11/24/2025
Let’s be honest, it’s never a good idea to comment on peoples bodies/what they eat- even if you mean it as a compliment. Let’s dive deeper into some of these phrases!
“I think you look fine.”: Eating disorders don’t have a specific body type, and you can’t tell by looking at someone whether they’re struggling or “fine.” Saying this can minimize what they’re experiencing and make them feel unseen.
“You should try this (diet or trend):” People with eating disorders often have a complicated relationship with food and restriction. Suggesting a diet can reinforce disordered behaviors or trigger feelings of guilt and comparison.
“That’s a lot of (or not enough) food on your plate”: Commenting on someone’s portion sizes draws attention to their eating habits, which can be extremely triggering. It can cause shame or anxiety and reinforce obsessive thoughts about food.
“You look healthy”: Although it might sound positive, this phrase can be misinterpreted. For someone recovering from an eating disorder, “healthy” might feel like “you’ve gained weight” or “you look different,” which can trigger distress or relapse thoughts.
“I wish I had your self-control”: This glorifies restriction or disordered eating behaviors, framing them as admirable. It reinforces the idea that not eating or rigid control is something to be proud of.
“Should you really be eating that?”: This kind of comment is shaming and invasive. It can create intense guilt or reinforce the idea that certain foods are “bad.” For someone in recovery, it can undo progress and heighten anxiety around meals.
