06/27/2025
Why do we people-please?
It’s not just “being too nice,” for some, it can be a survival response shaped by our past.
Here’s what the research says:
• Childhood conditioning links love to compliance
• Insecure attachment styles (anxious, disorganized)
• Fear of rejection, anger, or conflict
• Core beliefs like “I’m only valuable if I help”
People-pleasing isn’t a flaw, it’s a pattern.