Sherri Williams, MSEd LPC NCC BCC

Sherri Williams, MSEd LPC NCC BCC Owner of TheLovingChoice, a private therapy practice serving individuals, couples, and families with

Pittsburgh Therapist, Counselor, & Coach - Helping People Make Loving Choices

02/03/2025

One of my personal adages in life is “love…love is simple but, well….people are complicated.” And so I’ve spent a lot of time wrestling with how to not just love the people who are easy to love, but maintain an attitude of love, or at the very least compassion, for those who are not always easy to love. Dr. Luther E. Smith wrote “A vision of hope that excludes compassion for all involved is a charade. Any future worth anticipating as an expression of hope requires love.” To stay engaged, particularly in times that are painful or heartbreaking, requires me to tap into the strength and courage found in the power of love — the kind of love that animates us, sometimes challenges us, but always sustains us. Nothing changes—truly changes in the most meaningful ways— without love.

Excerpt from my Substack blog “What Do You Love”

11/05/2024

On this election eve, I can’t help but think how the red & the blue need a “family counselor/coach/therapist” to help us to find unity in the purple—the Spirit.

Imago therapy and so many theories point to how our wounds show up (are activated) in relationships, especially close ones—like marriage. We marry people that trigger “our stuff”—unhealed wounds of the past known and unknown. We are in this country and it’s like we have 2 partners/parties that aren’t working well together (hah!! How’s that for an understatement).

We divorced without due process and mediation—coming faithfully in truth to the table.

Our technological age of social media (in concert with Covid) have overwhelmed our capacities to “regulate” as humans and people have turned on each other and/or away from one another…or banded as tribes.

We need to engage in the struggle and honor one another in Love and Compassion for how we got here.

We need to marry—to commit ourselves to a higher purpose than our own best thinking—Love everyone exclude no one. People hurt where the care—are scared where they care.

Pain is. Love is.

Fear will not win. Love will prevail.

Politics needs to be reworked—reimagined—we need a new creation—honesty, openness, willingness.

Recent times have revealed just how much work needs to be done to create a more secure & democratic government.

This state of affairs politically has been developing since our country’s inception.

Generational trauma is real and the reality for the planet—the planet is telling us so as well.

Denial of truth does not eliminate truth. The truth just is. Acceptance is hard.

Fear is organic—natural—human.
And I can choose Love or Fear (the opposite of Love —it’s not Hate—it’s Fear).

I can choose shame or grace.

The God of my understanding gives me freedom. No one will take that away as long as Breath is within me.

And that’s how & why Love will and is prevailing….no matter what happens.

Love to all.

07/28/2024
07/23/2024

Without careful listening, we’re left with raw contention

07/17/2024

May we allow Peace to enter and still our hearts and minds. ❤️‍🩹

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07/17/2024

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Family life often requires extraordinary bravery, from navigating the daily challenges to surviving the unexpected crises. Author and podcaster Kelly Corrigan offers profound wisdom (and seven key words) to help you focus in on what matters most.

07/17/2024

“Hate has caused a lot of problems, but it has not solved one yet.” Maya Angelou

This morning, like so many of us, I’m catching my breath and trying to grasp a very public act of political violence. It is important to state clearly the bewildering destabilization and danger that is created when acts of political violence happen. Let us frame violence for what it is, a tragic attempt to address some kind of suffering, a pointed spear of fear or hatred that neither helps or shifts anything for the better. Political violence is a trauma that effect the victims of course, but it is also a trauma that effects us all. I hope that we can process this trauma individually and as a community with the kind of compassion and tenderness that trauma necessitates.

Now is the time for clearer heads, for thinking before speaking, for tapping into the power of love which is always and forever stronger than our fears. It is time to remember not just the worst that humans can be, but to hold fast to the best of what we can aspire.

Perhaps this is a day to step back from too much social media or cable news, to have heart to heart conversations with trusted friends, who will allow us to process and find our way in this bewildering moment in time.

So I am holding us all in the Light, of greater love, of cooler heads, to find the longings of our own hearts and the star that always points true north.

Excerpt From my Substack Blog - More thoughts on life, spirit, music, beauty, and hope that is faithful and daily in my Substack post.

Please feel free to forward or share this thought with anyone you might feel would appreciate the thought and this community.

07/17/2024

This week, the (R) Party is meeting in Milwaukee, a mere 80 miles from my home. Yesterday, their presumptive nominee chose Sen. J. D. Vance (OH) as his running mate. Vance, once a fierce critic of said nominee—speculating that he might be “America’s Hitler”—apparently had a conversion when he saw which side his bread was buttered on.

In the wake of the despicable July 13 assassination attempt on the former president, Vance joined other (R)s in insisting that (D) campaign rhetoric caused that senseless act of violence. This, despite the fact that the former president has been our #1 cheerleader for political violence ever since he entered public life, telling us who to hate and what to do about it. But that's not how Vance now sees it. He puts the blame for July 13 on (D)s who have called the former president an authoritarian, even fascist threat to democracy.

So I’m wondering: should I drive to Milwaukee and turn myself in, or should I stay in Madison and wait for them to come and get me? After all, eight months before The Former Guy won the presidency back in 2016, I wrote an article titled “Will Fascism Trump Democracy?” for On Being. http://tiny.cc/vfm5zz

Then, in my 2018 book, “On the Brink of Everything,” I wrote this: “On January 20, 2017, the country I love inaugurated a president who embodies many of our culture’s most soulless traits: adolescent impulsiveness, an unbridled drive for wealth and power, a taste for violence, nonstop narcissism, and massive arrogance. A man who has maligned women, Mexicans, Muslims, African Americans, immi- grants, members of the LGBTQ community, people with disabilities, and Mother Earth—a man who’d sooner deny the obvious than apologize for the outrageous—became the putative ‘leader of the free world.’”

And, as you know, I’ve been a regular critic of The Former Guy on this page, as recently as the 4th of July.

Well, I’ve decided not to turn myself in. Instead, I’m going to keep speaking up for the democracy that is the political birthright of all Americans. I have self-imposed limits, of course, among them a commitment to the old-fashioned norms of love, truth, and justice. Love of country requires me to keep calling him a threat to democracy simply because he and his party are. (See Project 2025 for details.)

This is America. No one should ever be limited by fear of “revenge and retribution,” the words The Former Guy has used to describe the way he intends to conduct his second term as president-king, if we give him one.

Memo to Self: Do everything you can, legally and ethically, to see that he doesn’t get one. He’s already getting enough help from the Supreme Court, and from the way our legal system allows the ultra-rich to sue, delay, and avoid consequences. We the People are the only firewall left.

07/16/2024

QUOTE:

Friend, this is the only way to learn the secret way: Ignore the paths of others, even the saints’ steep trails. Don’t follow. Don’t journey at all. Rip the veil from your face.
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Friend, this is the only way In July 2010, I was driving home from work, listening to BBC news on the radio, and was saddened to hear of a bombing at a shrine dedicated to a Sufi saint in Lahore, Pakistan. More than 40 people were killed and many more badly injured. People speculated that the bombing was by an extremist group that objected to the inclusive nature of Sufi practice in the region. Islamic extremists have certainly grabbed headlines in recent years, but the world also has its Christian extremists, Jewish extremists, Hindu extremists… as well as plenty of atheist and non-religious extremist groups. Extremism is not a problem of a particular religion; it is a disruption in the human psyche in general. Religious extremism has very little to do with religion, if you think about it. It is partly a reflexive response to the intensely fragmenting nature of the modern world. And it is partly a reaction against unavoidable, sometimes unsettling encounters with different peoples and cultures and beliefs in our ever more integrated and multi-layered world. But mostly—mostly it is an act of desperation when the heart of true religion has been lost. People become violently obsessed with rules and traditions and texts only when they have lost the sense of what they really point to. If you know where the Beloved lives, you are content, no need to argue with others over street names. Conflict only arises when you aren’t so certain you know the way; that’s when another person’s map threatens your certainty. Fundamentalism and extremism are an admission of that spiritual uncertainty. Absolutism is not an expression of faith; it is a symptom of the lack of faith. It is a symptom of the lack of true spiritual experience and knowledge. The real long-term solution to the problem of violent religious extremism in the world is to reawaken that sweet, secret, sacred bliss within ourselves, to gently and generously share it with others, and to create environments nurturing to that continuing quest. The more we fill the world’s dry troughs with fresh water, the less likely it is that people will go insane with blind thirst.

SOURCE: The Longing in Between Sacred Poetry from Around the World A Poetry Chaikhana Anthology Kindle Edition Edited with Commentary by Ivan M. Granger

05/29/2024

May we be safe.
May we be healthy.
May we be content.
May we be free.
May we all. 🙏🏽❤️

—back to the sanctuary off these media

08/08/2021

One of our favorite lines from Mary!

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