Matthew Buryta, MSCP, LLMFT, CADC

07/07/2025

@carolinemiddelsdorf

06/23/2025

✨ Boundaries aren’t just about them… they’re about YOU.
What you allow is what will continue. 🌿

Sis, it’s time to honor your worth by setting and holding the boundaries that reflect the love and respect you give yourself. 💕

Remember: boundaries are not walls—they are bridges to healthier connections and deeper self-trust.

How are you showing up for YOU today? 💫

06/16/2025

💜 Fabulous parents we had! NOT.
WE deserve life…
WE are not a burden. WE do have a space in this world too.
WE belong, WE are worthy, WE are important and don’t ever forget. 💜

06/12/2025

That person who folded their dreams to fit in others’ shadows, who swallowed their truth to avoid ripples; they were a survival costume, not your essence. A mask worn to navigate wars you did not start, in a world that rewarded your silence and punished your spark.

Growth is not betrayal. It is the natural order of things, the caterpillar does not apologise for becoming a butterfly. The snake does not mourn its shed skin. The sapling does not beg forgiveness for splitting the pot that once contained it. So why should you linger in roles that demanded your silence, your smallness, your endless accommodation? You were not born to be digestible.

Narcissistic systems thrive on your compliance, your fear of “rocking the boat.” But your visibility is a revolution. Every time you choose authenticity over approval, every time you speak your mind without sanding down its edges, every time you take up space unapologetically, you dismantle their fragile control. Their discomfort is not your responsibility, it is proof you’re evolving beyond their grip.

Let them call you “selfish.” Let them squirm at your newfound boundaries, your refusal to shrink, your audacity to prioritise your peace. Your loyalty is no longer for sale to those who loved you only when you were convenient, when you were quiet, when you were less you.

This is your reclamation. Of the quirks you hid to avoid mockery. The passions you muted to seem “reasonable.” The voice you dulled to keep the peace. The days you dressed in their expectations like a straight jacket, smiling through the suffocation. You are not here to be palatable. You are here to be alive; fully, fiercely, unedited. To grow roots where you choose, to bloom in colours that startle, to let your presence be a declaration: ”I exist for myself first.”

Healing is not a solitary act. When you outgrow the cages they built, you hold the door open for others still trapped. You become living proof that survival is not the pinnacle, thriving is.

06/11/2025

EQ School

04/06/2025

Stuck is a word I hear a lot right now, and it makes sense;
that is exactly how it feels.

When it feels like “progress” slows to a halt and we’ve decided some stage of life we’re in has come to an end, or we finally see a pattern we’re ready to let go of, and we’re ready to jump into something new....it’s a very hard space to be in.
What is the next thing? What now?

It can be hard to know...but you don’t need to know yet. This place of sitting, waiting, processing, observing, feeling - it’s actually an incredibly important place to be.

Maybe you don’t really have enough of a pull in any specific direction yet, except away from the current situation.
Or we maybe you have taken the leaps & things just aren’t panning out the way you want them to.

That’s okay. It’s part of it.
A big, important part of it.

It’s something we don’t talk about often enough - the period of transition from one thing to the next, and the importance of being willing to sit in it before the next step becomes clear.

Seeing your patterns is a shift.
Pausing is an interruption of what was.

It takes time to end one relationship and be emotionally available and ready for the next.
And time to ground yourself & develop new skills before making a career switch.

None of that stuff happens overnight.
Even when it seems that way for some people, I guarantee there’s been a long and thoughtful process, with tiny tweaks and little steps leading up to the more visible moments of action.

You’re still moving even if it seems like you’re standing still.
Sitting with discomfort and allowing yourself to internally process change is important.
Stay present to the discomfort. Get familiar with the internal pangs and longing.
Let them guide you toward next steps.

You’re not stuck - you’re just in transition.
If if you allow yourself to be present to what is, this period will continue to evolve.

The Self Awareness Workshop begins April 22. We’ll work together to get more deeply in touch with our own patterns, bodies, and to develop greater self-compassion and resilience to help you walk toward your next step.
This is the only time I'll be running this workshop in 2025, and there are only two spots left!

https://theeqschool.co/self-awareness-sign-up

04/01/2025

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03/31/2025

@dr.kellyvincent

03/17/2025

IMPORTANT!!

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