03/26/2026
Healing is very rarely a straightforward path. So many if my clients view it as building or climbing the ladder. Instead, we move with the hurt. We get THROUGH it, not over it. That includes a winding path of complexity. It’s ok if your personal journey looks more like a chutes and ladders game sometimes!
This is the part no one prepares you for.
You think healing is just about walking away and moving forward, like once you create distance everything inside you will settle too. Like clarity will come easily and you’ll finally feel like yourself again.
But what actually happens is you start questioning everything you thought was real. You replay moments, conversations, feelings, trying to figure out where it shifted and how you didn’t see it sooner. It’s not just losing a person, it’s grieving something that felt real to you, even if it wasn’t real to them.
And then there’s the attachment. The part of you that still feels pulled toward them even when you know exactly what they are. That push and pull inside you doesn’t disappear overnight just because you left.
You also run into triggers you didn’t expect. Small things that bring everything back, like your body remembers before your mind can catch up. And in between all of that, there are these heavy, quiet moments that nobody talks about, where you feel exhausted from carrying something you can’t fully explain.
But slowly, in the middle of all that mess, you start rebuilding. You start seeing yourself again. You start choosing yourself in small ways, even when it feels uncomfortable.
Healing isn’t a straight path. It’s messy, confusing, and heavier than people admit.
But every step you take through that mess is you getting your power back.