05/02/2022
You have kindly and clearly communicated your needs, your boundaries, your concerns and yet this person continues to break those boundaries, and may even gaslight you about what you have communicated.
It’s not you. It’s them.
Their behaviors make it clear that they do not intend to respect your boundary.
It is not always their responsibility to uphold your boundary, it is YOUR responsibility.
You have to determine how you will manage your interactions with this person.
‘How to Hug a Porcupine’ is a fantastic book on this topic exactly.
It can feel like if you just say the boundary differently, in a way they will hear, then they will respect the boundary.
It’s not you. It’s them.
Someone who continues to break your boundaries is showing you they do not respect your boundary.
It is YOUR responsibility to uphold YOUR boundary.
Go. Fight. Win.