11/14/2025
Our early childhood mental health team was recently asked to assist with toddlers who suffered a loss. We want to share some simple tips with you
Supporting Toddlers Through Grief
When young children experience the loss of someone important they rely on the adults around them to feel safe, supported, and understood. Here are some gentle strategies that can help your toddler navigate grief:
1. Keep explanations simple and honest.
Use brief, concrete language they can understand.
For example: “Your teacher died. That means their body stopped working. We won’t be able to see them anymore, but we can still remember them.”
2. Expect big feelings in small moments.
Clinginess, sadness, confusion, or changes in sleep and behavior are all normal ways toddlers express grief.
3. Create predictable routines.
Consistent daily rhythms help toddlers feel secure during times of change.
4. Offer comfort through connection.
Holding, rocking, singing familiar songs, and extra one-on-one time help their body feel, “You are safe.”
5. Use play to support emotional expression.
Pretend play, drawing, movement, and acting out familiar routines allow toddlers to process feelings in the ways they know best.
6. Share simple memories.
Say things like:
“It felt good when your teacher read stories with you.”
“We’re glad they were part of our classroom family.”
7. Revisit the topic as needed.
Grief isn’t linear. Toddlers may ask the same questions again and again—your calm, consistent responses help them understand.
Supporting toddlers through grief is an ongoing process, and your presence, patience, and warmth make all the difference. If you have questions or concerns, don’t hesitate to reach out for support.
