Jonel Mizerak, LMFT in private practice

11/19/2025

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11/18/2025

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11/17/2025

We are living in a time where the most powerful drug available to us isn’t illegal, expensive, or difficult to access. It lives in our pockets. It vibrates every few minutes. It quietly trains our nervous system to depend on it.

Social media validation has become the new chemical high subtle enough to go unnoticed, potent enough to shape our behaviour. We post a picture, a thought, a piece of ourselves… then we wait. Not for connection, not for meaning, but for the tiny digital pellets of approval that tell us we exist, that we matter, that we are seen. A thumbs-up, a heart, a comment each one a micro-dose of dopamine that keeps us coming back for more.

Over time, people begin curating not their content, but their selves. Personalities become performances. Authenticity gets traded for applause. The question is no longer “What do I feel?” but “What will get engagement?” Slowly, quietly, we drift away from our own internal compass and start orbiting the expectations of strangers.

We increasingly live externally regulated lives. Our sense of worth becomes outsourced to algorithms designed to exploit our insecurities. We contort, exaggerate, soften, filter, and shrink ourselves to fit the mould that earns validation. The most vital relationship we have the one with our own truth slowly erodes.

Quite honestly, I don’t understand how we’ve ended up here. Starving for connection yet settling for attention. Longing to be witnessed yet accepting being merely watched. Mistaking reaction for relationship.

The more we chase external affirmation, the further we drift from the internal wholeness we’re seeking. The cure for loneliness is not more likes. The medicine for shame is not more followers. The antidote to emptiness is not found in a comment section.

Perhaps the bravest thing we can do today is reclaim our authenticity to show up as we are, not as we think the world wants us to be. Validation is addictive, but connection is healing. Healing can only happen in truth.

As you read this, have you had your hit today?

11/04/2025

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10/31/2025

We spend much of our lives trying to become who we think we should be, without realising how much of that self was shaped by what we needed to survive. The caretaker, the achiever, the one who never complains these are not who we truly are, but who we became to feel safe. Those patterns once protected us, yet in adulthood, they often keep us trapped in the same emotional cages we built as children.

Every unhealed wound from childhood waits patiently for recognition. Pain that is not faced does not vanish; it buries itself in our nervous system and whispers through our reactions. The same fear that once protected us from rejection becomes the wall that keeps love out. The anger that once defended our innocence becomes the shield that blocks intimacy. The child who learned to stay quiet still lives inside, waiting for permission to speak.

Those inner demons are not monsters to destroy. They are fragments of our own pain asking to be met with compassion. When we ignore them, they find their voice in our words, our choices, and our relationships. Without awareness, they shape how we love, how we parent, how we respond to vulnerability. The cycle continues, quietly, unconsciously.

Healing begins when we stop running from our own story. Meeting our pain with honesty allows us to become the adult our younger self needed. The more tenderness we bring to our inner wounds, the less power they hold.

Every generation faces a choice: to pass on its pain, or to transform it. Facing our darkness is not about perfection; it is about liberation. When we make peace with our inner demons, they no longer raise the world around us. They finally rest, and so do we.

True love for self and others is born from that awareness.

10/13/2025

10/11/2025

👻🎃 Some truths can haunt us, and some can heal us. Both can exist at the same time. When we learn to hold these truths, we can finally break free from cycles that no longer serve us. 💀✨

👉 Read more in Break The Cycle Of Generational Conflict here: https://reachoutrecovery.com/break-the-cycle/

10/11/2025

Steps to stop overthinking.

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10/03/2025

09/26/2025

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09/26/2025

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Discover how the Imago Couples Dialogue is a powerful mindfulness practice. Learn to use mirroring, validation, and empathy to improve communication.