and Sam break down what limerence actually is, how it distorts reality, why the unfaithful become trapped in its neurochemical illusion and, most importantly: whether the damage limerence causes can truly be repaired.

Limerence is one of the most misunderstood - and devastating - experiences in infidelity recovery. In this episode, James and Sam break down what limerence a...

11/26/2025

SECRET WEAPONS AGAINST BEING MISUNDERSTOOD

In this vulnerable and transformative episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae dive into one of the most universal pain points for betrayed partners: being misunderstood. Whether it's feeling dismissed, judged, minimized, or simply unseen, betrayal trauma magnifies how deeply we need to be understood — and how hard it can be to communicate our truth.

Drawing from decades of clinical experience and lived wisdom, Sharon and Rae unpack why so many betrayed partners struggle to express themselves, why partners often misread our emotional signals, and how childhood conditioning, nervous system responses, and relational trauma shape the ways we share (or silence) our truths.

This episode gives you practical tools, compassionate insight, and scripts you can use today to help you be understood — without shrinking, apologizing, or losing yourself.

In this vulnerable and transformative episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae dive into one of the most universal pain points for betrayed partners: bein...

11/19/2025

What are No Lose Decisions In Infidelity Recovery?

In this episode of Ask The Unfaithful, James and Sam unpack No-Lose Decisions — the courageous choices that move recovery forward no matter the outcome. Learn how honesty, integrity, and emotional bravery retrain the brain, rebuild trust, and transform your healing after infidelity.

In this provocative and practical episode of Ask The Unfaithful, Sam and James break down one of the most transformative concepts in affair recovery: No-Lose...

11/13/2025

MYTH BUSTING - Exposing Blocks to Betrayal Recovery

In this practical episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae tackle some of the most common and destructive myths that keep betrayed partners trapped in confusion, guilt, and fear after infidelity.

From “This pain will last forever” to “If I can keep them from acting out, I’ll be safe” they dismantle the cultural and emotional myths that block healing—and replace them with compassionate, reality-based truths.

In This Episode You’ll Learn that:

✅ Healing from betrayal requires truth, not perfection.

✅ Repair happens through consistency, not control.

✅ You can love your family and protect your peace.

✅ Hope isn’t naïve—it's a survival skill.

✅ How to parent through betrayal trauma recovery

✅ When to seek help

✅ How to recognize the lies that keep you stuck in fear and self-blame.

Whether you’re early in your healing or well into your rebuilding journey, this conversation offers hope, insight, and practical strategies for moving forward with clarity and strength.

In this powerful and practical episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae tackle some of the most common and destructive myths that keep betrayed partners t...

11/05/2025

How do you heal one of the most deceptive forces blocking recovery after infidelity — secret intrigue?

What begins as seeming curiosity or emotional “buzz” moments can quietly evolve into a pattern that sabotages integrity, intimacy, and repair.

This episode of Ask the Unfaithful breaks down how to recognize it, stop it, and build the emotional and relational resilience that real recovery requires.

In this powerful episode of Ask The Unfaithful, James and Sam take an unflinching look at how to heal one of the most deceptive forces blocking recovery afte...

10/29/2025

BIG FAT LIES WE TELL OURSELVES IN BETRAYAL RECOVERY

In this powerful episode ( #12) of Ask the Betrayed, Sharon and Rae expose the Big Fat Lies that keep betrayed partners trapped in pain and confusion after infidelity. From the cultural myths of “Good things happen to good people” to the heartbreaking belief that “Once a cheater, always a cheater,” this conversation dismantles the false stories that sabotage healing.

Together, they share real-life examples and clinical insights on:

✅ Why we cling to lies like “If I were better, this wouldn’t have happened.”
✅ How shame, denial, and comparison keep you emotionally stuck.
✅ Why believing “People can’t change” blocks recovery for both partners.
✅ How endurance and “being strong” can actually become a trauma response.
✅ What genuine healing looks like when truth replaces self-blame.

You’ll also hear deeply personal reflections—from Sharon’s story of objectification and “CEO-style” relationships to Rae’s raw honesty about the panic, comparison, and self-loss that betrayal creates.

This episode is a compassionate reminder that your pain matters, your boundaries are sacred, and your healing is possible.

💬 Key Takeaways:

• Betrayal trauma thrives on false narratives—healing begins when you stop believing them.
• You didn’t cause the betrayal.
• Strength isn’t pretending you’re fine—it’s choosing truth over survival mode.
• You can believe in change without abandoning your safety.

💡 Listen if you’re ready to:

✔ Break free from self-blame

✔ Challenge the myths that keep you small

✔ Reclaim your voice and your truth after infidelity

In this powerful episode of Ask the Betrayed, Sharon and Rae expose the Big Fat Lies that keep betrayed partners trapped in pain and confusion after infideli...

10/23/2025

What if the greatest threat to your recovery after infidelity isn’t what you think it is?

In episode 55 of Ask The Unfaithful, "INTRIGUE: The Silent Saboteur of Healing and Connection After Infidelity", James and Sam unpack how "intrigue" quietly destroys connection, fuels secrecy, and sabotages healing long before an affair - or any kind of sexual or emotionally intimate acting out - ever begins.

You’ll learn how seemingly insignificant, subtle thoughts and behaviors can become powerful dopamine loops that reinforce shame, self-betrayal, and emotional disconnection. This honest conversation exposes how intrigue starts, why it feels so intoxicating, and what it does to both the unfaithful and betrayed partner.

Whether you’re the unfaithful seeking to rebuild integrity or the betrayed trying to understand why recovery feels so hard and why things feel "off" even though your unfaithful partner is "doing all the right things" for recovery, this episode brings clarity and compassion - and, with that, hope.

👉 Topics we cover:

✅ What intrigue really means—and why it’s so dangerous in recovery
✅ How micro-moments of attention or curiosity can evolve into obsession
✅ The role of validation, fantasy, and secrecy in ongoing betrayal patterns
✅ How intrigue affects the betrayed partner’s sense of safety and trust
✅ Why “naming it to tame it” is essential for lasting healing
✅ How to begin breaking the intrigue cycle and rebuild authentic intimacy

What if the greatest threat to your recovery after infidelity isn’t what you think it is? In this episode of Ask The Unfaithful, James and Sam unpack how "in...