Treasured Memories Grief Care & Memorial Services

11/16/2025

Holidays.

Thanksgiving is around the corner but how can you be thankful when your spouse, your child, your parent, your grandparent, your sibling, or even a friend has passed into eternity and this is your first Thanksgiving without them here to laugh and eat with.

Do you often ask God "Why them and not me?"

How can you endure the hokiday season with happiness and love?

Come to Grief Care. We have a support group for the community every 1st and 3rd Sunday from 4-5pm at 701 W. Chestnut in Ponca City.
Tomorrow, Sunday November 16th is our free grief group. We will be talking about how we can face the future of holidays without our loved ones by our side.

We also provide individual and family grief counsel.

You are not alone! We will walk with you through this challenging and heartbreaking journey. Join us this weekend!!!

04/12/2025

The love between you and the one who died is a spiritual bond that death cannot sever.

What is most precious to us is not always what we can see, touch, or be near.

04/12/2025

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04/02/2025

04/02/2025

Learn from others who have experienced healing as they grieved their loved ones death.

Their survival story can give you encouragement and hope that you will survive these horrible, painful, dreadful, and inconvenient emotions as well.

We can comfort one another by sharing our stories. We don't like going through tragedies but God uses our tragedies for good so we can help others who are now going through what we already have.

Others have experienced tragedies so they can comfort you when your time of trials appears.

We learn who we are as we listen to our own grief.

03/19/2025

Grief is unique.

You may feel it's useless to talk about your grief because no one truly understands what you are going through.

You may feel like you're talking a foreign language because there's no way anybody can know what you're feeling.

Although numerous people have experienced grief before you, each person's response to grief is different.

Grief is not your enemy or a sign of weakness. It's a sign of being human and is the cost of loving someone.

Since grief comes to everyone, why do sone people seem to navigate it better than others?

A big reason is because they process their feelings and talk about their loss with others, especially others who are also in the middle of their grief journey.

Other people in support groups can give us tools to help us when we are home alone, at the store, or driving to work and we inconveniently experience a griefburst that leaves us mortified and utterly broken.

Healing cones when we push through the pain and talk about our loved one in a safe environment like support groups.

Lord God, teach me to embrace my grief and not fight it so that I may experience the true healing that cones only from You. Amen.

-"Through a season of grief"

03/17/2025

When friends try to comfort you and their words or clichés only deepen the hurt, forgive them for not understanding.

Later, when you comfort someone else, remember what not to say.

Tips on what to say....

1. I'm at Walmart getting groceries. Do you need milk, bread, etc and I can drop them off shortly? Don't worry about the cost because it's my gift to you.

2. A week after the funeral when everyone has gone back to their lives, take a casserole in a Pyrex dish to your friend. On the bottom or handles, place a mailing label sticker with your name on it. In another week, go back to get the Pyrex dish. This way, you get more chances of checking on and visiting with your friend.

3. Say your friends loved ones name often to acknowledge them.
Ask about memories of them.

4. Don't forget them on their "firsts" without loved one, especially if a spouse or child died.

5. Ask your friend to go with you to the gravesite. If they say they can't because it's too soon or they can't handle it yet, tell them they can stay in the car while you place flowers on grave. Maybe they'll change their mind.

02/19/2025

It's ok to be angry with God over your loss. You may feel cheated. You want justice.

Your loss is not God's punishment or God's testing of you. Know that God loves you and does not desire to see anyone die.

He wants to be in a relationship with us so He can share in your hurt and help you through your pain.

If we rely on Him, He will lead us to new hope and peace. It won't be easy. Nor will it be painless.

The original sin ushered in sin, pain, sickness, and death into all of humanity from then on.

Our only way of escape is to believe in Jesus and let Him be Lord over us. Then we can have assurance of eternal life after our earthly death.

Some people avoid talking about God in times of grief. They may be so angered and curse His name or even turn from their faith.

God can handle us being angry at Him. But He doesn't want us to turn from Him. In our most challenging times, God can be our only hope of serenity because this world hates to talk about death and process any negative feelings.

Today, give God your concerns. There are no coincidences. He places people in our lives that have compassion to help us muster through what seems impossible.

Don't give up. You're not alone.

01/04/2025

A new year. A new you without your loved one.

How do you go on?

1 breath at a time.
1 step at a time.
1 hour at a time.
1 day at a time.

Some days may feel too overwhelming to leave the house, or it may take all your strength to just get out of bed.

Give yourself time to grieve. Dont let others tell you when you should be through grieving.. that you should be moving on already.

Be gentle with yourself in this fragile state. Seek a grief support group and a grief specialist to walk with you through this heartbreaking journey.

12/11/2024

This holiday season may evoke strong emotions for those who are grieving.

Help your grieving friend this season by offering a safe place where they can open up and express their true feelings.

Say their loved ones name often so your friend knows their loved one has not been "erased or forgotten."

Ask what they need today. Like groceries, a meal, their favorite coffee or ice cream sundae, to go for a drive out to the lake or take a walk at the lake, or whatever you know would mean something to your friend.

It's not about you. Don't compare your grief. They are the one grieving. Just be there for them. Sit with them while watch a movie or TV show. Call them. Take a casserole in a dish you can go pick up in a week to check on them.

12/11/2024

Forgive yourself for being angry or disappointed with others, including the one who died and left you behind.

Forgive yourself for all the things you wish you had or hadn't done.