Lilly Malardie - Coach + Mentor

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Lilly Malardie - Coach + Mentor

🌟 Health Behavior Change Coach + Mentor
🧠 Director of Training & Coach Development /

17/08/2025

We love binaries.
It’s easier to say “it’s the system’s fault” or “people just need more discipline.”

When in reality- change exists on a spectrum and has many layers of consideration.

Access, equity, financial stability- those absolutely matter. And so does radical responsibility, which looks different for everyone. Your best option might not look like someone else’s, but it’s still an option.

The messy, uncomfortable middle ground is where real change actually happens.

12/08/2025

Just because something is popular online doesn’t mean it’s meant for you.

You’re allowed to pivot.
You’re allowed to want different things.
You’re allowed to create routines that actually fit your life.

If you’ve been white-knuckling your way through a goal that isn’t working… maybe it’s not a motivation problem. Maybe it’s just not the right goal.

04/08/2025

A little announcement at the end 👀

I used to think marathon training would just be about discipline and spreadsheets.

But the truth is it’s also about negotiating with yourself, tricking your brain into cooperating, and leaning into just enough delusion to get the miles done.

These are some of the “hacks” that keep me going They might sound a little ridiculous, but honestly they work when I need them 🤷🏻‍♀️

So much so that I’ll be putting it all to the test in December 😉

26/07/2025

“Balance” is overrated. The real magic is knowing when to let things slide so you can pour into what matters most.

What’s ONE thing you can let wait this week (without guilt) so you can reclaim your energy for the future you’re building? 🥰

19/07/2025

Tracking macros can be a useful tool.
 But if it’s the only tool in your toolbox? You’re probably missing the stuff that actually moves the needle long-term.

Here are 7 nutrition habits I’d rather see someone work on-especially if they want results that last longer than a 6-week cut ♥️
 They’re evidence-based, behavior-driven, and rooted in real life. Not food scales.

18/07/2025

OPE 🫢

I say all of this with love 🫶🏼 and I will say it before I’m asked- EVERYTHING has nuance. Take what applies to you, and leave the rest!

Most of what’s keeping you stuck isn’t about not knowing WHAT to do. You KNOW what to do. You’ve read the posts. You’ve saved the tips. You’ve organized the spreadsheet, journal, and routine.

What’s actually holding you back is waiting to feel ready, avoiding discomfort, and/or wanting perfect more than you want progress.

Behavior change is hard because it asks you to do things when they’re inconvenient, unsexy, and honestly… a little annoying 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’ve often told clients it’s okay to have a temper tantrum in your head about something while you still do it.

But if you can get past that.. if you can lean into “good enough” and stop waiting for the ideal plan, I promise you’d be shocked how much momentum you can build.

Share this with someone who needs to hear this too ♥️

14/07/2025

You can’t build a sustainable life inside a system that constantly asks you to override yourself.

That’s why boundaries aren’t just a “nice to have” when you’re trying to change your habits, protect your peace, or show up for your future self.
They’re ESSENTIAL.

They help you with growth..with space, clarity, and capacity.

This post isn’t about saying no for the sake of it.
It’s about redefining boundaries as a choice to protect what matters, even if it makes other people uncomfortable.

🧠 What’s one boundary you’ve set lately that made everything else feel more possible?

18/06/2025

When a client believes something that’s… not true?
It’s normal for your hackles to rise BUT we don’t want to react and immediately correct our clients.

“But Lilly I don’t want them just going in believing that!! It’s harmful!”

I hear you. I get it. But please listen to me when I say that if you go right into correcting them and making them feel guilt or shame, you will shut down any opportunity for future change AND increase their resistance.

Motivational Interviewing teaches us to resist the “righting reflex” (that knee-jerk urge to correct, educate, and rescue).

Get curious. Reflect their concern. Ask if they want more info before you give it. Then share calmly, compassionately, and collaboratively.

This is how you stay evidence-based AND client-centered.

What’s the wildest thing that a client has said to you, and how did you manage it?

20/02/2025

Changing your own behavior doesn’t make you a behavior change coach.

Personal experience can be valuable, but coaching is about more than sharing what worked for you. It’s about understanding why people struggle to change, how to guide them through obstacles, and what actually helps behavior stick long-term.

Without that foundation, coaching can turn into well-intended advice that doesn’t lead to real, lasting change. And when that happens, clients often assume they failed..when in reality, they just weren’t given the right tools and support.

Behavior change coaching is a skillset. It’s something that can be learned, refined, and applied in ways that truly help people. If you want to deepen your ability to facilitate lasting change for your clients, that’s exactly what we focus on inside the Change Mastery Mentorship.

I’d love to hear your thoughts: how do you see this playing out in the industry?

14/02/2025

Behavior change cliches 🤝🏼 Valentine’s Day 😆
Enjoy & send to your crush today!

27/09/2021

Have you ever called yourself bad for eating a cookie or your favorite food before? 🧐
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How about when you look at things like baked goods, or pizza… Do you think automatically about how many calories, fat, or sodium it may have? Or how those things automatically = it being unhealthy and should be extremely limited?
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I’ve said this before, but food does not have any emotion or moral value. If you attach emotion to it, then it is taking ownership over you, your feelings, and how you react when consuming or being around it.
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Food is neutral.
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If you demonize certain foods, that is a sure way to maintain an unhealthy relationship with it.
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So take this photo as an example. Instead of looking at a cookie and automatically thinking about how many calories of sugar it has, try looking at the cookie for what it is- A COOKIE 🍪
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Cookies are delicious, they’re yummy, they will satisfy my sweet craving. I can eat a cookie and move on.
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Does this mean all I’m going to eat are cookies for the rest of my life for every meal? no.
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It means that I’m viewing a cookie as just another food (because it is) and I am not “bad” for having one.

You deserve this too! The next time you feel caught up in the negative feelings associated with a food you were taught was bad for you, eat it, enjoy it, and then move on.

You may even find that it will create a little more happiness around food in general 🙂

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