03/05/2024
“All my husband wants is s*x.”
I hear wives say this often, but it just isn’t true.
I’m going to clarify and state that I understand there are some husbands (maybe more than some) who are only interested in bedroom rodeo. Their level of give in a relationship is a one-way street…they want what they want when they want it. It’s difficult for me to even call this type of male a man, because their behavior and emotional development is more in line with a self-centered adolescent.
This post is more so about husband’s who work hard to be a good partner, who care about the emotional wellness of the relationship, as well as, make efforts to meet their partner’s relationship needs.
So, what does your husband want more than s*x?
You likely know that it’s important for wives to feel connected to have s*x, but husbands need to have s*x to feel deeply connected. Sure, there is the physical pleasure, but there is a more important emotional need that is being satisfied as well. It’s the need to be wanted in the most vulnerable way by the person he committed his life to.
By the time he’s married, your husband has likely already been battered by the world of competition and rejection. He might even be tired of pretending to be someone he’s not in order to be chosen. He longs for someone who sees him for who he is and still wants him, who can hold and touch his body, but also his heart.
It takes a lot of emotional maturity and courage for a man to let his wife know he may want s*x, but more importantly is his need for security and connection that only comes from the vulnerability of physical intimacy.
Being able to acknowledge this deeper need is one of the manliest things a man can do.
