11/25/2025
Breathwork and somatic healing can help you work through the pain of growing up too soon and rewire the beliefs or patterns showing up in your relationship.
I see the little girl who grew up too quickly, the one who stepped into motherhood before she ever got fully mothered, the one who cared for a younger children as a child herself.
You learned being responsible wasn’t an option. It was expected. You grew up far too early, exchanging creativity for perfection, and playfulness for structure. You became steady and capable, but as an adult, hyper-independence comes with a price.
You struggle to ask for help. Rest feels unproductive. Perfection is your shield from failing or being criticized. You decided to never lose yourself again in caring for someone else.
These patterns and armor that once kept you safe have kept intimacy at a distance.
You learned to lead, to think ahead, and to maintain control because chaos was not an option in your family.
When you manage or lead, override your masculine partner’s decisions, do things yourself, then feel resentful when he doesn’t take a charge, and spend time alone rather than develop a closeness with him, these patterns wear down polarity in your partnership.
The receiving, relaxed, and supported feminine doesn’t feel safe enough to unfold, and your partner begins to feel like he doesn’t have a place or add value to your relationship, but this is solely not your fault.
It’s the protective mechanisms your nervous system learned at a young age, and you don’t have to live that old caretaking role any longer.
You’re the adult that can choose differently. You can soften. You can let go. You can trust him to meet and hold you.
I am proud of what you endured and the children you helped to raise to be wonderful human beings.
-Me
