Jennybilskiesmith

Jennybilskiesmith Wise Body Therapy in Phoenix, Arizona
Specializing in anxiety, eating disorders, and complex trauma

I’m Jenny Bilskie-Smith, a licensed therapist, writer, and teacher dedicated to helping people reconnect with their inner wisdom and break free from the emotional patterns that keep them stuck. In my therapy practice, I specialize in eating disorders, anxiety, and trauma, offering an integrative approach that includes EMDR, Somatic Therapies, and Parts Work. My work is deeply rooted in compassion, curiosity, and a belief in the body’s ability to heal. Through both therapy and writing, I create space for people to feel seen, supported, and empowered as they return to themselves—more whole, more free, and more connected.

08/22/2025

Are you holding in your belly?
Here’s the problem: your body reads that tension as danger.
And it’s not just your belly—your jaw, throat, and pelvic floor may be bracing too.

Fascia connects them all like a bedsheet stretched across your body.
When one part pulls tight, the rest follows.

But here’s the beautiful part:
When you soften just one area—through breath, movement, or even gentle attention—the whole system can begin to release.

✨ In this blog, I share how belly tension relates to fascia, the vagus nerve, and the nervous system’s need for safety—and how you can start to shift it with compassion (not control).

👉 Read now: What Belly Tension Is Telling Your Nervous System
https://f.mtr.cool/kruniifstd

Have you ever set a goal you genuinely wanted—only to find yourself procrastinating, resisting, or self-sabotaging?You’r...
08/21/2025

Have you ever set a goal you genuinely wanted—only to find yourself procrastinating, resisting, or self-sabotaging?

You’re not alone.
And the truth is: what looks like sabotage is often self-protection.

You do want the change. You’ve made the plan. You’re committed.
At least… most of you is.

But there may be another part—what I call the rebel part—that’s not on board.
Not because she’s trying to ruin everything, but because she doesn’t feel safe.
She remembers what it felt like to be controlled, dismissed, or shamed.
And she’s determined not to let that happen again—even if it means digging in her heels.

In this new blog, I’ll walk you through:

💥 Why we sometimes sabotage the very things we want
💥 Where the rebel part comes from and what she’s protecting
💥 3 ways to stop fighting with her—and start building a partnership rooted in trust

If you're tired of swinging between self-discipline and burnout...
If you're longing for a more compassionate way to move forward…
This one’s for you.

👉 Read the full blog: When Self-Sabotage Creeps In
https://f.mtr.cool/znxrfwomhk

Ever feel like you should be able to hold it all together—but instead you spiral, shut down, or numb out?You’re not alon...
08/20/2025

Ever feel like you should be able to hold it all together—but instead you spiral, shut down, or numb out?

You’re not alone. And you’re not broken.

In this blog, I’m sharing the surprising science behind self-compassion—and how it can actually rewire your nervous system to respond with steadiness instead of self-criticism.

🌿 You’ll learn:
• Why self-compassion is more powerful than self-control
• How to build emotional resilience (without bypassing your pain)
• 3 simple steps to meet yourself with the care you deserve

✨ Read now: The Science of Self-Compassion for Inner Resilience
Click here: https://f.mtr.cool/kiyaoatajp

08/19/2025

Ever have a dream that felt weird… but oddly meaningful?
Your dreams aren’t just random—they’re your body’s way of telling the truth while you sleep.
🌙 Read the blog + download your free dream worksheet.

Blog: https://f.mtr.cool/mszkwfdvty
Worksheet: https://f.mtr.cool/apugwaxgah

You know that quiet, exhausting pressure to do the thing you “should”?Smile. Say yes. Eat this. Don’t eat that. Be produ...
08/18/2025

You know that quiet, exhausting pressure to do the thing you “should”?
Smile. Say yes. Eat this. Don’t eat that. Be productive. Be pleasant. Be smaller. Be “grateful.”

So many of us override what we actually want—because somewhere along the way, we learned our body’s signals weren’t trustworthy.

That’s why I teach clients how to come back into consent with themselves.
Not just around big decisions—but in the small, everyday moments that shape how safe we feel in our own skin.

🖤 I break it down in my latest blog (part of the exact guide I use with clients who feel “gross” in their body).

Here's the link: https://f.mtr.cool/ngwbdvltyl

👇 And tell me in the comments:
What’s a “should” you’re working on letting go of right now?
Let’s name them and make space for something truer.

🧠 Unmasking Autism by Devon Price, PhD, isn’t just a book about autism. It’s a powerful invitation to stop performing in...
08/18/2025

🧠 Unmasking Autism by Devon Price, PhD, isn’t just a book about autism. It’s a powerful invitation to stop performing in order to belong—and it’s reshaping how I show up as a therapist.

Here are 5 lessons I’m taking into the therapy room:

1. Diagnosis is a maze—and a privileged one.
Many people, especially women, BIPOC, and q***r folks, fall through the cracks because the diagnostic criteria were built around white boys. As Price says: If you identify, you are. That statement alone is a radical act of reclamation.

2. Behavioral “treatment” can cause trauma.
Nearly half of autistic adults who experienced ABA report PTSD. They were taught to smile on command—but not how to say no or feel safe in their own bodies. What if therapy focused more on emotional awareness, stimming normalization, and nervous system safety?

3. Obsession isn’t a problem—it’s regulation.
Autistic energy often moves in spurts. Deep interest brings calm. As Price says: “Let them rest in the obsession.” We can honor that rhythm instead of trying to redirect it.

4. Communication is a two-way street.
Rather than pushing “social skills,” Price reframes goals as co-created communication. I now ask clients if eye contact feels okay, normalize stimming, and model comfort in my own body. Consent and shared understanding come first.

5. Many clients are performing “normal” just to survive.
They’re not being fake. They’re building survival scripts. And the haunting feeling that something is “missing” lingers in the nervous system. I hold deep empathy for that ghost—of feeling like the world is speaking a language you don’t understand.

💻 Want to dive deeper into these insights—and see the quotes that moved me the most?
👉 Read the full blog: Unmasking Autism: A Deep Dive from the Therapy Chair
https://f.mtr.cool/bufraudbrw

08/17/2025

Science is beginning to show us what post-traumatic growth looks like in the brain—and how we can support it from the inside out.

This simple practice helps you reconnect with your body, soften tension, and activate the brainwave state linked to healing.✨

🎧 Save this for when you need a reset.

📖 And if you’re curious about the research behind it, I break it all down (no jargon!) in my latest blog:

👉 Practical Tools to Support Your Post-Traumatic Growth
Click here to read: https://f.mtr.cool/dtoigkdxwl

We’ve been conditioned—especially as women—to hold in our bellies.To appear smaller. More controlled. More “disciplined....
08/16/2025

We’ve been conditioned—especially as women—to hold in our bellies.
To appear smaller. More controlled. More “disciplined.”
But this chronic bracing isn’t strength—it’s stress.
It’s your nervous system gripping for safety.

And here’s what many of us were never taught:

Your belly holds more than muscle.
It’s home to your intuition, your digestion, and your deep inner knowing.
It’s also woven with fascia—connective tissue that doesn’t respond to digging, fixing, or force.

Fascia softens through slow, sustained presence.
That’s how your nervous system starts to feel safe again.

Here’s a practice I teach my clients all the time:

✨ The key principle: Hold and melt—rather than force and fix.
Try one of these:

🌀 Foam rolling — Move slowly. Pause on tender spots. Breathe there.
🔵 Massage or therapy balls — Especially helpful for the jaw, belly, glutes, or pelvic floor. Try lying on a soft ball and breathing deeply.
🫶 Hand + breath — Simply lie down, rest your hand on your belly, and let your breath soften into it.

This isn’t about changing your body.
It’s about meeting it with curiosity, compassion, and care.
When you do that, fascia begins to release. And your whole body can exhale.

💛 Want to learn how fascia, stress, and belly tension all connect—and get two more practices to support your nervous system?

📝 To read the full blog, click here: https://f.mtr.cool/smmeuzecqh

On a hard day, what’s your go-to reaction?😶 Shut down😤 Lash out💪 Push through(Or something else entirely?)No shame here—...
08/15/2025

On a hard day, what’s your go-to reaction?
😶 Shut down
😤 Lash out
💪 Push through
(Or something else entirely?)

No shame here—just real talk.
Most of us learned some way to survive stress...
But what if you could learn a way to actually feel supported in those moments instead of just surviving them?

That’s what this new blog is about:
💛 How to stop abandoning yourself when things get hard
💛 How to feel less reactive and more rooted
💛 And how self-compassion—yes, really—is the key to building inner resilience that lasts

📖 Read the full breakdown (backed by research, built for real life):
https://f.mtr.cool/xcgmjqqzqv

“Consent isn’t just for relationships with others—it belongs in your relationship with yourself.”How often do we push pa...
08/14/2025

“Consent isn’t just for relationships with others—it belongs in your relationship with yourself.”

How often do we push past what our body is quietly trying to tell us?
We say yes when we mean no.
We override discomfort.
We ignore the tension, the dread, the “not yet.”

But your body deserves to be asked.
Do you want this? Are you ready? Is this enough?

In my latest blog, I share the exact 3-step process I use with clients who feel “gross” in their bodies—and want to feel safe again.

We explore:
→ Why shame disconnects us
→ How survival responses keep us stuck
→ And how compassion, curiosity, and consent help us come home

🖤 Read the blog at https://f.mtr.cool/escxymbgjd

🧭 ➡️ 🕊️

08/13/2025

When we’re young, our brains are wired to take in everything.

But most neurotypical brains go through a major pruning process—cutting away unused connections so the brain can focus, filter, and streamline.

Autistic brains? They don’t prune the same way.

They keep those extra connections. They keep noticing.

🌲 Imagine walking through a forest:
A neurotypical brain sees the trail.
An Autistic brain? It sees the trail and the light through the trees, the buzz of the insect, the moss on the bark, the feeling of your sock seam…
It’s not a flaw. It’s a kind of brilliance.
And in a world that pathologizes sensitivity, it’s time we tell a fuller story—one rooted in biology, permission, and the deep human need to belong as we are.

✨ I explore all of this and more in my newest blog:
Unmasking Autism: A Deep Dive From the Therapy Chair
🧠 Neurodivergence
🎭 Masking
🎨 Creativity
💬 Communication
💓 Belonging

👉 Click here to read: https://f.mtr.cool/uxmuspkaol

Anxiety pulls your focus outward. But hunger calls you back in.Most people don’t notice hunger until it’s urgent—but sub...
08/12/2025

Anxiety pulls your focus outward. But hunger calls you back in.
Most people don’t notice hunger until it’s urgent—but subtle hunger is a sign of aliveness, attunement, and readiness to receive care.
This check-in helps rewire your brain for calm connection.

🌿 Try this: A Gentle Hunger Check-In

Step 1: Before you eat, pause for a moment and check in with your body.

Step 2: Ask yourself: Where am I on the hunger scale?
Ideally, try to begin eating around a 3—a place of pleasant hunger, not urgency.
But don’t aim for perfection. This is about curiosity, not control.

Step 3: Notice: Can you experience hunger as a pleasant cue—a sign that your body is working, alive, and ready to receive care?

Step 4: Repeat regularly. The more you check in, the more fluent you become in your body’s language.

🧭 The Hunger–Fullness Scale (Key Points)
0 – Painfully hungry
Primal, urgent hunger or a numb, disconnected state. You may feel nauseous or foggy. Nothing sounds good.
3 – Pleasant hunger
Ready to eat, without urgency. This is often the ideal time to start a meal.
7 – Comfortably full
Content, well-fed. No discomfort.
10 – Painfully full
Stuffed to the point of nausea. Eating has gone beyond comfort.

✨ This practice is one of several in my latest blog:
Practical Tools to Support Your Post-Traumatic Growth
You’ll learn how tuning inward—through hunger, breath, or subtle body cues—can actually support your brain’s capacity for healing.

👉 Tap to read it now: https://f.mtr.cool/seqqxwxoaj

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