MindOasis Counseling

02/28/2026

It's easy to say you'll change. Actually changing requires consistent effort that you can see and feel, not just promises that sound good in the moment. Here's how you know your partner is genuinely trying.

They change their behavior, not just their words. They bring up the issue before you have to. They catch themselves mid-pattern and choose differently. They ask what you need instead of assuming they already know.

They follow through without being reminded. They take feedback without making you feel bad for giving it. They're consistent when no one is watching, not just when things are rocky.

Effort you can see is effort you can trust. Real change shows up in actions, not apologies. If they're actually trying, you'll feel it in how they show up, not just in what they say.

02/28/2026

A gentle reframe.

You are worth more. 🙏🏾🖤

01/06/2026

All clients need to log into their portal and complete the new paperwork for 2026. Thank you so much! There are several changes this year. Cheers to a year of healing and growth!

TherapyPortal improves patient/therapist communication by allowing for self-scheduling, appointment reminders, and much more.

08/17/2025

We are starting back up Colorful Healing Paint Nights for clients! If you want to know the details and reserve your spot, join us through the Remind app.🎨🖌️

07/11/2025

People will get angry with you, leave you out, talk badly about you, misunderstand and judge you. Their opinions are reflections of THEIR own perceptions, not a measure of YOUR worth. Just because someone says something it doesnt make it true (it is just their thoughts and thoughts can be changed). You do not need to explain yourself to those who are not looking for your good. You are not responsible for how others choose to see you or how they react to your truth. You are responsible for what you choose to believe and the decisions/behaviors you make every minute. You are the key to your inner peace.

What/Who is meant to leave will leave, and change will happen no matter how desperately you try to hold on and prevent it. What is meant to stay will find a way, no matter how uncertain things seem. Allow the changes and release your resistance to chane and flow with life.

Release the need to grasp what is breaking/changing. Examine your fears and thoughts. Are you fearful that nothing good will replace it or the what if questions? Use your coping skills to regulate your body.

The universe is constantly offering new relationships, experiences and purpose. The only thing keeping you from it is your stubborness and fears. Work on releasing what no longer belongs in your life because it has served its purpose. Your good and happy times has not disappeared forever. There is still more happiness to experience, more love to receive, more peace to be found. But you must be willing to make room for it and allow it to flow into your life!

So, ask yourself, “What am I holding onto that is keeping me stuck with lots of yucky feelings and experiences?” When you find the answer, trust yourself enough to let it go. Something better is already on its way.

Women Helping Heal Women

06/16/2025

Happy Daddy's Day!

A man’s treatment of his children speaks volumes about his character. An honorable Dad understands that fatherhood is forever. He doesn’t let distance, disagreements, sexuality, personal choices, or money excuse his absence. A good parent doesn’t need to be reminded to show up. He is consistent and reliable, listens, gives advice, protects, nurtures, encourages, lifts up and supports and guides his children, no matter the circumstances. Thank you to the men who are always there for their kids and know your presence means everything!

A man who can turn his back on his flesh and blood, lacks accountability, makes excuses, lacks emotional availability, uses fear or shame or leaves his kids behind to start a new life is not a Dad and is a man who will secretly carry regret and pain. These are men who need to heal and leave a legacy of emotional pain. l am acknowledging all of the kids and adult children who feel so much grief and pain on Father's Day.

Women Helping Heal Women

01/27/2025

Thank you to all of the women who were vulnerable today and participated in the workshop to heal and prevent toxic romantic relationships. We are in the process of planning the next workshop, so please contact us if you would like to attend.

12/04/2024

ASAP! I am looking for donations for a client who left an abusive relationship. (So proud of her! We all know how hard it is to leave an emotionally and physically abusive relationship.) She needs basic supplies for her new home. She has 3 children ages 12-17. Looking for kitchen table and chairs, 2 shower curtains, new towels/washcloths, dish soap, laundry detergent, dressers, hangers, paper towels/napkins, toilet paper, dish rack for clean dishes, curtains/blinds for windows and sliding glass door, lamps, Christmas decorations, silverware organizer, kitchen garbage can (bags) and one for the bathroom. Basic tools (hammers, screw drivers, etc.) If you want to donate giftcards for new supplies, I will go and purchase them with her. She will also need help for providing Christmas gifts. Also, if you have connections with a divorce attorney that would be helpful.

11/01/2024

Photos from our Colorful Healing Paint Class It was an amazing time as we explored our own inner shadows. So many talented women!!!

09/14/2024

Do not put your children through the same conditions you experienced with the same people, expecting this time to be different.

When people have not changed, be intentional about what the relationship can look like with your children. If you’re unsure if someone has changed, it might be time to have a difficult conversation to assess if they think, behave differently, and can accept accountability.