MindOasis Counseling

10/11/2025

🎨 Halloween Colorful Healing paint night! Message me if you you can do Oct 24th or Nov 1st.🎃

08/17/2025

We are starting back up Colorful Healing Paint Nights for clients! If you want to know the details and reserve your spot, join us through the Remind app.🎨🖌️

07/11/2025

People will get angry with you, leave you out, talk badly about you, misunderstand and judge you. Their opinions are reflections of THEIR own perceptions, not a measure of YOUR worth. Just because someone says something it doesnt make it true (it is just their thoughts and thoughts can be changed). You do not need to explain yourself to those who are not looking for your good. You are not responsible for how others choose to see you or how they react to your truth. You are responsible for what you choose to believe and the decisions/behaviors you make every minute. You are the key to your inner peace.

What/Who is meant to leave will leave, and change will happen no matter how desperately you try to hold on and prevent it. What is meant to stay will find a way, no matter how uncertain things seem. Allow the changes and release your resistance to chane and flow with life.

Release the need to grasp what is breaking/changing. Examine your fears and thoughts. Are you fearful that nothing good will replace it or the what if questions? Use your coping skills to regulate your body.

The universe is constantly offering new relationships, experiences and purpose. The only thing keeping you from it is your stubborness and fears. Work on releasing what no longer belongs in your life because it has served its purpose. Your good and happy times has not disappeared forever. There is still more happiness to experience, more love to receive, more peace to be found. But you must be willing to make room for it and allow it to flow into your life!

So, ask yourself, “What am I holding onto that is keeping me stuck with lots of yucky feelings and experiences?” When you find the answer, trust yourself enough to let it go. Something better is already on its way.

Women Helping Heal Women

06/16/2025

Happy Daddy's Day!

A man’s treatment of his children speaks volumes about his character. An honorable Dad understands that fatherhood is forever. He doesn’t let distance, disagreements, sexuality, personal choices, or money excuse his absence. A good parent doesn’t need to be reminded to show up. He is consistent and reliable, listens, gives advice, protects, nurtures, encourages, lifts up and supports and guides his children, no matter the circumstances. Thank you to the men who are always there for their kids and know your presence means everything!

A man who can turn his back on his flesh and blood, lacks accountability, makes excuses, lacks emotional availability, uses fear or shame or leaves his kids behind to start a new life is not a Dad and is a man who will secretly carry regret and pain. These are men who need to heal and leave a legacy of emotional pain. l am acknowledging all of the kids and adult children who feel so much grief and pain on Father's Day.

Women Helping Heal Women

01/27/2025

Thank you to all of the women who were vulnerable today and participated in the workshop to heal and prevent toxic romantic relationships. We are in the process of planning the next workshop, so please contact us if you would like to attend.

12/04/2024

ASAP! I am looking for donations for a client who left an abusive relationship. (So proud of her! We all know how hard it is to leave an emotionally and physically abusive relationship.) She needs basic supplies for her new home. She has 3 children ages 12-17. Looking for kitchen table and chairs, 2 shower curtains, new towels/washcloths, dish soap, laundry detergent, dressers, hangers, paper towels/napkins, toilet paper, dish rack for clean dishes, curtains/blinds for windows and sliding glass door, lamps, Christmas decorations, silverware organizer, kitchen garbage can (bags) and one for the bathroom. Basic tools (hammers, screw drivers, etc.) If you want to donate giftcards for new supplies, I will go and purchase them with her. She will also need help for providing Christmas gifts. Also, if you have connections with a divorce attorney that would be helpful.

11/01/2024

Photos from our Colorful Healing Paint Class It was an amazing time as we explored our own inner shadows. So many talented women!!!

09/14/2024

Do not put your children through the same conditions you experienced with the same people, expecting this time to be different.

When people have not changed, be intentional about what the relationship can look like with your children. If you’re unsure if someone has changed, it might be time to have a difficult conversation to assess if they think, behave differently, and can accept accountability.

09/11/2024

Spread the word this is for any women and girls 13 years and up to learn signs to look for to prevent traumatic relationships and terrible self-worth.

08/29/2024

05/23/2024

My Healing Journey:

The more I grow emotionally and spiritually, the more I am okay with accepting the “Let Them” in my own life and relationships. Even family & friends can mistreat and disrespect you. It is hard to swallow but it is true.

This is something that took me a very long time to learn. I use to tolerate a lot of toxic behaviors because I didn't want to lose people, especially people I loved. I would try my best to please others. I learned the hard way if they were really my people they would never treat me like that.

Don't make the mistake of being so understanding and forgiving that you overlook the fact that you're being repeatedly disrespected and emotionally abused.

When someone is truly sorry they make positive changes and do not try to shame you or make you feel guilty.

Let them be upset.
Let them judge you.
Let them misunderstand you.
Let them gossip about you.
Let them ignore you.
Let them be "right."
Let them doubt you.
Let them not like you.
Let them not speak to you.
Let them run your name in the ground.
Let them make you out to be the villain.

Whatever it is that people want to say about you, let them! You can’t control them. Kindly step aside and LET THEM. You know your heart and you can see your own good. You know your worth and you are deserving of inner peace.

The hard truth is they know how much they are hurting you. They just simply don't care. They did it knowing it could cause them to lose you. They did it anyway. People that love you care about how they make you feel. They don’t forget you or leave you out. They don’t talk badly about you. Love is treating others the way you would want to be treated and talk to.

There will be people that would rather lose you than be honest about what they've done to you. Taking ownership is something narcissistic unhealed people Do Not Do. Let them go.

The lack of respect was the closure. The lack of apology was the closure. The lack of care was the closure. The lack of acountability was the closure. The lack of honestly was the closure. Let them go.

Make the decision to no longer sit at tables where you might be the topic when you get up. Let them go. Sit with people who defend your character and know your worth.

You can still be kind. You can even still love them deeply. But do it from the distance they created in their words and actions. Access to you is a privilege they have proven they can’t be trusted with. Let them go.

You don’t need to tell your side of the story. God already knows and so do they. Let them campaign smear you. Let them go.

It’s taken me a long time to get here. Sleepless nights, countless tears, managing a range of emotions filled with anger, disappointment, confusion and deep hurt. Lots of self reflection, self preservation, and seeking wisdom from those wiser than me.

If you are struggling with this, please know you are not alone. We will never understand why people hurt people. We just know hurting others make them feel powerful. But they are not. To be strong we do the hard work to grow and improve ourselves. Because healed people do in fact heal, help and protect themselves from others with toxic patterns.

Don’t you dare let them steal your joy.
Don’t you dare let them steal your light.
Don’t you dare let them steal your peace.
You are in control of that.

Hold tight to what you can control and release your grip on what you can’t control. Set your boundaries to keep your inner peace even if you have to release friends & family that you once believed were your people. Forgive for not being the person you needed them to be. Not to dismiss their bad behavior but to free yourself.

Let them go.

Women Helping Heal Women

04/02/2024

Counseling is so important to change all of the early programming that taught you what was "normal" and change it to: behaviors that make me feel uncomfortable or safe are not okay. I can learn to speak up for myself and others and it is possible to heal and love myself.
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What happened in your house doesn’t need to continue to occur in adulthood.

It is possible to undo unhealthy relationship patterns and learn new healthy skills.