11/21/2025
I’m posting my new promises because after reading them to my counselor, she suggested I share it!
Backstory- as you may know, my schedule has been filling up like crazy. And as you also may know, I tend to over give, pouring from my own cup. The level of care I hold for others is often something I let overshadow the care I should have for myself. After about a month or two of having a full schedule, full 8 hour days 6 days a week, I started feeling the embers of burnout rising up. Feeling guilt and shame, even weakness, I tried to power through.
But I stepped back, and gave myself grace. I tell my clients all the time to listen to their bodies, rest when they need rest, move when they need movement. Yet do I follow that? Barely. I’m an empath, working in a position that cultivates a lot of compassion, constant giving, and always involves energy, even if isn’t sound healing or reiki. I’m very comfortable with giving up my peace to help someone else. Even allowing myself to take not one, but TWO days off a week created an immense guilt battle within me.
But what good am I to that person, if I show up operating at 50%? Am I really helping someone if I’m allowing my energy and body to over extend themselves? If I’m pouring from a cup that has 1/4 left in it, I’m not doing my best.
So holding myself in grace, I’m making this change. I promise to myself to hold my energy dear, to value myself and my time. Working with guilt - the feeling of letting someone down if I can only see them in 4 weeks as opposed to 2, a level of shame in relaxing and letting myself rest when there are people in need - I am reminding myself that not only am I allowed to, but it is best if I put myself first. It’s not selfish. It’s selfFULL.
If you feel stuck, burnt out, have no energy left for your own enjoyment at the end of the day, I encourage you to make a reminder list for yourself. Create boundaries. Make your needs known and met. We are human, we are all experiencing life together, and we are allowed to care for ourselves in a way that allows us to enjoy this life instead of being a slave to it. You don’t need to make huge changes overnight. You don’t need to rewrite your entire life script. Just remind yourself of what you need, the things you need to be fully and completely YOU.
In sharing my own personal experience and inner promises, I say this all because I know I am not alone. Too often do we all put everything in front of ourselves.
I don’t want my lack of self love to take away from the love I have for what I do.
Even healers need time to heal!
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REMINDER TO MYSELF
I am allowed to receive, even without giving
I am allowed to be human
I am allowed to have good days and bad days
I am allowed to have boundaries
It’s not wrong of me to take time to care for myself
It’s not wrong of me to say no
It’s okay to reschedule someone farther out than what they want instead of using my personal time to accommodate
I’m allowed to make things better for myself and my own benefit
I am allowed to step away to fill my cup
I have a set schedule for myself and it’s okay that I hold to that
If someone is let down or upset with me, it’s not my issue
I can only do my best even if my best changes day to day
I promise to hold firm to my boundaries and to be gentle with myself
I can care for myself the way I care for others
I am allowed to receive good energy
I deserve good energy
I deserve to be at peace
❤️Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu❤️
