Wer'e Making a Difference Foundation (People in recovery)

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02/18/2026

Fear
F.E.A.R. = Frustration, Ego, Anxiety, and Resentment

We don't want to return to the life we led before recovery, but fear should never be the reason why we don't. Fear keeps us from being open to the program. If we're only in the program because we're afraid of the old way of life, we'll never pay attention and open our souls to learn about the new. We'll be too busy looking back over our shoulders to make sure the old life isn't creeping up on us.

We have to want the program out of a desire for a new life, not out of a fear of the old. Positive thinking and behavior will be in charge if we are to make any character growth. Every fear encourages negative thinking that can destroy us. Guilt and shame come from the past, just like fear. If those feelings are what drive us, we will never grow.

I will make it a practice to take note of my fears. I will take an inventory of each fear until I understand what caused it. Then I will be able to find a way to work through them.

02/17/2026

Sorrow you can hold, however desolating, if nobody speaks to you. If they speak, you break down.

Who among us has not known the loneliness of this addiction: the shame, the despair, the feeling of utter abandonment by other people, and the terror of being out of control? When calling an old lover or finding ourselves in the wrong part of town, we feel fearful, separate. We think, "I'm not like other people; they don't do these things." This is the message of our addiction. It says to us, "You are an outcast. You need me because you're nothing without me. You're worthless."

As we recover, we discover that our addiction is a liar. We are not worthless, and we are not alone. We are a group of people recovering together, helping each other along.

And so, when you are in pain and unable to speak, I will be your voice. You will be my voice. I will be your heart. You will be my heart. We will hold each other up, and we, with the help of a Higher Power, will quite literally love each other into recovery.

God, I thank you for bringing me into recovery. Let me show you my gratitude by growing in my recovery.

02/16/2026

I share what and who I am, for I know we are all one in Spirit.

With so much attention being paid these days to the subject of recovery, some of us may wonder whether or not we qualify to participate in Twelve Step fellowships. We may think that we - or those close to us - have a minor problem; we wonder how it compares with the problems of people in recovery. If the question of addiction has come up for us or for those whose lives touch ours, it is most likely something we ought to take a closer look at.

One of the best ways to get at the truth of our own relationship to addiction is to see whether or not we identify with the feelings we hear expressed by people in recovery. We can attend several open Twelve Step meetings and listen to others share their experience, strength, and hope. We, too, can talk honestly with a trusted friend or counselor about the extent of our concerns. If we listen and share with an open mind, the answers will come.

Today, I explore my relationship to addiction by sharing honestly and listening with an open mind.

02/15/2026

Respecting our individuality is part of recovery.

It's not unusual to feel we don't fit in. As youngsters, we might have been self-conscious, and growing up doesn't necessarily change that. We want to be like other people; we think that will relieve our anxiety and remove our loneliness. Consequently, we adopt values that aren't comfortable and behaviors that are foreign. But the pain remains. Pain from many sources brought us to the program. One of the first things we discovered is how like these people we were. What a joy! But there's a danger in that too. It can prevent us from acknowledging our special differences.

Feeling that we belong, that we fit in, doesn't mean that we are like others in every way. That would rob us of the qualities necessary for making our individual contribution to God's big picture. Appreciating our differences rather than being afraid of them will come in time. For now, we can trust the process of change.

I do fit into God's plan for the universe. My qualities are unique and needed for the unfolding of the whole picture.

02/14/2026

Faith and love solve many things.

Most of the situations we encounter need not become sticky; problems develop, however, when we insist that outcomes meet our specifications. It's far too easy for us to forget to let God be in charge of every situation and outcome. Luckily, we have friends and sponsors who offer frequent reminders.

Having faith takes painstaking effort for most of us. Yet we will feel so much better every time we back away from a situation and let God take over. Then we will realize that God has a better solution than the one we were proposing.

Learning to love not only others but also ourselves takes practice similar to the effort we put into developing faith. Love softens the harsh edges of conflict, and when we act from a vision of love, we see every event in our lives more positively. Choosing love as a way of life eliminates most of the conflict that undermines our well-being. Having faith that God is in charge takes care of the rest.

Having faith and feeling love are my assignments today. God can help me do both. Each person I encounter will give me an opportunity to rely on God's help.

02/13/2026

Reflection for the Day
Those of us who find recovery choose to admit that we're personally powerless over our addictions. In the program, as we surrender to our Higher Power, we develop a new, healthy dependence, even if it simply takes the shape of a dependence upon our group. Have I chosen to try for a life of honesty and humility, of selfless service to my fellows and my Higher Power?

Today I Pray
May I grow the wisdom to know the difference between "willpower" (which has failed me before) and "willingness" to seek help for my addiction, through my Higher Power and through others who are also recovering. May I know that there are choices open to me as there are to my fellow sufferers in the foggiest stages of addiction. May I choose the kind of life that my Higher Power wants for me.

Today I Will Remember
Willingness, more than willpower, is the key to recovery.

02/12/2026

Stay for Yourself
I had two sons. One was born in August of 1989, and the other in February of 1991. My disease had progressed so much that I was still using, even though I had my children. They didn't have a mother during that time. They were with me, but I wasn't with them. I was putting the drugs before my children. It finally got to the point where I wasn't with my family at all. When my kids were no longer staying with me, I told myself that I needed to do something different now.

Until that point, I hadn't heard about the VA. When I got out of the U.S. Air National Guard in '91, I never went. While I was using it, my world was small. Another addict told me about the VA and the programs it offered. I got in contact with a representative and told her, "I need to get my life together."

My reason for going in was initially for my kids - to get them back. I'm glad that I went in for them, but I stayed for myself. Sometimes when you go into recovery, it can be for one thing, but you have to stay for yourself. Anything can get you in there; only you can keep you there.

The reason for you to stay in recovery is for you. If you don't stay for yourself, you're not going to stay.

02/11/2026

Overcoming indecision

We often find it difficult to make simple decisions in our everyday lives. Sometimes the major decisions are easier to make than minor ones. But it is good practice to ask for help on any issue we need help with, major or minor, simple or complex.

Over time our Higher Power will help us see life situations with increasing clarity. Over time everyday decisions will become easier to make, and everyday irritations will stop paralyzing our thinking.

Am I conquering my indecision?

Higher Power, I pray for greater self-awareness and the willingness to ask for help with everyday indecision.

Today I will ask for help with...

02/10/2026

More about Triggers
I used to think that being able to avoid my triggers would be an indicator of successful recovery. I have since learned that true healing is more about recognizing my triggers, moving through them, and ending up with a different outcome.

For example, I still get triggered when I think that somebody is angry with me. In the past, I would just tell myself that I'm not responsible for other people's feelings and that I should move on. The first part of that last sentence is true. But I was able to ignore other people's anger and move on.

Today, when I feel, suspect, or know that someone is angry with me, I work through it. I start by pondering whether I have done something that deserved their anger, and if the answer is yes, I try to correct or make amends for it.

But as importantly - or even more importantly - I have a little chat with my inner child and remind her that people can get angry with me, and it doesn't mean they will abandon me. I tell myself that over and over until it feels true. And then I can move on.

Triggers lose power when we work through them.

02/09/2026

I don't like a man to be too efficient. He's likely to be not human enough.

On our path, we seek balance. Pursuing any single value and ignoring another, whether it is efficiency, hard work, or leisure, will make us. Psychology tells us our right brain is the creative, intuitive side, and our left brain is the concrete, fact-gathering side. Spending our energies developing only one part of ourselves will leave us incomplete. We, males, have been taught we should be decisive, practical, and have our feet on the ground.

As men, we are also creative and sensitive. We think in stories, pictures, and metaphors, and we love music. At our best, we are willing to place people and relationships ahead of things and goals. When we are wisest and most human, we draw on the many sides of ourselves.

Today, I will use both the creative, intuitive part of me and the practical, decisive part that can get a job done.

02/08/2026

We give thanks for unknown blessings already on their way.

Good things keep happening to us. We are sober. We can think clearly. We can see progress in how we handle our problems. We have friends. We have love. We have hope.

We are starting to love ourselves. We are starting to feel joy. Our fears are getting smaller. We are starting to trust our new way of life. Our new life brings good things to us. It brings blessings every day. We are beginning to expect them. But we're still surprised at how good life can be. What a difference from the days before we entered our program!

Prayer for the Day
Higher Power, thank you for the blessings you keep on giving me. And thanks for whatever today will bring.

Action for the Day
One way to give thanks for my blessings is to share them with others. How can I share my recovery today?

02/07/2026

The farmer may only be planting a seed, but if he opens his eyes he is feeding the whole world.

A traveler journeying through a small village came upon some workers building an impressive structure. "What are you doing⁠⁠?⁠⁠" he asked. The first worker, a young, impatient man, replied in disgust, "I am making three dollars an hour and I'm getting very tired!" The visitor asked another man the same question. "I'm mixing concrete, as you can plainly see," came the sarcastic reply. Finally, a woman working nearby left her wheelbarrow full of bricks and approached the stranger. "We are building a hospital," she said with pride. "Now we will be able to care for all the region's people. Babies will be born here. Lives will be saved."

The stranger looked at the woman with admiration and spoke directly to her. "I know, for this is my hospital. Only you hold the vision of what it is you are creating." The wealthy benefactor then put the woman in charge of construction so his hospital would be built by one who truly understood.

Will I see the importance of even the small things I do today?

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