ThinkingChild

07/26/2018

I Can Problem Solve Program Video - This 5-minute video chronicles how the award-winning, evidence-based programs I Can Problem Solve (ICPS) for schools, and Raising a Thinking Child (RaTC) for families were born, how kids who think differently, behave differently, and how changing the way we talk to kids will change the way they talk to us – to their peers – and most importantly – to themselves.

This is "Introduction to I Can Problem Solve (ICPS) Programs" by Center for Schools & Communities on Vimeo, the home for high quality videos and the…

10/08/2017

09/28/2017

I will be at the Collingswood Book Fair next week on Saturday, October 7 from l0AM to 4PM Haddon Avenue in Collingswood, New Jersey (near the Collingswood Library at 771 Haddon Avenue). I hope you can attend and hope to see you there. Myrna Shure

09/11/2017

Talking about back to school on WI public radio with Tenley Koehler.

As kids go back to school, problems can arise. Our two guests talk about how to deal with peer pressure, being bullied, over scheduling and test anxiety.

07/16/2017

"Unlike the advice of so many 'parenting experts,' the effectiveness of Dr. Shure's work has been scientifically validated. If you want to prepare your child to become a happy, successful, functional adult, this book is a must."

~ Sam Goldstein, Ph.D., coauthor of Raising Resilient Children

07/15/2017

How do you handle your pre-teen who stays out too late?

07/14/2017

"Let her know she doesn't have to be perfect. Any pressure to 'be good,' 'to win' or to practice every day no matter what may have the opposite effect of what you want for your child - just to feel good inside.

One 12-year-old I know was very jealous of her younger brother, a talented actor. She discovered pottery and now beams when her creative juices flow. She's not preparing for ""first in show"". More importantly, her pottery paved the way for her to meet new kids, and now she's made some new friends.

This girl found her own niche. And instead of feeling jealous, she's feeling very good about who she is."

07/13/2017

Thinking Parent, Thinking Child: Turning Everyday Problems into Solutions, Second Edition. In this new edition, internationally acclaimed author Dr. Myrna B. Shure shows how to apply “I Can Problem Solve” techniques to the top concerns of parents and children from preschoolers through pr***ens.

With updated research, three completely new chapters, and numerous new problem-solving scenarios, the book offers a sensible way for parents to help their children learn how to think, not what to think.

07/12/2017

Do you have a child who excels at something, is perhaps academically gifted, a star athlete or a brilliant musician?

Do you have another child who does not excel, enjoys fewer accolades and may feel jealous or left out at school?

Here are some ways to help a less-gifted child feel special too.

Encourage him to choose a different hobby he can enjoy - playing a musical instrument, art, a sport, or becoming immersed in a unique science project.

07/09/2017

"Unlike the advice of so many 'parenting experts,' the effectiveness of Dr. Shure's work has been scientifically validated. If you want to prepare your child to become a happy, successful, functional adult, this book is a must."

~ Sam Goldstein, Ph.D., coauthor of Raising Resilient Children

07/08/2017

Does your child hang out with kids you don't like?

07/07/2017

"Encourage your daughter to have a small group of friends over to your home, giving you a chance to meet him without his being singled out.

If you do decide your daughter is not yet ready to relate to this boy, ask her to think about why you may feel the way you do.

Simple forbidding her to talk to or see him will only make him seem all the more attractive.

If your pr***en daughter can feel safe talking with your about these matter now, your line of communication may stay open as she approaches those more tumultuous teenage years."

07/06/2017

You've tried everything you you can think of, but nothing you do seems to have any effect on your child's chronic procrastinating. The school called again to complain that your daughter is still bullying the other kids in her class, and you don't know how to make her stop without becoming a bully yourself.

Your son explodes in anger if he loses at anything -- sports or even fun family games. And your kids constantly argue with each other and with you. If you're looking for a different way to handle problems like these, this book is for you.

Written by internationally acclaimed parenting author Dr. Myrna Shure, Thinking Parent, Thinking Child arms you with powerful techniques for dealing with these and dozens of other issues confronting today's parents.

07/05/2017

Your daughter's now 12 and starting to talk to boys. And you're concerned because she's talking to one particular boy - a lot - on the phone. He's two years older - and you don't know him.

If you restrict her entirely, she'll talk to him on the sly.

If you give her free rein, you worry about what they're saying - and where it might lead.

Let your daughter know you care how she thinks and feels about the boy. By doing this, you'll learn more about him than by asking her more direct questions.

07/04/2017

Six myths about twins. (An article from www.justmommies.com.)

Twins capture the curiosity of the world. From the Spearmint gum twins to Mary Kate and Ashley, seeing double brings amusement and assumptions. Just like anything else, the idea of twins carry a lot of fable with the facts. Parents of multiples need to field a lot of questions and misconceptions. He...

07/01/2017

Does your pre-teen seem to hate you and your spouse?

07/01/2017

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06/30/2017

"If your child is caught up in what you think may be a destructive relationship, ask:

“How do you feel when you’re around those kids?”

“What is it about them that you like?”

“Do you like the way you feel around them?”

“What can happen if you stay friends with those kids?”

“Do you want that to happen?”

“What can you do so that will not happen?”

“How will you feel then?”"

06/28/2017

Your 12-year-old is starting to mix with “friends” you think are bad for her - and you’re worried. You keep telling her you don’t want her hanging around those kids anymore - but that only makes them more attractive to her. You explain why she should find new friends - but she doesn’t hear you.

What can you do? What can you say? (Part 1)

06/27/2017

The six best apps for your pre-teen. (A guest article from www.justmommies.com.)

As kids grow into tweens and teens, many parents worry about the apps their kids are using with their electronics. Are they safe? What are they sharing with whom? Are their apps useful or educational?

06/24/2017

"Exceptionally well written, and thoroughly 'user friendly' in organization and presentation, "Thinking Parent, Thinking Child: Turning Everyday Problems into Solutions" this new second edition is unreservedly recommended for both academia and non-specialist general readers with an interest in the subject."

"No professional, community, college, and university library Psychology of Parenting collection can be considered complete and up-to-date without a copy of this latest edition of "Thinking parent, Thinking Child".

Reviewed by Julie Summers, Midwest Book Review

06/23/2017

Are communication devices ruining your relationship with your pre-teen? (Feel free to share.)

06/23/2017

The point of discussing internet safety isn't to scare your child, just as you don't want him to worry that every stranger passes on the street has something evil in mind.

Make your child aware that dangers exist and teach him how to take precautions.

06/22/2017

Thinking Parent, Thinking Child gives you tools to help your kids become less aggressive, inhibited, and fearful, and more cooperative, empathic, and better able to handle life's frustrations and disappointments.

06/21/2017

“Can you think of a different way to tell me (or your friends) how you feel?”

Darren, age 8 came home from school one day using curse words he never used before. The more his mom demanded he stop, or explained why he shouldn’t use them, the more Darren defied her.

When she asked him to think of a different way to tell her how he felt, Darren stopped - smiled - and no more needed to be said.