The Queer Counseling Intern

26/03/2022

Guess what’s coming in May!! Join the awesome Dr. Josh Corn and I for a 3 hour seminar on creating a weight inclusive natural medicine practice. AND I am super excited to announce that Dr. Shereen Spriggs will be joining us!!! I’ll add a link to sign up in my bio as soon as I figure that out. 😂. You can also just go to my website and click on the shop page. We plan to have closed captioning for this. It is intended for natural medicine providers. Feel free to tag someone you think might enjoy or need this. Feel free to share with your provider if you think this would be useful. [Image: pink and blue shapes on a white background with blue text. “Creating a Weight Inclusive Natural Medicine Practice. Saturday, May 21st. 10-1 AM PST. $75 CE pending for NDs and LAcs. $50 non-credit. Drs Josh Corn and Shereen Spriggs with Maria Hicks LAc]

11/03/2022

11/03/2022

Six months ago, Dr. Lindo Bacon reached out to the ASDAH Leadership Team about their intent to write a revised Health at Every Size® Book. What transpired has caused a great deal of harm and a heavy burden of emotional labor for our team.

While we have grappled with the specifics of how to respond over the last few months, Marquisele Mercedes’ recent account of her experience with Lindo illuminated that Lindo’s harmful actions were a pattern in the greater community. This knowledge has catalyzed our response. We are in solidarity with Marquisele and others who have experienced harm caused by Lindo.

We want to provide transparency about the conversations and context around our decisions as the ASDAH Leadership Team.

We've posted a full account of the events on the ASDAH blog.

asdah.org/blog/lindo-accountability

09/03/2022

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09/03/2022

Official Post from Marquisele Mercedes

05/03/2022

The clothing industry still has a long way to go when it comes to size inclusivity, but several brands stand out with a solid range. Check out 20 size-inclusive brands we love ahead.

02/03/2022

self-diagnosis doesn't have to be the first step to a professional diagnosis, self-diagnosis can also be the final step.⁣
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please respect self-diagnosis even if someone doesn't have a goal of getting a professional diagnosis.⁣
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it isn't hard to respect someone and accomodate their differences without knowing if they're professionally diagnosed... it just comes down to respecting and accommodating someone REGARDLESS.⁣
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autistic people don't suddenly become autistic once a professional says so. ⁣
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ADHDers don't suddenly become ADHD once a professional says so. ⁣
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a person with psychosis doesn't suddenly start hearing voices once a professional confirms they are.⁣
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ps self-diagnosed folks aren't stealing your resources since a) here are barely any to begin with and b) even professionallly diagnosed folks barely get resources, so stop using that as an excuse to invalidate self-diagnosis.⁣
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25/02/2022

ID: as a mandated reporter and licensed mental health professional in Texas, I will not be complying with the governors orders. If you want my license you can come and take it. Via Ani Mirasol, Trauma Therapist

20/02/2022

Posted • “People will rail against adult domestic violence in one breath but then advocate for hitting children in the next. ⁣⁠
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Then they pretend like physical punishment doesn’t prime children to become future abusers and victims. It is the root. The foundation.⁣⁠
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They act as if a child’s first model of intimacy with parents who humiliated and hit and manipulated them in the name of “love” plays no part in how they reenact these dynamics in their future intimate relationships.⁣⁠
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What you do to a child you do to the future.⁣"⁠
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[ID: tweet from Mama Sel that says “I seen a video of a mom saying she doesn’t hit or yell at her children because she thinks about the future and if she hits and yells at her because she “loves her and wants to correct her behavior” then what will she tolerate from a partner? And THATS a fu***ng message.”]
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Share what you're doing for our future ancestors below! ❤️⁠
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08/02/2022

A reminder for those of you that need to hear this: medical trauma is real trauma 💜🏥

Whether that trauma is from procedures, tests or the poor treatment from doctors, your experience is valid

Being disbelieved by doctors when you're sick is extremely traumatic - knowing that you need help but not being listened to is awful

Being told that your trauma isn't real on top of that makes the whole thing even more hurtful

What you went through is valid and how it has impacted you is too. You deserved better. You deserve better now too 💕

[ID: An illustration of a stethoscope listening to a cartoon rainbow heart that's surrounded by multicoloured meds. In the bottom right corner is text that reads "medical trauma is real trauma". The word "real" is bold and rainbow and underlined.]

24/01/2022

We're continuing the conversation about Health and it's role in liberation for folks of all size, all races, all genders, and all dis/abilities. We're thrilled to have the brilliant thought leader, Hunter Shackelford (), to talk about abolition of Health and Health Systems as a path to intersectional fat liberation. Register at: http://ow.ly/gGyO50HwhJK

20/01/2022

Eating disorders are complex bio-psycho-social conditions that develop to help the person cope and survive in a body oppressive world.
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There are so many myths and misconceptions about eating disorders.
It is an understatement to say we have a long way to go to change the conversation and increase treatment efficacy-- We recommend checking out FEDUP - Fighting Eating Disorders in Underrepresented Populations's 2022 Eating Disorder Treatment Scorecard which explores questions around trans affirming training (and if it’s provided by a trans person), HAES approach, neutral bathrooms, rooming policies, accessibility, staff diversity, and whether programs take public insurance or offers scholarships, including additional information and red flags >> https://bit.ly/3KmGJUV

There is power in naming our own body story.
When we name our body story, we allow our narrative to shift from "What the hell is wrong with me?" to "This is what happened to me and I am whole."
We develop some reverence for our body—the keeper of our story—the one that has shown up for us, day after day, despite the pain and messiness of real life.
‍We see how resilient we are, and how our coping is rooted in wisdom.
We start to see value where it hasn’t been named before.
And the opportunity for healing begins.
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Trust your process. Your coping is rooted in wisdom.
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Thick white clouds surround a black space with text that reads: Body Trust Tuesday - All coping is rooted in wisdom.

19/01/2022

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Of course this isn’t medical advice and please listen to your treatment team. But it is SO common to experience gastroparesis in recovery and it usually resolves with enough and regular eating. Read more about what exactly gastroparesis is and ways to manage the discomfort here: https://www.verywellmind.com/gastroparesis-and-eating-disorders-5210431

[image description: tweet that says “If you’re feeling early satiety/bloated/nauseous in eating disorder recovery, you may be tempted to undergo intensive testing to find out what’s wrong. But gastroparesis is extremely common in early stages of recovery & the only way through is by EATING even when it feels wrong.”]

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08/01/2022

“Given that we have no evidence-based means of achieving sustainable weight loss for the vast majority of people, we also need to ask ourselves, why do we continue to use weight loss as a measure of psychological healing? Aubrey Gordon, author of What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat, writes, “Whatever we want to think about ourselves, we’ve got to make the shift from thinking of anti-fat bias as something we decide to do out of animus to something that exists within us unless and until we uproot it.”

When therapists assume that higher-weight individuals have a traumatic past, it adds another layer to the fat-shaming they’re already likely enduring.

02/01/2022

REPOST: tweet & caption by Lilly Rose, a.k.a. Thefatposipunk ❤️
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via Thefatposipunk: And with food, and with the people who were cruel to them. Creating thin adults shouldn't even be something seen as a universal goal anyways.
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A screenshot of a tweet by TheFatPosiPunk that reads: Fat shaming children does not create thin adults. It creates adults who have a really messed-up relationship with their bodies.

24/12/2021

I recently talked about ADHD masking and one of the ways we mask is by forcing eye contact - a lot of you thought this was an autistic only thing so I wanted to share what I found out otherwise!⁣
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If you’re an ADHDer, you might also struggle with eye contact and here’s why:⁣
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• listening while making eye contact is difficult.⁣
• making eye contact disrupts your train of thought or your memory.⁣
• you get distracted or overwhelmed.⁣
• you need to look away to concentrate/focus.⁣
• looking away helps you process your thoughts into speech.⁣
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While there is minimal (if any) research on the direct link between ADHD and eye contact, here’s what I’ve found:⁣
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Eye contact shares cognitive resources with other things like visual working memory and verbal processing.⁣
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This means multitasking like looking and⁣
listening requires more effort and it’s often why you might look away when answering a difficult question or sharing a story.⁣
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Averting your gaze has also been found to help people disengage from stimulation in order to allow for more efficient processing and prevent from being overloaded with information.⁣
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Are you an ADHDer who struggles with eye contact? Share your experiences below!⁣
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Wang, J., & Apperly, I. (2017). Just one look: Direct gaze briefly disrupts visual working memory. ⁣
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Kajimura, S., &Nomura, M. (2016). When we cannot speak: Eye contact disrupts resources available to cognitive control processes during verb generation.⁣
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Glenberg, A., et al. (1998). Averting the gaze disengages the environment and facilitates remembering. ⁣

31/10/2021

Despite popular belief, sugar is not addictive.
Candy is part of the world, and candy will be in your child’s life one day, with or without your approval.
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Without your approval, they will likely resort to sneaking and hiding sweets, and experience so much shame around eating them.
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With your approval, they can learn to have a healthy relationship with candy, where it is just one of the many delightful things to enjoy in this life.
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Candy presents a learning opportunity.
Work toward having your child be able to manage their own stash.
For them to learn, you will have to keep your interference to a minimum.
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At the end of the day, this has become a place for parents to manage their anxiety about the uncertainty of it ALL.
When the candy experience is embraced, the kids enjoy it while it also becomes a potluck for the stuffed animals, freight for the trucks, gifts to the adults in their lives, and then it is slowly forgotten about over time.
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To do this, adults are the ones that must claim their own food anxieties, fear, and shame so that they can get out of the way and raise children to have relationships with food that aren’t rooted in fear or deprivation or the need to be right about it all.
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Help your children become competent eaters in this food- and fat-phobic world!
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Read more on our blog "Let's Talk About Halloween Candy..." >> https://bit.ly/3GK5U23
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text reads: Candy is part of the world, and will be in your child’s life one day, with or without your approval.
With your approval, they can learn that candy is just one of the many delightful things to enjoy in this life.
Help your children become competent eaters in this food & fat-phobic world.

09/10/2021

“International Le***an Day celebrates le***an culture, community and visibility.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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