Lauren Auer LCPC

Lauren Auer LCPC Therapy should be one of the best parts of your week. Illinois based therapist

Somewhere along the way, a lot of us got the message that needing things was the problem.Not in those words, usually. It...
04/22/2026

Somewhere along the way, a lot of us got the message that needing things was the problem.

Not in those words, usually. It came through in subtler ways. The praise for being “so mature.” The help that came with strings. The home where asking felt like too much to ask. We absorbed the lesson early and learned to move through the world quietly, taking up as little space as possible.

And then we wonder why accepting help feels so uncomfortable now. Why a simple offer from someone who genuinely wants to show up can make us anxious, suspicious, or just... frozen.

This adaptation I s a very logical response to what you were taught.

The hard part is that the world doesn’t always look like the one you grew up in.

Some people actually mean it when they offer. Some help doesn’t come with a bill. Your nervous system just hasn’t had enough evidence of that yet.

That’s what healing this piece looks like, collecting new evidence. Slowly.
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Will they hear it. Will it land. Will it change anything. And when the answer feels like probably not, most of the time ...
04/20/2026

Will they hear it. Will it land. Will it change anything. And when the answer feels like probably not, most of the time you let it go.

Which makes sense. It’s exhausting to explain yourself to people who’ve already decided.

But there’s a different reason to say it. One that has nothing to do with whether they receive it. When you stay quiet to keep the peace, you’re not just avoiding conflict. You’re letting someone else’s version of you go unchallenged. And over time, that silence starts to feel like agreement.

Saying it out loud, even imperfectly, even to someone who won’t get it, is how you stay the author of your own story.

They don’t have to understand it. You just can’t let them write it.

04/17/2026

Anyone else?

04/16/2026

It’s satire guys…That’s all I got. Happy distraction.

God speed.

Emotions are not random. They are responsive. When someone comes into my office exhausted, my immediate response isn’t t...
04/14/2026

Emotions are not random. They are responsive. When someone comes into my office exhausted, my immediate response isn’t to try and fix the exhaustion, but rather to get curious about what the exhaustion is responding to.

sometimes the answer is that you’ve been building something your body just needs rest from, and sometimes the answer is that you’ve been holding something together that was never yours to hold and no amount of rest is going to touch it.

The environment matters. The circumstances matter. feelings don’t exist in a vacuum and neither does burn out. Before you path the exhaustion it’s worth asking what it’s actually coming from.

I wrote about this topic on my Substack this week because I truly don’t think we talk about this enough. I think truly u...
04/13/2026

I wrote about this topic on my Substack this week because I truly don’t think we talk about this enough.

I think truly understanding how healing works, can be greatly impacted by understanding the nuance in this illustration of anger, longing and grief.

Link is in my bio to here’s the whole thing. This week’s article is free and this Substack is a true labor of love. Consider subscribing if you resonate!

04/08/2026

Something that comes up a lot in my work is people who have spent years believing that saying no was just something they weren’t capable of. Like it was a character thing. A confidence thing. Something other people could do that they just couldn’t figure out.

What they didn’t know was that their brain had been collecting evidence for a very long time that other people’s comfort and their own safety were connected. And you cannot willpower your way out of a nervous system response.

The good news is the brain that learned it can unlearn it. Just needs different evidence. Which means you actually have more agency here than you think.

There’s nothing wrong with being functional. Coping is not failure. But there is a difference between getting better at ...
04/07/2026

There’s nothing wrong with being functional. Coping is not failure. But there is a difference between getting better at managing your life and actually healing the thing underneath it. One makes life more bearable. The other changes what you need to survive.

If you’ve been wondering which one you’re doing, you’re not alone. And the fact that you’re asking is usually meaningful in itself.

04/06/2026

Stop pathologizing the very thing that kept you safe .

The scanning, the back to the wall, the reading into a tone of voice that wasn’t even directed at them. That’s a nervous system that learned what danger felt like and decided it was never going to be caught off guard again.

The problem is that the threat it’s guarding against isn’t usually present anymore. But the body doesn’t know that. It just knows what it learned, and it is loyal to that learning in a way that is honestly kind of breathtaking when you stop pathologizing it and start getting curious about it.

What actually shifts it isn’t insight. People can understand this completely and still feel it. What shifts it is evidence. Repeated, embodied experiences of safety that slowly give the nervous system different information to work from.

That’s slow work. But it starts with stopping the self-blame long enough to ask “what was my body actually trying to do here?”

Maybe ‘keeping the peace’ looks responsible. Mature, even. Don’t make a scene, don’t make it weird. Absorb it and move o...
04/02/2026

Maybe ‘keeping the peace’ looks responsible. Mature, even. Don’t make a scene, don’t make it weird. Absorb it and move on.

Except sometimes you don’t really move on. You just move it somewhere else. Into your body, your sleep, your low grade irritability that shows up three weeks later over something completely unrelated.

Silence has a cost. It doesn’t always announce itself right away, but it does accumulate. At some point the weight of everything unsaid starts to feel like evidence that you were never allowed to take up space in the first place.

04/01/2026

There are very few topics that will get me on a soapbox faster than this one. And after yesterday‘s Supreme Court ruling, I’m not staying quiet.

If you haven’t heard, the court ruled 8 to 1 that states can no longer use professional licensing laws to ban talk therapy conversion therapy on minors, which means the laws that were protecting LGBTQ plus kids in 23 states and DC are almost certainly going to fall.

Watch the full video then share it with every therapist, Parent, advocate etc. in your life who needs to understand what this ruling actually means. I’m not just talking about legally. I’m talking about clinically.

We need people who know the whole story right now
tag a therapist or mental health advocate below.

This is the moment to be loud.

03/31/2026

Not everyone who speaks fluently about their healing is actually healing.

I see this pattern a lot. Someone has done enough reading, enough therapy, enough podcasts, that they can explain their patterns really well. They know the words. They have the framework.

But knowing the word for something is not the same as working through it.

The tell for me is always the friction. People who are genuinely changing bump up against themselves. They’re annoyed. They contradict themselves sometimes. Something is visibly being challenged.

When everything has a clean explanation, I start paying closer attention.

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