01/08/2026
Here’s to everyone trying to explain intergenerational trauma, nervous system healing, or boundaries to a parent who simply doesn’t have the language or capacity for it.
This work can feel incredibly lonely and frustrating.
There’s a moment in healing where everything you were taught to normalize starts to unravel, and you’re left sitting in the discomfort of seeing it clearly while the people who raised you can’t or won’t see it the same way.
That moment can bring a lot of grief, confusion, anger, and even a quiet, “What am I supposed to do with this now?”
Here’s what matters:
Most parents passed down what they had access to, not what was optimal, regulated, but what helped them survive.
For many baby boomers and generations before them, slowing down, reflecting, or tending to emotional safety was never modeled. Instead, survival, endurance, and pushing through were the currencies of care.
So if you’re the one slowing down now, questioning patterns instead of repeating them, or learning to feel safe instead of just functioning, you’re not betraying your family, being dramatic, or too sensitive.
You’re doing nervous system repair.
And yes, when one person does this work, it does ripple outward. You’re not just healing yourself, but the lineage.
And that is hard work. Work that eventually turns into freedom.
If this is you, I applaud you, see you, and hope that you keep going. 🤍