All Too Well Therapy

01/14/2026

Your freedom is a mirror they’re not ready to look into. 🖋️

01/14/2026

01/12/2026

There’s a reason your relationships feel heavier than they should. You didn’t just “pick the wrong people.” You were trained early to ignore yourself. When your mother needed you to be the calm one, the fixer, the pleaser — you learned that love meant disappearing. When she minimized your feelings, used you for emotional support, compared you, or shamed your boundaries, your nervous system wired itself around one message: your needs are a problem. So now you find yourself chasing, over-explaining, apologizing, bending, and calling it love — when in reality, it’s self-abandonment dressed up as loyalty.

The problem is, the pattern feels familiar — and familiar feels safe, even when it’s destroying you. You keep ending up with partners who need rescuing, who give the bare minimum, who punish you for having needs, or who only show up when it benefits them. Part of you believes if you can finally get someone like that to love you, it will heal what your mother couldn’t give. But it doesn’t. Instead, it keeps ripping the same wound open. You don’t trust your feelings. You question your reality. You try harder. You stay longer. And you blame yourself for hurting.

Healing isn’t about blaming her — but it is about telling the truth. You have to learn the love you didn’t receive — inside you — before you try to find it in someone else. That means boundaries that actually protect you. Saying what you feel without apologizing for it. Letting people be disappointed without betraying yourself. And stopping the pattern of chasing people who can’t choose you. When you finally choose yourself, the relationships that drain you won’t feel like “love” anymore — they’ll feel like what they are: the old wound asking to be healed.

01/12/2026

One woman is not enough for narcissistic men, and they chase multiple women because they are actually more interested in other men and male validation.

Think about it. He's not juggling multiple women because he's so attracted to them. He's doing it because of how it makes him look to other men. It's about the bragging rights. The locker room stories. The "body count" he can flex to his boys. The ego boost he gets when other men see him with a new woman and think he's winning.

You were never the prize. You were the proof. Proof that he's desirable. Proof that he can pull whoever he wants. Proof that he's not tied down or controlled by any woman. Every woman he collects is just another trophy to validate his fragile masculinity in front of other men.

And the sickest part? He doesn't even genuinely connect with any of these women. He's too busy performing masculinity for an audience of other insecure men who measure their worth the exact same way. It's all a competition. All about status. All about ego.
That's why he can't be satisfied with one loyal, loving woman.

Because one woman who truly knows him, who sees his flaws, who expects consistency, that's terrifying. That requires actual vulnerability and growth. Multiple shallow connections where nobody gets too close? That's safe. That lets him maintain the illusion without ever having to be real.

So no, it's not about you not being enough. It's about him being so empty inside that he needs constant external validation just to feel like a man.

And sis, you can't fill a void that deep. Stop trying.

01/11/2026

Your home wasn’t broken by divorce.

It was broken by the man you divorced.

Divorce didn’t create the chaos.
It ended it.

The damage started with disrespect,
with neglect,
with behavior that made peace impossible.

Paperwork doesn’t destroy homes.
Patterns do.

Leaving wasn’t giving up on family.
It was protecting it.

A home isn’t four walls and a title.
It’s safety.
Stability.
Emotional health.

And when one person poisons the environment,
walking away is not failure.
It’s rescue.

The home broke long before the divorce.
The divorce just stopped the bleeding.

01/11/2026

DBT Skills. Interpersonal Effectiveness Module. Skill : Invalidation - learning to reognise and address this . ( Validation is a separate skill)