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09/03/2025

Last evening, I had the pleasure to join the Grandparents Group to speak about the importance of therapy and caring for our mental health following loss. It was truly an honor to be invited to speak with the group and share my experience as both a loss Mom and a licensed clinical social worker.

I left last evening feeling uplifted by the level of care and thoughtfulness that these grandmothers put into remembering their grandbabies and also into their interactions and the ways they support their children. All losses come with their own complexities, but hearing these ladies share about the struggle of grieving the loss of their grandbaby while also being devastated for and trying to support their child reminded me of the often unseen and unrecognized struggles of grief.

As a loss Mom, I was touched by their efforts, their thoughtful questions, and genuine desire to do the best they can to support their children. It was a quiet reminder that there are people in this world who want to help and support us, if only we take the time to listen and guide them as to how we wish to be supported.

The Grandparents Group meets at the greenhouse in Patchogue on the 1st Tuesday of each month. Grandmothers and grandfathers who have experienced a loss are welcome to join at any time to remember their grandbabies gone too soon and provide support to one another.

Thank you to and for the always present support and providing the most beautiful garden for a support group that I have ever seen.

07/10/2025

July is Bereaved Parents Month
Check on the bereaved parents in your life and remind them that they and their child matter.
Please keep the families and victims of the Kerr County, Texas floods in your thoughts as they navigate the loss of so many children in that area.

Our hearts are with Texas flood victims and their families. Trigger Warning: Child Loss, Traumatic Child Loss, Natural Disaster   July is Bereaved Parents Month. Originally, I was planning to write about the weight of this month for me personally and why I think it is important we ackno

05/04/2025

Today is Bereaved Mother’s Day - a day you wish you never needed. Read more to learn about Bereaved Mother’s Day and ways you can support the Loss Moms in your life.

Sending love and support to all Loss Mamas today and always.

Today is Bereaved Mother’s Day - a day you wish you never needed. Read more to learn about Bereaved Mother’s Day and ways you can support the Loss Moms in your life.

11/02/2023

Halloween is the beginning of the holiday season…and also the beginning of the string of reminders that our kiddos are gone too soon.

10/01/2023

October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. One in four women experience pregnancy and/or infant loss during their lifetime.

09/23/2023

Finding a sign or symbol for your loss can be a helpful tool to promote healing, help up feel connected to the person we lost, and provide comfort. It is the little reminder that your loved one mattered and is still with you each day. I love hearing about other peoples' symbols or signs for their loved one and ways in which those symbols and signs help keep their memories alive.

Read on to learn about how seagulls became my symbol and a source of healing.


www.findyouranchorli.com/blog/signs-symbols-seagulls

09/06/2023

Back to School can be an exciting time for parents and children alike. For parents who have lost a child or children, it can also be extremely bittersweet.

Today is our daughter's first day of school. So much preparation goes into the first day of school, especially for kiddos heading off to kindergarten. I have spent the past week making sure supplies were dropped off, labeling lunch boxes and water bottles, doing laundry, and checking (and double che

01/17/2023

A new resource guide for those coping with the loss of a baby, infant, or child is in the works. What are some resources, recommendations, or important things you would share with someone who has recently lost a child? What was most helpful for you?

01/01/2023

Wishing you all a happy and healthy new year. Let's start the year on a positive note and look at how we can build on our strengths to achieve our goals.

How often do we hear “new year, new you” or have someone ask “what is our resolution”? What if instead of looking at what is “wrong” and trying to fix it, we looked at what we are doing right and tried to expand on it.

12/19/2022

When those we love let us down while we are grieving, it can feel like salt in an open wound. How can we cope with the secondary loss of support? By putting our feelings and mental well-being first.

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12/16/2022

If you have someone who has experienced loss coming to your holiday celebration - Please don't make their loss the elephant in the room.

Talk to them - say their loved one's name...
I promise you it will not make them sadder... it may even make them happy that someone else remembers and cares about their person.

Remember those of us who have experienced a significant loss think of that person everyday... knowing someone else does make the grief a bit less lonely. Wishing you all a gentle holiday season.

12/14/2022

The holidays can be such a dark time for families who have lost a child. DTTB Angel Baby Corp. works to bring light to that darkness each year at their annual vigil celebrating the lives of many babies and children gone too soon. Here is a bit about my experience returning for my 2nd vigil.

Following baby loss, infant loss, or child loss, the days can be very dark. DTTB Angel Baby Corp. brings light to those dark days and brings hope to all those coping with a loss.