02/02/2026
I heard this recently:
“Toxic family members rarely apologize. Rather they will carry their denial to the grave to avoid facing the damage they've caused. In their minds, the pain they created was somehow your fault.”
For many, I am sure this hits so deeply, because it brings a level of clarity to years of confusion, self-doubt, and silence. People wait decades for accountability, for remorse, for an apology, for one honest moment - but it never comes. Because acknowledging it would shatter the version of themselves they desperately protect.
Toxic people rewrite history to survive their own guilt. They minimize, deflect, deny, and blame, convincing themselves that you were too sensitive, too difficult, or somehow deserving of what you endured. And carrying that weight can break a person slowly, quietly.
Sometimes healing doesn’t look like closure. Sometimes it looks like grief. Grief for the parents, siblings, or relatives you deserved, but never had.
Sometimes healing means accepting the apology you’ll never get, and choosing to give yourself the validation, compassion, and protection they refused to offer. It means releasing the hope that one day they’ll finally understand and instead working to understand yourself.
When you are ready, let’s talk.
