All Too Well Therapy

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Narcissists are nicer to everyone but you because their image is important to them.

To the outside world they are charming, helpful, generous, and emotionally intelligent. They know exactly how to perform kindness where it will be seen, praised, and remembered. Their reputation is their currency, and they invest in it carefully. Strangers, coworkers, friends, even people they barely like will receive the best version of them — the smiles, the patience, the understanding, the calm tone.

But behind closed doors, with you, the mask drops.

Because you don’t serve the same purpose as the audience.

You are not there to admire the performance — you are there to maintain the illusion. Your role is to constantly affirm their importance, feed their ego, absorb their insecurities, and stay small enough so they can feel big. They don’t need to impress you; they need to dominate you. Your feelings, your needs, and your voice become inconvenient because they challenge the image they are trying to protect.

They will use you as a mirror that only reflects their greatness back to them.
They will drain your energy to feel powerful.
They will belittle you to feel superior.
They will withhold affection so you work harder for their approval.

And the more you give, the more entitled they feel to take.

In public, they shine.
In private, you shrink.

This is why it’s so confusing — everyone else sees the “amazing” person, while you live with the reality. They protect their reputation at all costs, even if it means sacrificing your self-worth to do it.

You were never meant to be loved in the relationship —
you were meant to be the supply that keeps their sense of omnipotence alive.

And the moment you stop feeding that illusion,
they either try to break you…
or they go searching for someone else who will.