01/26/2021
S E T H E A L T H Y B O U N D A R I E S
Since the new year began this has been a theme I’ve been working on. Here are some helpful tips I’m saving for my own reference...
➡️ Know your limits - Know what is acceptable for you and what isn’t - be specific
➡️ Know your values - Know what is important to you and protect it. It might be helpful to rank your values, some areas to consider: family, health, work, career, education, religious/spiritual beliefs, friendships, exercise, recreation, rest, social media/screen time, personal space/time etc.
➡️ Listen to your emotions - Notice any uncomfortable feelings, these may be an early sign of a boundary being crossed and in need of being addressed
➡️ Have self respect - Your needs are just as important as others. Having lax or too many open boundaries can lead to feelings of burn out, anger, resentment and/or chronic fatigue and stress
➡️ Have respect for others - Healthy boundaries also include our relationships with others. Be considerate of others boundaries as well and cautious of overstepping their limits with our requests
➡️ Be resolute - When you notice a boundary of yours has been crossed practice holding it by saying “no” respectfully and without ambiguity
➡️ Consider the big picture - Everyone will have times when they take more than they give or give more than they take. Grant yourself kindness and consider the long term effect or big picture when critiquing yourself