Anchored Child & Family Counseling

10/08/2025

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Sibling relationships can be complicated, especially in a toxic family dynamic.
Healthy behaviors are not discussed or reinforced.

The toxic sibling relationship may be frought with competition, anger and hostility, condescending behaviors, and judgments.

A toxic family and sibling relationship will put a strain on your relationships within the family dynamic and can lead to years of complx PTSD if thhe relationship entails abuse.

In this video, I discuss the psychology of dark triad siblings and their mode of operation.
https://youtu.be/QR5EDb-nEh0?si=o9VCxcaWi2uRlbGK

Sibling dynamics can be complicated, especially in a toxic family dynamic. Healthy behaviors are not discussed or reinforced. The toxic sibling relationship ...

09/27/2025

Betrayal is not only a psychological process but also a physiological exprience, especially if betrayal is occuring in a toxic family dynamic.

Betrayal is often the result of a variety of factors but a common factor is moral disengagement.

A toxic family or a person may engage in moral disengagement when they completely leave their morals and ethics to do something that is unethical.

In this live chat, I discuss the psychology of the evil behaviors of family members who engage in betrayal.

Sometimes it is difficult to determine if you are being betrayed, especially when the betrayal is happening in your family. Toxic family dynamics are almost ...

09/25/2025

Sometimes family, especially toxic family, can make you feel like you are living a very psychologically and emotionally overwhelming trap.

Feeling trapped in a situation where you have no self-expression, no freedom from the enemy, and you feel misunderstood can lead to years of complex trauma and fear of abandonment.

In this video, I discuss the psychology of the toxic family dynamic that resembles the behaviors of a cult.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ODMsAkGM9c4

Sometimes family, especially toxic family, can make you feel like you are living a very psychologically and emotionally overwhelming trap. Feeling trapped in...

08/13/2025

Most stalking vitims never see the signs of stalking until it is too late. If the victim
is from a toxic family dynamic (or the stalker him/herself), seeing the signs can be very difficult.
Toxic family dynamics can set up victims to be stalking victims if emotional and psychological needs are unmet but met by the stalker.
Stalkers have a profile and a personality pathology that makes them complicated, hidden to wider society, and feared.
Paul Mullen, 1990, figured out that the stalker profile has 5 different types.
In this video, I discuss the psychology of the 5-6 types of stalker profiles.
https://youtu.be/XtjBW3378wg?si=d7xf8H9oxlfXi1_h

Most stalking vitims never see the signs of stalking until it is too late. If the victim is from a toxic family dynamic (or the stalker him/herself), seeing ...

03/16/2025

Toxic family dynamics is often at the core of the experience of those who are driven by drama.

Often, these individuals search for drama to get into for many reasons that are related to genes, biology, social environment, and social rewards.

In most cases, the drama-driven individual has observed similar behavior in someone close to them.

They are operating in a fashion they have observed, admired, and is now modeling.

And in some situations, these personality types may seek out disequalibrium becaue they have become accustomed to it throughout their lives.

In this live chat, I discuss the psychology of the chaos-driven person (in or outside of your family).

https://www.youtube.com/live/CvDEGKl1EPQ?si=XRzf6LL_wVsyMlmS

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People who love trouble, drama, and confusion are often driven by something on the inside. Toxic family dynamics is often at the core of their experience.Oth...

03/13/2025

Sometimes the experiences we have in relationships are not always genuine. They can be overwhelming, saddening, and simply quite deceptive. Self-Helpless Podcast

02/25/2025

Shame and guilt were once thought by the field of psychology to be the same concept in toxic family dynamics and other relationships.

However, pychology has now separated the two terms showing that shame is a complex psychological process.

It often entails - especially in a toxic family - betrayal, anger, hostility, poor communication, and trauma.

Living in a toxic family can result in years of shame, doubt, and guilt that are wrongfully placed upon you.

In this video, I discuss the psychology of toxic shame.
https://youtu.be/t6NgT76zw1g

Shame and guilt were once thought to be the same concept in toxic family dynamics and other relationships.But psychology has now separated the two terms show...

02/06/2025

Any time I mention "female stalkers" I get a look that says "really?" "in what way?"

The reality of our society is that we have been "trained" to believe that stalkers are dangerous adults who, on a typical day, would be identifiable because of how they behave.

But the truth of the matter is that a stalker can be anyone who has access to the Internet, is sneaky, and can play "normal" when needed.

An intimacy stalker can be as young as a 12 year old girl who is searching for the love and affection her mother couldn't give her.

A resentful stalker could be an adolescent boy who is angry that the girl he liked rejected him.

And the predatory stalker could be the ex-husband who lost his job and needs to feel empowered by some form of mastery and control in his life.

***Stalking involves a series of intrusive and coercive acts that can leave the victim feeling abused, assaulted, and manipulated.

Stalkers are sometimes born and sometimes made through toxic family dynamics.

In this video, I discuss the dark psychology of female stalkers.
https://youtu.be/7Kbzz67Iaig?si=1DT6mDTr8Xr6LWqh

No one likes the topic of stalking. Stalking involves a series of intrusive and coercive acts that can leave the victim feeling abused, assaulted, and manipu...

02/01/2025

No one wants to believe that a relationship is destructive and may end.

In a toxic family where there are no boundaries or respect, relationships can end abruptly.
They can also cause years and years of unnecessary and painful bonds.

Some decide to go no-contact in an attempt to escape the toxic family dynamic.

Other's do not have the ability to say goodbye and find a healthier way to live.

In this live chat, I discuss the psychology of destructive bonds.
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DISCUSSED IN THIS CHAT:
0:00 Intro
5:50 infancy and unhealthy bonds
9:20 intermittent maltreatment/abuse
12:49 POWER DIFFERENTIAL (i.e., parents, therapists, professionals, etc)
16:46 traumatic bonding (intermittent reinforcement, punishment)
37:46 COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS
41:39 COMMON BEHAVIORS IN NEGATIVE BONDS
1:01:40 no contact consequences
HOW THIS IMPACTS YOU

No one wants to believe that a relationship is destructive and may end. In a toxic family where there are no boundaries or respect, relationships can end abr...

01/31/2025

I recently had the wonderful privilage of seeing LaVerne Hanes Collins for this interview she invited me to.

I am often very proud of New Harbinger Publicationsfor bringing me aboard the publishing route with them and creating a project that, I hope, over time will become a history book for young people.

So I thank Dr. Collins for this podcast and I am glad to continue to share.

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Join Dr. LaVerne Collins and her special guest, Tamara Hill, author, professional counselor, and trauma expert, for an informative discussion on how counselo...

01/30/2025

Folie à deux (previously known as shared psychotic disorder) is a mental health condition that negatively impacts one person in a unit (i.e., a family, marriage, religious community, etc.).

If the relationship (especially in a toxic family dynamic) continues for a certain duration of time without intervention, the other person in the relationship can begin to adopt similar behaviors, thoughts, and emotions.

This confusing family and relationship dynamic can lead to years of toxic family communication.

In this video, I discuss the psychology of "shared psychosis."

Folie à deux (previously known as shared psychotic disorder) is a mental health condition that negatively impacts one person in a unit (i.e., a family, marri...