11/10/2025
It's Man-day Monday: When Depression Wears a Disguise...
Depression isn’t always sadness or feeling low. For many, it hides under other emotions or behaviors that don’t look like “typical” depression. You might not feel down — you just feel off, detached, or constantly frustrated.
Here are some common ways depression can show up without looking like it:
Mood Changes
Snapping easily, short fuse, constant frustration.
Underneath: suppressed sadness or hopelessness — anger feels more “acceptable” than pain.
Numbness or Disconnection
Going through the motions, feeling flat or detached.
Underneath: emotional shutdown from exhaustion or long-term stress.
Overworking or Busyness
Filling every hour with work, chores, or tasks.
Underneath: distraction from emptiness or feelings of failure.
Withdrawal or Isolation
Spending more time alone, pulling back from relationships.
Underneath: fear of being a burden or not having the energy to connect.
Fatigue or Lack of Motivation
Struggling to get moving, even with simple things.
Underneath: mental and emotional depletion — your system is running on empty.
Shame or Self-Criticism
Feeling “not good enough,” guilt about not being productive.
Underneath: depression feeding a negative self-image and low self-worth.
Start noticing patterns, not moments. Feeling off for a day or two is normal — but if irritability, numbness, or exhaustion stick around, it may be depression in disguise.
Small acts of structure — movement, sunlight, brief connections with others — start to signal your system that it’s safe to re-engage.
Therapy can help you understand what's behind the heaviness - the thoughts, habits, and emotional patterns that keep you stuck. It gives space to unpack what's weighing you down, while learning practical tools to rebuild motivation, energy, and connection.
Joseph Hegedus LPC has openings for new therapy clients.
Visit www.josephhegeduslpc.com to learn more and reserve an appointment.
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