10/30/2025
Where my cool, calm, collected girls at…
the ones who never wanted to “make things weird.” Who walked on eggshells, read every room before they entered it, and made themselves small to keep the peace.
Girls who were praised for being “mature for their age” or “easy to be around” often become hypervigilant -constantly managing other people’s emotions, bc somewhere along the way, love started to feel conditional.
My friends would literally ask, “I can’t tell if you’re mad, happy, or sad.” I was once in the car with my then-bf’s sister and she had me practice yelling bc I didn’t know how lol.
But being calm doesn’t always mean being at peace. Sometimes it means you’ve been surviving quietly.
& one day, you’ll find it so healing when you finally say:
“hey, I think…”
“actually, I disagree.”
“that didn’t feel right to me.”
& realize IT WASN’T THE END OF THE WORLD.
To the girl who kept loving and showing up for people the way you hoped others would do for you:
Let this be the season you pour that same love back into yourself.
Let it be the season you stop chasing being understood and start embracing being at peace.
You don’t have to earn love by overgiving.
You don’t have to prove your worth through patience.
You don’t have to shrink to be chosen.
The right people will love you for you -not the filtered, careful, edited version, but the real, messy, brilliant, quirky version.
I hope you keep getting to know you.
& I hope you start falling in love with all the little quirks that make you, YOU.
The world doesn’t need another “perfect, obedient” girl. It needs you -honest, healing, and finally free.
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