KL Counseling

01/11/2026

A red flag that I think people often ignore, may be a small one, but can sometimes be powerful, is men who do not have close relationships with other men. It doesn’t have to be a ton of friends, but I think it’s crucial that a guy I date have a couple of really close male friends or family members in their life.

Why, you ask?

Because if a man doesn’t have close buddies, mentor or family members of the same s*x, it’s an indicator that he’s uncomfortable being vulnerable around other men in his peer group (age, profession, etc). If he’s uncomfortable being vulnerable enough for a friend then he’s definitely just looking to me for comfort and has no intention either consciously or subconsciously of being vulnerable with me.

01/11/2026

Obviously, there are more examples and also exceptions, etc. However, one type of cheating explains a case where the betrayer is about to make a very selfish choice based on growing apart. The second is the avoidant who is on to more excitement. It literally may have nothing to do with the relationship being stale, it may just be that the partner is incapable of true intimacy and unwilling to be vulnerable enough to work on it.

01/08/2026

Choosing yourself in this new year can and may look different depending on the circumstance. It is important that you use discernment and accountability to decide what is best for you. Sometimes it means choosing to show up for your friends. Sometimes it may look like choosing to stay in and rest. Whatever it is, know what part of you is making the choices and adjust accordingly.

01/08/2026

01/06/2026

01/04/2026

What is not serving you anymore? What do you need to let go of in order to thrive this year?

01/02/2026

In Lee County, VA, you will find we are home to some of the most beautiful landscapes in Appalachia. From the White Rocks to the Stone Face Rock; visitors and locals alike may enjoy miles of breathtaking mountain landscapes! Whether you are looking to catch a weekend show at the Lee Theatre ... looking for a peaceful weekend getaway ... or setting out for a week-long outdoor adventure, you won't be disappointed with the Stone Mountain ATV Trail, Wilderness Road State Park, Cumberland Gap National Park or Cave Springs Recreational Area. Find out more and plan your trip at www.ilovelee.org. (CORRECTION: Big thank you to RJ Rose and Shadowlands Art Studio for this photo of White Rocks!)

01/01/2026

Here is an idea for your New Year’s goals and resolutions. Write down specific questions that you can answer deeper. It takes more thought, and you can reflect on them later to see the growth!

🩷 Share this with someone you care about.

🩷 Save for later to remind yourself.

12/30/2025

When it’s you, deep down, what do you really want for your love life? Be clear on your deep wants. And when you’re clear then it will be easier to match your behaviors to what you want for your life.

12/27/2025

Grieving during the holiday time can be tricky. Here are 3 things no one really talks about.

Be gentle with yourself this season. And remember to take it one day, sometimes one minute at a time.