Anne Unterkoefler, LCSW

10/18/2025

life doesn’t always go the way we plan…

and that’s okay.

The ups, downs, and detours are all part of discovering who we are and where we’re meant to be.

You’re not lost, you’re exploring

Trust the process, take your time, and enjoy the journey.

10/12/2025

10/12/2025

When a child is melting down, our instincts can take over — and not always the helpful ones.
We might lecture, rush to fix, or tell them to calm down… but these actually block co-regulation rather than build it.

Let’s talk about what not to do — and what to try instead — so we can truly help a child borrow our calm instead of our chaos.

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Managing Big Feelings: A Toolkit for Parents & Educators, a Parent and Educators Toolkit

Helping children turn big emotions into skills for life.

When a child’s emotions feel too big to handle, it can be overwhelming — for them and for you.
Managing Big Feelings: The Toolkit is your go-to resource for guiding children through strong emotions with empathy, clarity, and proven strategies.

What’s Inside:
• Step-by-step calming strategies for moments of overwhelm
• Practical activities to build emotional awareness
• Visual aids to help children recognise and name their feelings
• Scripts and prompts for supportive conversations
• Tools for parents, educators, and support staff

This toolkit is grounded in evidence-based approaches to emotional regulation. It’s designed to work in classrooms, at home, and in one-to-one settings, helping children learn how to manage their emotions in ways that are safe, healthy, and empowering.

Download now and start turning emotional overwhelm into growth, resilience, and connection.

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10/10/2025

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10/10/2025

Causes of Low Self-Esteem in Kids

10/07/2025

10/06/2025

When our child is dysregulated, logic and listening go offline — their brain is in survival mode, not learning mode. 💥
Our job in those moments isn’t to teach or correct, it’s to help them feel safe and calm first.
Only then can they truly hear us. 💛

✨ More practical tools like this in my book Guidance from the Therapist Parent — available on www.thetherapistparent.com and Amazon.

10/06/2025

Trauma can rewire your brain in ways that keep you stuck in survival mode:
Hypervigilant. Anxious. Emotional flashbacks
But there's good news: the brain is also capable of rewiring itself to promote healing.
Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) helps make that possible. By targeting negative images and negative sensations which calm the amygdala, and utilizing your brain’s own process of memory reconsolidation, ART enables the facts to remain while the emotional charge dissolves. New, safe imagery replaces old fears. Overthinking quiets down. Your nervous system learns what it feels like to reset. Reconsolidation means that the brain can interrupt negative thoughts and behaviors so that new positive perspectives are now the focus.
Healing doesn’t erase your story. It changes the way your brain and body carry it, so resilience feels natural instead of forced.
Find an ART-trained therapist near you www.ARTworksnow.com

10/05/2025

👻🎃 Some truths can haunt us, and some can heal us. Both can exist at the same time. When we learn to hold these truths, we can finally break free from cycles that no longer serve us. 💀✨

👉 Read more in Break The Cycle Of Generational Conflict here: https://reachoutrecovery.com/break-the-cycle/

06/03/2025

Trust. We all know it as the essential glue that keeps relationships relating and workplaces working. We all sense when it's not there. And when trust breaks down, it can be tough to figure out how to make things right or to know where to start.

Trust is a layered concept involving nuance, accountability, and emotional skill, but rather than trying to tackle all aspects at once, it can often be helpful to keep things simple. That's why I wanted to share this handy visual with you. I use this model any time I need to help myself and others understand how trust has been broken, and more importantly, how we can move forward with the crucial process of repair.

In her 2009 article, “Trust Repair After an Organization-Level Failure (co-authored with Graham Dietz), Nicole Gillespie discusses the three components of trust: ability, benevolence, and integrity,. For more on this topic, you can take a look at Nicole Gillespie’s fantastic work:
-Gillespie, N. & Dietz, G. (2009). Trust repair after an organization-level failure. Academy of Management Review, 34 (1), 127-145.
- Gillespie, N., Dietz, G. & Lockey, S. (2014) Organizational Reintegration and Trust Repair after an Integrity Violation: A Case Study. Business Ethics Quarterly, 24 (3), 371-410.
- Bachmann, R., Gillespie, N. & Priem, R. (2015). Repairing Trust in Organizations and Institutions: Toward a Conceptual Framework. Organization Studies, 36 (9), 1123-1142.

04/16/2025

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