07/23/2025
Lady Gaga was once asked what she gets from her intense relationship with her fans.
She said that first she chooses to receive her fans’ love. As a performer she has a sense of their energy & receives it. It's like an injection of love, she says. “I can't survive as to what I've become without them.”
What a Lover.
It’s not just performers & artists who practice the art of receiving love, though. Each person has the capacity to both give & receive love.
What I’ve observed in women with big hearts & intense emotions is a tendency to give love as a survival strategy. An unconscious manipulation to get our needs met.
Saying yes when we know we don't have the bandwidth.
Always being available, not speaking up for ourselves out of fear of upsetting our partner, friend, mom…
We became the radiant ones, the caretakers, the deep feelers. Putting everyone else's needs & safety before ours.
We make others feel seen so that, maybe, we would feel seen in return. Ending up feeling lonely, resentful, & exhausted.
This pattern of over-performing in our interpersonal relationships often leads to us feeling used & betrayed. And then we lash out or even try harder. Not considering our part in the dynamic.
If you’ve been there, you know.
So we know how to give love, but do we know how to receive it?
That choice to let love in, to receive help, care, gifts, invitations, support & affection is what makes us evolve & feel connected.
Often this requires building the skill of knowing & asking for what you need.
And that’s what so many of us miss:
Receiving love is an intentionally creative act
to know, ask & let the energy IN.
Doing so transforms you.
It roots you down & makes you soar.
It lets our relationships be fueled by connection, not drained by trying to prove your worth.
You don’t have to be responsible for everyone's feelings.
You don’t have to prove your worthy of being loved.
If you're the Lover who only gives…
This is your reminder that being loved isn't a reward. It's your birthright.
📸 from Pinterest
