Joseph Hegedus LPC

09/15/2025

Man-day Monday: Alleviating The Silent Stress – Easing The Pressure to Provide

Many men tie their identity to being the provider—the one who never falters, never rests, never needs help. Over time, those expectations can become heavy, leading to stress, burnout, and emotional distance.

Healthier Alternatives (and How to Practice Them):

Challenge unrealistic expectations:

→ Practice saying “not right now” when your plate is full.

→ Set a realistic daily goal list (5 priorities, for example).

→ Remind yourself: progress > perfection.

Explore identity beyond “the provider”:

→ Reconnect with an old hobby or interest just for enjoyment.

→ Schedule time with family/friends where money or work isn’t the focus.

→ Ask yourself weekly: “Who am I, outside of what I do for others?”

Rebuild balance between giving and being:

→ Block out personal time in your calendar just like a meeting.

→ Share responsibilities with a partner, friend, or colleague—don’t carry it alone.

→ Practice saying yes to rest: read, exercise, or simply be present without “producing.”

Alleviating the Silent Stress is a personal process that leads to less burnout, more freedom from unspoken obligations, and more rest & balance to show up authentically for yourself and the people who matter most. You can find ways to ease the pressure to provide, and therapy can help with that.

Joseph Hegedus LPC has openings for new therapy clients.
In-person and video appointments are available. Most commercial insurances are accepted, and openings vary throughout the week.

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09/11/2025

Video therapy isn’t just convenient — it’s designed for real life.

👉 Busy parents: Therapy during naptime or after the kids are asleep means no babysitter, no commute, no stress.

👉 Working professionals: Fit a session into your lunch break, between meetings, or at the end of the workday — without losing hours to travel.

👉 Men hesitant to start therapy: No waiting rooms, no eyes on you, no added pressure. Just a private space to talk, at your pace.

👉 Rural communities: Long drives and limited local providers don’t need to stand in the way. If you’ve got internet, you’ve got access to care.

The truth is, video therapy works for anyone who wants support without the extra obstacles.

Because no matter your schedule, your job, or your zip code, your mental health deserves a place in your life.

Joseph Hegedus LPC offers video therapy to PA residents. Commercial insurances and self-pay are accepted, and openings vary throughout the week.

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09/10/2025

Domestic violence is not “a little fight.” It’s a public safety crisis that devastates lives and families. DVSSP CEO Megan Hegedus responds to President Trump’s recent remarks with a strong call to support survivors and hold leaders accountable. 📢 Read DVSSP’s full statement here: https://loom.ly/Y5Nwdhc

09/08/2025

It's Man-day Monday: The Loneliness Trap - Solutions for Men

Loneliness isn’t just about being physically alone—it’s about feeling emotionally unseen or disconnected. Here’s how men can push back against isolation:

1. Strengthen Existing Bonds

-Reach out to a friend you’ve lost touch with.

-Schedule regular check-ins (coffee, a call, or even a quick text).

-Consistency matters more than depth at first.

2. Build New Connections

-Join groups that match your interests (sports, volunteering, book clubs, or men’s groups).

-Online communities can help, but real-life face-to-face connection has stronger impact.

-Volunteer time to your community, and immerse yourself in projects that interest or inspire you.

3. Practice Vulnerability in Small Steps

-Share something real with someone you trust: “Work has been heavy this week,” or “I’ve been feeling off.”

-Start small—authenticity builds deeper connection over time.

-Take note of the feelings that emerge when you do these things.

4. Create Emotional Routines

-Journal daily to name emotions and reduce the sense of “carrying them alone.”

-Practice mindfulness to stay connected to yourself, which makes connecting with others easier.

-Be patient and forgiving with yourself as you create these new routines.

5. Seek Professional Support

-Therapy offers a space to safely break patterns of isolation.

-A counselor can help men build relational skills and confidence to connect authentically.

-Therapy serves as a 'practice' ground to explore and connect with your deeper self in a safe and secure way.

Loneliness is not a sign of weakness—it’s a signal that connection is missing. Loneliness can feel permanent but it doesn't have to. You can learn to use loneliness as a tool that inspires your connection with others, and therapy can help with that.

Joseph Hegedus LPC has openings for new therapy clients.
In-person and video appointments are available. Most commercial insurances are accepted, and openings vary throughout the week.
Visit www.josephhegeduslpc.com to learn more and reserve an appointment.
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09/04/2025

Whether you live in the heart of Philadelphia, the neighborhoods of Pittsburgh, or a quiet town tucked into rural Pennsylvania, quality mental health care should never feel out of reach.

Many communities in our state don’t have a therapist’s office around the corner. Long drives, limited providers, and busy schedules can make it difficult to start — or stick with — therapy.

That’s where video therapy changes everything.

✔ If you have a secure internet connection, you can connect with a licensed therapist anywhere in Pennsylvania.

✔ No more worrying about finding “the right fit” only in your immediate area.

✔ From city blocks to farm roads, care is now just one click away.

Your mental health deserves the same access as your physical health — regardless of where you call home.

Pennsylvania is a big state, but with video therapy, support is always within reach.

Joseph Hegedus LPC offers video therapy to PA residents. Commercial insurances and self-pay are accepted, and openings vary throughout the week.

Visit www.josephhegeduslpc.com to learn more, view openings, and reserve an appointment.

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Joseph Hegedus LPC is a licensed mental health therapist in Upper St Clair Pa, offering adult therapy and professional counseling for anxiety, depression, trauma & PTSD, stress & anger problems, grief & loss, relationship counseling, life coaching, and personality disorders. Book Now at josephhegedu...

09/01/2025

It's Man-day Monday: Anger Can Be Rewired

For many men, anger becomes the go-to emotion. Why? Because it feels strong, it’s socially acceptable, and it shields more vulnerable feelings like sadness, fear, or shame. But when anger is the only outlet, it can quietly erode relationships, health, and peace of mind.

How Anger Shows Up (not just yelling):

-Irritability, sarcasm, or shutting down

-Passive-aggressive comments

-Perfectionism or controlling behaviors

-Physical tension (clenched jaw, tight shoulders)

-Risk-taking or self-sabotage

Healthy Ways to Channel Anger:

-Pause your reaction and name the emotion “beneath” the anger (disappointment, hurt, fear)

-Practice controlled releases: physical activity, deep breathing, journaling

-Use controlled and concise communication to express needs; refrain from “aggressive” or "threatening" communication

The Benefits of Managing Anger:

-Clearer communication & stronger relationships (people will respond to you more calmly, honestly, openly)

-Less stress on the body (relaxed muscles, better sleep, fewer headaches)

-Ability to recognize and express underlying emotions (others will better understand you)

-Channeling energy into constructive outlets (exercise, creative projects, advocacy)

-Greater emotional resilience and self-control (you control your anger; your anger doesn’t control you)

Anger isn’t "bad"; it offers information and guidance. Learning to pause, identify what’s beneath the anger, and express it in healthier ways leads to more authentic strength and lasting peace.

Society and culture expects anger to be men’s “go-to” emotion, but it doesn’t have to be. Men can discover how to use anger as a personal tool, rather than a reactive emotion, and therapy can help with that.

Joseph Hegedus LPC has openings for new therapy clients.

In-person and video appointments are available. Most commercial insurances are accepted, and openings vary throughout the week.
Visit www.josephhegeduslpc.com to learn more and reserve an appointment. Enrolling is quick and easy.

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Joseph Hegedus LPC is a licensed mental health therapist in Upper St Clair Pa, offering adult therapy and professional counseling for anxiety, depression, trauma & PTSD, stress & anger problems, grief & loss, relationship counseling, life coaching, and personality disorders. Book Now at josephhegedu...

08/29/2025

"Paint the town purple" with DVSSP as we bring the community together to stand against domestic violence! This family-friendly event creates awareness of domestic violence and how we can prevent it from happening in our communities, while raising critical funds to help survivors of domestic violence. Learn more or create a team at https://www.peacefromdv.org/about-us/our-events/peace-from-dv-walk.

08/27/2025

For some, the hardest part of therapy isn’t talking once the session begins — it’s getting there.

Walking into an office can bring up worries:

-“What if someone I know sees me?”
-“What will people think if they know I’m in therapy?”
-“I’m already nervous… now I have to sit in a waiting room?”

Video therapy changes that.

✔ Sessions happen in a space that feels safe to you — your living room or home office can suffice.
✔ There’s no chance of bumping into a neighbor, coworker, or family friend.
✔ You set the scene — your chair, your blanket, your favorite mug — so therapy feels more like your own space of care.

In a familiar space, you can let your guard down. You don’t have to manage the distractions of an office setting or the self-consciousness of being “seen.” Instead, you can focus on what matters most: your thoughts, your emotions, and the changes you want to create.

Therapy is most effective when you show up authentically — and video sessions make that possible by meeting you exactly where you are.

When you feel safe and comfortable, it’s easier to open up. That’s when real growth begins.

Joseph Hegedus LPC offers video therapy to PA residents. Commercial insurances and self-pay are accepted, and openings vary throughout the week. Visit www.josephhegeduslpc.com to learn more, view openings, and reserve an appointment. Also visit and follow my page for more information: https://www.facebook.com/josephhegeduslpcpgh

Joseph Hegedus LPC is a licensed mental health therapist in Upper St Clair Pa, offering adult therapy and professional counseling for anxiety, depression, trauma & PTSD, stress & anger problems, grief & loss, relationship counseling, life coaching, and personality disorders. Book Now at josephhegedu...

08/25/2025

Man-day Monday: Removing The Mask of Masculinity--Benefits + Signs + Strategies

Many men grow up believing they must always be in control and never vulnerable. Over time, this becomes a “mask” that hides true emotions. But like any mask—it gets heavy and exhausting.

🌟 Benefits of Removing the Mask
1. Better Relationships
Honesty + vulnerability = deeper trust.
Partners, kids, and friends feel more connected when you’re real.
2. Less Stress, More Peace
Pretending is exhausting.
Expressing real emotions relaxes the body and clears the mind.
3. Stronger Emotional Intelligence
Naming feelings improves communication and conflict resolution.
4. Freedom from Perfectionism
You don’t have to be flawless to be worthy.
Growth > “never failing.”
5. True Strength & Resilience
Vulnerability builds bounce-back power.
6. Authentic Self-Worth
Worth comes from who you are, not what you produce.

⚠️ Signs You Might Be Wearing the Mask
1. Shrugging off pain, saying “I’m fine.”
2. Difficulty expressing emotions.
3. Withdrawing from others.
4. Perfectionism + pressure.
5. Stress symptoms: poor sleep, irritability, headaches.

✅ Steps to Take Off the Mask
1. Start with Awareness
Notice when you default to “I’m fine.” Ask: What am I really feeling?
2. Expand Emotional Vocabulary
Journaling helps—go beyond “angry” or “stressed.” Try words like disappointed, overwhelmed, lonely, worried.
3. Practice Safe Vulnerability
Share something real with one trusted person. Even a simple: “I had a tough day.”
4. Redefine Strength
True strength is authenticity. Rest, say no, or ask for help—without shame.

💬 Remember: Taking off the mask isn’t instant. It’s a gradual unlearning of old rules—and a step toward living authentically.
You can be strong without the mask, and therapy can help with that.

Joseph Hegedus LPC is accepting new therapy clients.
In-person and video appointments are available. Most commercial insurances are accepted, and openings vary throughout the week.
Visit www.josephhegeduslpc.com to learn more and reserve an appointment.
Also visit, like, and follow my page for more information: https://www.facebook.com/josephhegeduslpcpgh

Joseph Hegedus LPC is a licensed mental health therapist in Upper St Clair Pa, offering adult therapy and professional counseling for anxiety, depression, trauma & PTSD, stress & anger problems, grief & loss, relationship counseling, life coaching, and personality disorders. Book Now at josephhegedu...

08/20/2025

Therapy should be accessible, practical, and effective. With video therapy, you don’t just save time — you open new doors to care.

For many people, getting to an office can be a barrier. Busy schedules, family responsibilities, long drives, or even the anxiety of walking into a waiting room can make therapy feel out of reach. Video therapy removes those barriers, giving you more freedom to take care of your mental health.

With video therapy, you receive the same quality, connection, and safety as you do with "in-office" therapy:

-Same Quality: Licensed, professional care with proven approaches.

-Same Connection: Research* shows strong therapeutic relationships form just as deeply online.

-Same Safety: Confidential, private, and secure platforms protect your sessions.

In fact, for many, video therapy offers more:

-A safe space to open up where you feel most comfortable.

-The flexibility to be consistent, which leads to better outcomes.

-The empowerment of caring for yourself without disrupting your life.

Therapy should work with you, not against your schedule or circumstances. Video therapy makes that possible — it’s truly convenience without compromise.

Joseph Hegedus LPC is accepting new video therapy clients.
Most commercial insurances are accepted, and openings vary throughout the week.
Visit www.josephhegeduslpc.com to learn more, view openings, and reserve an appointment.
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*https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8956990/

08/18/2025

It's Man-day Monday: “The Wrap-Up: Men's Mental Health Matters”

Over the past weeks, we’ve explored challenges men face—but don’t always talk about.

Here’s what was uncovered:

-The Mask of Masculinity – Hiding behind toughness.

-Anger Isn’t the Only Emotion – Learning what’s beneath the rage.

-The Loneliness Trap – Breaking free from isolation.

-Silent Stress – Carrying the pressure to provide.

-Sleep & the Male Mind – When stress robs you of rest.

-Your Story Matters – Therapy as a proactive step.

-Rewriting the Rules – Defining manhood on your own terms.

Men’s mental health matters. Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s courageous:

-Facing what you’ve been avoiding instead of burying it.

-Connecting with your feelings instead of letting them control you from the shadows.

-Discovering ways to communicate yourself more thoroughly and distinctively instead of acting upon old habits.

-Building authentic relationships instead of carrying it all alone.

-Redefining manhood so it includes compassion, rest, and self-respect.

When men open up, they don’t lose their edge—they gain clarity, freedom, and deeper connection. That’s not weakness. That’s power.

Take the next steps in improving your mental health, and let therapy help you with that.

Joseph Hegedus LPC is accepting new therapy clients, including men navigating stress, relationships, emotions, and identity.

In-person and video appointments are available. Most commercial insurances are accepted, and openings vary throughout the week.

Visit www.josephhegeduslpc.com to learn more and reserve an appointment. Also visit my page for more information: https://www.facebook.com/josephhegeduslpcpgh

08/15/2025

The “rules” you live by didn’t appear out of thin air.

They were passed down by family, culture, friends, or even your own survival instincts.

But if those rules are leaving you burnt out, disconnected, or constantly angry — you can change them.

Here are 5 ways to start rewriting your rules:

1️⃣ Identify the Old Rule

“I have to handle everything alone.”

“Rest means I’m lazy.”

“I can’t talk about my feelings.”

2️⃣ Ask: Who Benefits? Who Suffers?

If the rule only keeps others comfortable while it drains you, it’s probably worth questioning.

3️⃣ Define Your New Rule

Old: “I can’t ask for help.”

New: “Asking for help is a strength — and it builds trust.”

4️⃣ Practice the New Rule in Small Steps

Share one honest thing with a friend.

Take one guilt-free rest day.

5️⃣ Expect Pushback — from Others and Yourself

Changing the rules takes time. The discomfort is part of the growth.

Rewriting your rules isn’t about tossing out your identity — it’s about creating a life that actually works for you.

With space and time, you can reqrite your rules, and therapy can help with that.

Joseph Hegedus LPC is accepting new therapy clients. In-person and video appointments are available. Most commercial insurances are accepted, and openings vary throughout the week. Visit www.josephhegeduslpc.com to learn more and reserve an appointment. Also visit my page for more information: https://www.facebook.com/josephhegeduslpcpgh