Conscious Relationship Group

Conscious Relationship Group Concious Relationship Group offers individual & couples coaching and online courses for building, healthy conscious relationships.
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Order Jessica's new book, SAFE, and get free powerful gifts to support your journey at jessicabaumlmhc.com/safe Founded by Jessica Baum LMHC in 2017, Be Self-full is a team of highly skilled psychotherapists who help individuals with relationship issues. We are deeply committed to helping people move from a state of loneliness and confusion to a place of safety and contentment with hope for the fu

ture. Whether you are in a relationship or single, struggling with dependency or trauma, in order to move forward, cultivating a deeper understanding of your own self is paramount. In doing deeper core work—and understanding why we find ourselves stuck in patterns and situations—we are able to form healthier relationships with ourselves and consequently, have healthier relationships with others. The core of most mental health issues centers around getting to know your truth, understanding how and why you are where you are, and then creating awareness and a deeper understanding around it. Once you connect with yourself—and only then—can you start to develop healthier relationships with yourself and those around you.

Looking back, you can see it all clearly now. Your nervous system was always learning how to survive and adapt in the in...
06/02/2026

Looking back, you can see it all clearly now. Your nervous system was always learning how to survive and adapt in the inconsistent environment you grew up in.

You were responding to unpredictability, scanning for shifts in their availability, trying to figure out if you did something wrong, and constantly managing them so your house could be as calm as possible.

These anxious patterns kept you safe as a child, but as an adult, they're likely causing a good bit of harm to your relationships. You've been stuck trying to do all of the things that worked when you were small, but the environment is completely different now.

Becoming aware of and understanding these patterns and where they came from is one of the first steps to starting to change them, because you can't heal what you can't see. Now you see how you adapted to survive your upbringing and you can start teaching your nervous system something new.

Healing can start now.

If you're ready, grab a copy of my book, Anxiously Attached, to start building more security in your life and relationships. You can find it anywhere books are sold or in the link in my bio.

Anxious attachment patterns are formed early on in your body to survive in the environment you grew up in while trying t...
06/02/2026

Anxious attachment patterns are formed early on in your body to survive in the environment you grew up in while trying to stay connected to inconsistent caregivers. You likely learned/started believing that:

• Connection requires constant effort and vigilance (waiting for the shoe to drop)
• Abandonment might happen at any point (the shoe will drop)
• Your worth depends on how much you do for someone else
• Having to chase after a relationship is normal

As a child, this often looked like:

• Excessively worrying about your caregiver's safety
• Struggling to make decisions without adult validation
• Seeking constant approval and praise
• People-pleasing to keep friends
• Being hyper-aware about your caregiver's emotional state
• Jealousy and possessiveness in relationships

And now, as an adult, you text constantly, overthink everything, worry about things that might not even be real problems, make excuses for the partners that hurt you, and apologize for things that aren't even your fault. And all along, you can't seem to figure out what's wrong with you, because you can see the behaviors, but you can't make them stop either.

The thing is, your nervous system is doing exactly what it learned to do to keep you safe and connected early on in life. The best news is that you can absolutely change your attachment patterns.

You can learn to regulate your nervous system instead of relying on someone else to do it, understand the difference between what's familiar and what's healthy, and start choosing people who will show up for you consistently.

It's not an easy process, but you've technically already started by becoming more aware through seeing yourself in these memes.

If you're ready to go further, grab a copy of my book Anxiously Attached, where you'll learn the neuroscience, patterns, and tools to rewire your nervous system and become more secure in life and love.

It can be found everywhere books are sold or in the link in my bio.

I'm going to be really honest with you here: breaking the pattern and not rewarding their inconsistency is going to feel...
05/29/2026

I'm going to be really honest with you here: breaking the pattern and not rewarding their inconsistency is going to feel unbearable at first. Your brain is going to scream at you to go back, check to see what they said, and give them one more chance.

The reality is, this is a chemical withdrawal, because your body is used to getting dopamine here, and now it's not.

But when you're able to stay in that discomfort long enough, your brain will eventually stop expecting the reward. It's going to be uncomfortable, but the cravings do fade, and you'll see the breadcrumbs even more clearly.

You were just in the rotation while they figured out what they really want.

If your brain was wired to find inconsistency compelling or normal, know that you can rewire it over time. You're going to have to fight the urge to stay when you really need to walk away and start choosing people who show up consistently for you. Yes, even when that feels boring right now.

Breadcrumbs never turn into a full meal, and unfortunately, the longer you accept them, the harder it gets to leave.

You deserve so much more than that.

What if it wasn't chemistry, fate, or proof that you've finally found "the one," but your body recognizing a pattern it'...
05/28/2026

What if it wasn't chemistry, fate, or proof that you've finally found "the one," but your body recognizing a pattern it's experienced before?

You see, when you meet someone who activates your attachment system, maybe they're inconsistent, emotionally unavailable, or they keep you guessing, your nervous system sees them as familiar. And, fun fact, familiarity is your brain's favorite. It sees familiar as safe, because it's known.

Yes, even if familiar is, in fact, not safe.

That's why people who are "bad for you" can be so attractive. Often, the ones that make you feel anxious are more appealing and exciting than the ones that make you feel calm (who often end up in the friend zone).

Your relationship blueprint is based on what you experienced as a child. So, if your caregivers were unpredictable, inconsistent, unavailable, or made you work for their attention, then this is what you look for now in relationships until you heal your attachment wounds.

So no, it's not chemistry, but recognition. Your nervous system is saying, "I know this feeling and it feels like love." Which makes healing hard...

It takes learning how to tell the difference between what feels familiar and what's actually good for you, and recognizing that the "spark" to lean on for guidance might really be your attachment wound getting activated.

And, it also looks like seeing the person who is calm, consistent, and emotionally available not as boring, but potentially as safe for you, because real chemistry is calm, grounded, and builds over time as you get to know someone.

Thankfully, you can learn to tell the difference between attraction and activation.

Listen, if you grew up with emotionally unhealthy caregivers, it's likely you might not even recognize what emotional he...
05/27/2026

Listen, if you grew up with emotionally unhealthy caregivers, it's likely you might not even recognize what emotional health looks like in a partner. Your normal looked like chaos, inconsistency, and walking on eggshells, so your nervous system didn't learn what safe relationships actually felt like.

You might only know survival.

Now, as an adult, when someone shows up consistently, communicates clearly, and doesn't make you work for their affection, it feels boring, confusing, or like something is missing. But, the only thing missing is your anxiety...

Your nervous system confuses activation with attraction. So, you think uncertainty, sitting around waiting for them to text you back, or constant monitoring are chemistry. Unfortunately, though, it's really your nervous system recognizing the familiar patterns from your childhood.

You can even read a list like this and logically understand what a healthy partner looks like (and even want that), but feel like something is completely missing when they're actually right in front of you, because your brain tells you they're not "the one."

Your nervous system is used to waiting for the other shoe to drop, not both shoes being tied and ready to hold on.

You can meet the healthiest person in the world, but if your nervous system is still scanning for danger, chaos, and proof that love is conditional, then you won't be able to see them for who they really are. You'll likely self-sabotage, create drama to find that familiarity, or leave them because "something's off."

So what do you need to do? Learn what emotional health feels like beyond logic/intellectually, but deep within your body. Notice when someone emotionally healthy is near you, even if it's just a friend, and recognize it as safe.

The right, emotionally healthy person is going to try to care for your needs and consistently show up for you. Will you recognize it for what it is?

I see you all in the comments of the posts on love bombing, fearing that you're the one we're all talking about. But the...
05/26/2026

I see you all in the comments of the posts on love bombing, fearing that you're the one we're all talking about. But there is a big difference between someone using love bombing to manipulate and condition, and someone who is anxiously attached and is intense in new relationships.

When you work on healing your attachment wounds and build towards a more secure base, you'll find that you're able to manage your patterns better. You will be able to pace yourself more in new relationships, notice the urge to reach out and pause longer, and actually have a life outside of your romantic relationships that you're truly excited about.

Sure, there will still be moments where you'll feel anxious, but the anxiety won't dictate how you actually behave in your relationships. You'll have the urge to send 10 texts, and put down your phone. You'll still panic sometimes when they don't respond, but you'll be able to be uncomfortable without spiraling.

And the right person will be patient with you while you're learning. They won't make you feel like your attachment patterns are a burden, but meet you with reassurance and support when you need it the most.

You're already well on your way by becoming aware of your patterns. Now, you get to choose how you respond to that awareness.

The reason someone would love bomb you is incredibly nuanced. It's not always an intentional form of manipulation, thoug...
05/22/2026

The reason someone would love bomb you is incredibly nuanced. It's not always an intentional form of manipulation, though it can be, because sometimes it comes from a person's unhealed attachment wounds, emotional dysregulation, or even a misguided idea of what a relationship should look like.

When you understand why someone might be love bombing you, though, it gives you the ability to respond to it in a meaningful way (instead of just breaking up with them).

If you notice love bombing in your relationship, you can try to:

- Name it by saying something like, "I'm having fun getting to know you, but I feel like we're moving a little fast. Can we slow down a bit?"

- Set the pace yourself by not matching their intensity. You can text back at your normal speed, and suggest seeing each other 1-2 times a week instead of every day.

- Pay attention to how they respond to your boundaries. If they respect them and adjust, that's a good sign. If they push back, guilt you, or can't slow down, then you know it's a red flag.

- Be honest about your needs by letting them know that it takes time for you to build trust and move at a slower pace in new relationships.

- Be aware of their pacing. Do they maintain this energy over time, or does it crash as soon as the newness wears off? Healthy relationships build over time, whereas love bombing peaks and crashes.

Here's the thing: if someone can hear your needs, respect your boundaries, and adjust their patterns, then they are likely not manipulating you. It's more likely that they struggle with setting boundaries or are more anxiously attached.

If they can't slow down, dismiss/argue your feelings, or make you feel guilty, then you know it's an unhealthy form of love bombing.

When you pump the brakes, pay attention to how they respond. That will tell you everything.

If you want to stop falling for the love bomb trap, here's how you can spot it early on in a relationship. Love bombing ...
05/21/2026

If you want to stop falling for the love bomb trap, here's how you can spot it early on in a relationship. Love bombing looks like:

- They are texting and calling constantly throughout the day.

- They declare big feelings right away, like, "I've never felt this way" or "You're the one!"

- They start talking about your life together before you've even had your first fight.

- They go too big, too soon with romantic gestures or gifts.

- They suddenly love all of the same things you do.

- You become the center of their world within the first week. They cancel plan, drop friends, and seem to be available to you 24/7.

- You become the center of their world within the first week. They cancel plans with other people, drop friends, and seem to be available to you 24/7.

- They want to move the relationship quickly, like moving in together or going on a big vacation.

And listen, for someone with anxious attachment, you might be reading this list and either think, "This sounds like a dream," or "Wait, I do all of this." It's important to note that true love bombing is a manipulation tactic.

However, some of these behaviors come when you attach too quickly to new partners, which is common for people with anxious patterns. You're coming from a place of seeking genuine connection, partnered with a massive fear of loss. You're not trying to be manipulative, but instead trying to keep the relationship secure because you fear abandonment. So, you give even your newest relationships 100%.

The key difference between love bombers and anxious attachers is that your attention doesn't shift once the relationships stable. Anxiously attached partners stay consistent in their intensity instead of being a bait-and-switch like love bombers.

And for those of you who are thinking, "But, having all of their attention sounds amazing," this is because of how your nervous system was conditioned and adapted to survive. You're confusing the flood of attention with genuine connection, because you want to see the way they're making you the center of their world as proof you're special.

But you don't need that proof. You are special. And love bombing is a red flag.

Emotional connection is what can turn a relationship from familiar to safe. When you share your inner world, your feelin...
05/19/2026

Emotional connection is what can turn a relationship from familiar to safe. When you share your inner world, your feelings, fears, and hopes, your brain releases oxytocin. This is the “bonding” hormone that helps us feel calm, grounded, and seen.

Unfortunately, for many people, that kind of intimacy can feel both deeply desired and threatening at the same time.

You see, your nervous system remembers how safe (or unsafe) it once felt to be vulnerable. So, if opening up feels scary, or if your partner shuts down when you try, your body (or theirs) might be moving to protection mode.

I would love for you to see these questions as an invitation. They are meant to help you gently build a bridge of emotional safety over time by learning each other’s inner worlds through conversation.

To make it feel less like an interrogation, avoid asking them all at once. You don’t even need to get a “deep” answer. Sometimes, just showing interest and listening with curiosity can begin to rewire what connection feels like in your nervous system.

And remember, emotional intimacy is built through consistency, presence, and repair, not perfection. As both partners begin to feel safe, vulnerability starts to feel more like love.

Conflict is a part of every relationship, including the healthiest and strongest ones. In fact, you might find that some...
05/18/2026

Conflict is a part of every relationship, including the healthiest and strongest ones. In fact, you might find that some of the healthiest relationships have worked through some big conflicts, because conflict is something that can strengthen a relationship if you handle it correctly.

It happens naturally when two people with different needs, perspectives, upbringings, expectations, and nervous systems try to build something together. It's actually necessary for intimacy to expand and grow in a relationship.

Conflict is how you learn about each other, discover what matters to your partner, become aware of what hurts them, and show you what they need from you. It's the very test that sees if a relationship can hold tension without breaking.

Relationships that "never fight" are sometimes more alarming, because it can mean that one or both partners are self-abandoning by suppressing their needs, avoiding hard conversations, or pretending things are fine. Which, of course, builds resentment.

Rupture is the conflict itself when the connection breaks. It happens when someone feels hurt, misunderstood, or disconnected, when needs clash, or when emotions start escalating.

Repair is what happens after a conflict when one or both partners apologize, acknowledge their part, understand the other's thoughts/feelings, and both make a commitment to do better. Repair is the reconnection after a rupture.

What most people don't realize is that rupture without repair is what damages relationships, not the conflict itself. The lack of repair is what creates a pattern of disconnecting and never coming back together.

Which is why it matters so much how you handle conflict, because you shouldn't avoid conflict, but learn how you respond and how to repair.

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