Molly Kasper, LMFT

08/28/2023

I'm so honored to join The Fertility Resort team as a mental health provider and IVF mama

𝑴𝒆𝒆𝒕 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝑴𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒍 𝑯𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒕𝒉 𝑷𝒓𝒐𝒗𝒊𝒅𝒆𝒓𝒔 ~

We're so excited to introduce one of our staff mental health providers: Molly Kasper! Molly is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with more than 15 years of experience as a provider and almost a decade of personal experience with infertility. Molly is truly a north star who has helped guide dozens of women through their infertility journeys. We're so incredibly honored to have her on The Fertility Resort Team. 🤍

𝑳𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝑴𝒐𝒍𝒍𝒚 ~
"I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who works specifically with couples and adult individuals. I am an Iowa native but moved to Florida after meeting my husband (a Floridian) in Haiti on a mission trip. I have been in Pensacola since 2011 and I have been working with couples and adults since. While my strengths tend to be helping others heal in relationships and helping individuals with anxiety, depression, and self-esteem issues, I also accidentally fell into the specialty of infertility after experiencing it myself. My husband and I started trying for children a couple of years after being married. But like most infertility couples, soon find ourselves in a doctors office trying to figure out what was wrong. We are one of those “unexplained” cases, and it took us 7 years to finally have our son via embryo adoption. My experience with so many egg retrievals, transfers, and miscarriages has given me the honor and experience to help those who have found themselves on a similar path. Infertility is this unique world where most people who are suffering from it don’t want support from others who haven’t experienced it. And while I never would say that I’m grateful for what I went through, I am able to see the silver lining as I am able to be many people’s “person” as they go through the hell that infertility is. I’m so honored and excited to be a part of The Fertility Resort and I hope my professional and personal experience can touch the members of this group!" - Molly Kasper

06/16/2023

SCAM ALERT! Someone has created an account with a card processing company and is charging people under my business name. So far this has not affected any of my current clients, but strangers who have never used my services. If you see anything suspicious going on please let me know ASAP! I am taking care of this immediately and it should be resolved soon.

10/24/2021

This is a great reminder of how to differentiate between boundaries and rules. This isn’t just for children, this can be applied to your marriage and other relationships.

10/19/2021

Just a reminder for anyone looking for counseling or knows of someone who is… the easiest way to check my availability is to go to my website linked below! You can see what days and times work for you and request an appointment there. Once I confirm, you’ll be sent some intake paperwork and you’re all set!

I am currently accepting new clients and see children over 5 y/o, individuals and couples.

www.Pensacolamarriagecounseling.com

10/10/2021

I don’t normally share personal things on this page, but this is important for a couple reasons. I hope my story encourages you and helps you keep pushing through whatever tough season you’re in. I pray this gives you hope and makes you realize you’re not alone. Most people didn’t know the darkness and isolation I experienced for 7 years. You’re not alone.

But also, to my current clients, this means I’ll be taking maternity leave starting mid-February (assuming he keeps cooking like he’s supposed to!) I will be talking with each of you to coordinate referrals and scheduling when I get back in the office.

Thank you to all of you for your support!

(From original post)
Seven years
Millions of prayers
Millions of tears
Three infertility doctors
One hundred and twenty thousand dollars
Five surgeries
Four egg retrievals
Seven rounds of IVF (embryo transfers)
Four miscarriages
Three precious gifts (3 donated embryos)
ONE. HUGE. MIRACLE 💙

05/12/2021

I rarely think about my sobriety in terms of years. For me, celebrating 25 years of sobriety is about reflecting back on “trying to do the next right thing” for the past 9,125 days or, more honestly, for the past 219,000 hours. It also means staying humble and grateful that, with the help of countless people, I’ve been able to get back up the same number of times I’ve fallen down. And I fall a lot.

The biggest learnings from the past 25 years are twofold:

1. Own the stories and the hard s**t, or the stories you’re trying to outrun and the pain you’re denying will own you. The truth will set you free. It will kick your ass first, but then it will set you free.

2. We don’t have to do the hard stuff alone. We weren’t meant to. We heal in connection. This is why it pi**es me off when people shove my work into the self-help category.

The gifts that have accompanied my daily and sometimes hourly decision to feel instead of numb have been too many to name, but the one that I rarely talk about is how my sobriety has affected my level of self-trust.

I write a lot about trust as a marble jar. We build trust like we collect marbles – one small gesture at a time. It’s not a big, sweeping act or a single gesture in a stressful moment. Trust is a collection of small moments.

We talk about trust between people and groups, but we often forget about self-trust. Self-trust is normally the first casualty of failure or mistakes. We stop trusting ourselves when we hurt, get hurt, feel shame, or question our worth.

Here’s how we use the BRAVING tool to think about self-trust:

B - Did I respect my own boundaries? Was I clear about what’s okay and what’s not okay?
R - Was I reliable? Did I do what I said I was going to do?
A - Did I hold myself accountable?
V - Did I respect the vault and share appropriately?
I - Did I act from my integrity?
N- Did I ask for what I needed? Was I nonjudgmental about needing help?
G - Was I generous toward myself?

Today, I’m putting 25 marbles in my self-trust jar. One for every year of my messy, hard af, wonderful, wholehearted, imperfect, sober life.

xo,
BB

05/04/2021

Hope this frees some of you from parent guilt.

If your child was physically sick or had a broken bone you would take them to a doctor, so the same applies for when they have mental health struggles. Some signs your child is struggling:

1. Constant nightmares
2. Acting out in a manner different from their normal self
3. Bullying or self-harm
4. Struggling academically or recent decline in grades
5. Always needing to sleep or not able to sleep
6. Struggles with touch- hugs, plying with friends etc

I’ve done a few topics on parenting and helping children with their mental health. Listen here: https://anchor.fm/cleaningupthementalmess/episodes/The-neuroscience-of-dreams--nightmares--how-to-have-better-dreams--help-your-children-process-and-understand-nightmares-e104eq4

04/14/2021

Such a powerful and insightful post from my friend !

Caption repost from Nate: “Many of us who grew up in environments where making a mistake had serious repercussions. We’ve grown into being people who have no margin for error. We live with a constant pressure cooker inside of us, believing that if we exhale or if we drop the ball we will be punished.⁣
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What we fail to see is what we called mistakes as a kid, were not mistakes. It was an innocent kid growing up in an environment that wasn’t safe. If a child grows up feeling like they’re not operating correctly, and fearing repercussions for simply being a kid, they will work overtime and exhaust themselves to never make what they call “mistakes.” These kids turn into adults who continue to work overtime to not make mistakes. ⁣
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This is not celebrating having issues with being in control. This is not encouraging someone to put up with someone controlling them. This is not justifying unhealthy controlling behavior. This is saying if you have felt that pressure cooker that I’m talking about, you deserve relief.⁣
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And, it’s not about no longer relinquishing control or making mistakes. It’s about honoring that young kid in you who had no margin. It’s giving them the freedom to know they’re safe, and that you are going to lessen the intensity that they feel by showing up for them. ⁣
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That means, allowing mistakes to happen. That means accepting help from others. That means offering the younger version of you the freedom to no longer feel this pressure, and relax. That means honoring that terrified part of you that feels responsible for everything and often alone.⁣
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I’m so glad you’re here. I’m grateful we are sharing our stories and talking openly about the things we long to change in order to live a life where we are connected to our core self in peaceful ways. 🙏❤️”

Check out the episode we did to gather on my podcast: https://anchor.fm/cleaningupthementalmess/episodes/How-to-do-inner-child-work-to-heal-trauma--how-to-find-the-right-therapist-to-help-you-heal-your-trauma-esse1s

03/30/2021

One of my best childhood friends just became a marriage and family therapist and is already doing big things! Check out his podcast called Becoming Man!

Podcast · Anthony Mielke and Marshall McElhinney · The purpose of the Becoming Man podcast is to explore the human experience of becoming from a male perspective. Becoming Man explores challenges to and resources for actualizing a life of physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and relationa...

03/27/2021

For the person thinking about going to therapy: I’m proud of you.

For the person just starting therapy: you are amazing.

For the person just starting to recognize they have un-healed trauma and need help healing: you are incredibly.

For the person recognizing toxic family patterns and wanting to end generational trauma: you are my hero.

https://www.cleaningupyourmentalmess.com

09/18/2020

Excited to share that our office has power! I’m so ready to see your faces on Monday and get back to a little normalcy!

During a time like this, this quote by Maya Angelou comes to mind. If you suffered minimal damage and have the ability to help others, please do so. It could be your times, money, or resources. Please see what others are going through and meet their needs. Don’t wait for them to ask for help because most likely they won’t.