 
                                                                                                    10/28/2025
                                            Youâre not sabotaging yourself. Youâre protecting yourself.
What looks like procrastination, avoidance, or inconsistency is usually your nervous system saying, âWeâve been hurt here before.â Thatâs not failure. Thatâs memory.
People call it âself-sabotageâ because they donât understand how the unconscious works. You canât force your system to chase a future it still associates with danger.
The same pattern that once kept you alive now keeps you from taking risks. The same walls that block love were built when love meant pain. What you call resistance might actually be loyaltyâto an old identity that swore never to get hurt again.
So you punish yourself. You label it laziness or fear of success. You double down on strategy, affirmations, and discipline. But you canât out-plan a survival response.
You donât need more willpower. You need to stop mistaking self-protection for weakness and start giving those defenses a new job.
The work isnât about fixing the pattern. Itâs about retraining it.                                        
 
                                                                                                     
                                                                                                     
                                                                                                     
                                                                                                     
                                                                                                     
                                                                                                     
                                                                                                     
                                                                                                     
                                                                                                     
                                                                                                     
                                                                                                     
                                         
   
   
   
   
     
   
   
  