03/12/2026
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Everyone, regardless of can be guilty of invalidation and undermining safety in their relationship.
My hot take, and you’re not going to like this, is that partners are often worse at it. In part because the have less practice. Their partners never ask for validation and when they finally try, it often doesn’t go well. In part because the couple has no practice.
This leads to avoidant to assume that they shouldn’t open up ever again.
A lot of my work is to remind to try again and to keep trying because their partners aren’t perfect and might not get it right on the rare occasion you choose to show a little vulnerability
