05/01/2026
Here are some thoughtful tips from Julia Chapman on setting boundaries:
Boundaries help us name what is okay and not okay in our relationships. They are not about pushing people away or trying to control others. They are about being honest, clear, and responsible for how we care for ourselves.
A helpful boundary might include:
How you feel
How you experience the other person’s behavior
What you would like moving forward
A reminder that you cannot control their actions
What you will do to take care of yourself if the behavior continues
Boundaries can feel uncomfortable at first, especially if you are used to avoiding conflict or putting others’ needs ahead of your own. But clear boundaries can help prevent resentment, protect your peace, and create healthier, more honest relationships.
Sometimes it helps to write out what you want to say before having the conversation. Giving yourself time to find the right words can make the boundary feel more grounded and easier to follow through on.
To work with Julia Chapman, visit juliachapmanpsychotherapy.com.